JULY 2002
Jameson Currier
“I’m not convinced two men can have an honest relationship,” I said. I had not said anything at all during dinner, remaining quiet and listening to the mix of political and sexual banter bounce between the other guests and our hosts, as Eric delivered one elaborately prepared dish after another to the table. My neighbors Eric and his lover Sean, a gay couple in their midfifties, threw little soirees biweekly in their Chelsea apartment for a combination of their single and coupled gay friends, in order to be matchmakers or therapists as the necessity of their friendships required. I was twenty-four that summer and staying in my older brother’s apartment down the hall; it was often impossible to escape Eric’s attentions as I came and went from the building, and I once amusingly accused him of installing a spy cam because he was so knowledgeable of my comings and goings—or lack thereof—particularly my desire for hibernating for long stretches on the sofa watching movie after movie, the titles of which he also seemed to know.
But it was my comment on the inadequacies of gay relationships that immediately stirred up my host that evening.
“Of course they can!” Eric answered me. “You’ve just had a bad experience.” And then to his other guests: “Teddy is just talking nonsense. He’s too young to really believe that.”
“Think about it,” I continued. “Two men. In a relationship. How much truth can there be?”
“As much as you can accept,” Eric answered. “Not every relationship is the same. And sometimes just because a man has secrets, doesn’t mean that he is not an honest man and truthful to his partner. Sometimes it’s a matter of compromise, not truth.”
“Maybe you just haven’t met the right man,” Sam said to me. Sam was a friend of a friend of Eric’s. He worked in a foreign service program and had returned to the States and New York because of “family business,” which none of us had asked him to elaborate on, respectfully considering it another off limit issue that evening. “Family business” could mean either a parent’s illness or a sibling’s marriage or divorce. Or it could be a deeper secret, a way to disguise one’s own truth. Perhaps Sam had been in some kind of legal or financial trouble. Perhaps he was bisexual and married and had a child—or had fathered an illegitimate one. It was a mystery Sam was not ready to explain or reveal to anyone that evening.
But I was grateful that I didn’t have to elaborate any further on my own disastrous personal experiences, and that the others around the dining table were now drawn into the conversation.
“Or perhaps you’re too focused on sex being an equivalent of love,” Sean said to me, jokingly. Sean was a psychiatrist, so everyone always gave his words more weight than those of his stockier partner, though Eric, a respected commercial photographer, relished being the foolish and more socially frivolous of the two. “I certainly had that problem when I was your age,” Sean added. “Of course, I’m wiser now because my sex drive is not what it once was. But I don’t think that sex should be the sole basis of a long-term relationship with another man. Too much disappointment.”
“Are you saying I’m not sexy?” Eric whined across the table. “Or lousy in bed?”
This was followed by nervous laughter from everyone.
“Of course, as Eric said, every relationship is distinct,” Sean added.
I was glad that the topic soon shifted back to Sam, who until recently had worked in Afghanistan, and as dinner progressed from drinks to salad to entrees to dessert, the tale of Sam’s work in a clinic in the Bamiyan province unraveled as he recounted his experience aiding a television journalist who had been injured in an accident. The journalist was a mutual friend with Eric and Sean. And in the odd set of connections and circumstances of those at dinner that evening, the journalist who Sam had helped had once lived in my brother’s apartment, before my brother had assumed the lease. Eric was particularly proud that he was able to join together all the pieces of this puzzle over a three-course meal.
I was tired that evening and after a rich and heavy dessert of Dutch apple pie and ice cream, I excused myself from the party and the other guests and went back to my apartment. I had found it increasingly difficult to be social with other guys, which Eric had noted, of course, and which had been the catalyst for the dinner invitation. That week I was also watching another neighbor’s dog, Joe’s black cocker spaniel named Inky, while Joe was away in Los Angeles. Inky was a beautiful dog, a princess who padded about softly and tossed her curly head and floppy ears at me; one of her unacknowledged blessings was that she pulled me in and out of the apartment so that I did not completely lose contact with the outside world. I was greeted with a whoosh of affection as I stepped through the apartment door, tiny paws landing just below the faded white of the knees of my jeans. I snapped on her leash and we went to the end of the hallway to wait for the building’s sluggishly slow-arriving elevator.
As it finally arrived, Sam was leaving Eric and Sean’s apartment, and I held the elevator door open while he said good-bye to the two men with handshakes and kissed cheeks. He joined me for the ride to the ground floor and Inky’s brisk sprint through the lobby to the sidewalk.
I liked Sam. Unlike our hosts, who were forever filling empty spaces with nonsensical chatter and opinions, he was not much of a talker. He was a tall, handsome, masculine man, a guy’s guy who always seemed to be well put together and admired, about three or four years older than I was, so I felt a more generational bonding with him than I had shared with our older hosts, who had, in the eleven months that I had lived in my brother’s apartment, tried to step into the roles of mentor, parent or guide for me. There was also a quiet modesty to Sam, as evinced by the personal story he would not disclose at dinner—he had been as vague in many of his statements as I was that evening about my ruinous love life—and there had been no ounce of bravado when he had recounted his assistance of Eric’s friend in Afghanistan. I admired the fact that he had boldly stepped into foreign service after graduating college, something I had not been able to do myself, and I envied him for having already amassed a handful of anecdotal adventures that he could recount to strangers over a meal. But it had also made me feel rather inconsequential in the fabric of gay life and that perhaps I had been wasting my life in the city. In the elevator I was bashfully shy—or rudely disinterested in him—but Sam gruffly complimented Inky’s beauty and funneled me questions about her and her owner which kept both of us looking down at the curly black mop of her and not at each other.
It was a warm summer night in mid-July, and the day’s heat still seemed trapped close to the sidewalk. I broke into a light sweat as I moved away from the air-conditioning of the building and into the city air. We walked silently together to the end of the block and were about to shake hands as we reached Eighth Avenue where Sam would head toward the subway stop to begin his journey back to Long Island.
On the street, a bike messenger—an Asian guy about our age in a tank top and bright green cycling shorts—suddenly rode across a pothole he had not seen in his path. He went flying over the handlebars and landed on the street, unconscious. From the angle where we were standing we had both witnessed the accident. The messenger had not been wearing a helmet for protection. Sam touched me on the shoulder as the guy was rising up in the air, over the handlebars of the bike and onto the pavement, as if to keep me in place and out of harm, and once the fellow had landed on the ground, Sam rushed into the street to aid him.
“Do you have a cell phone?” There was blood on his shirt from where he had leaned into the Asian boy’s head to check his wound.
I did, but not with me. I stepped farther away from Sam and the accident and stopped another guy who was walking by and talking on a cell phone, and I tapped him on the shoulder and asked, “Could you call nine-one-one for us?”
He was a beefy sort of guy, wearing a formfitting T-shirt and carrying a shoulder bag, and I gathered he must have just been at one of the gyms that dotted the neighborhood. He nodded at me, hung up on his call, called the emergency line and explained to the operator where we were.
Before he had hung up, a police car arrived, followed by an ambulance, and soon the messenger was being lifted onto a stretcher.
I thanked the beefy guy, and he disappeared as Inky’s restlessness tugged me to one end of the block and back so she could sniff around and do her business.
When the ambulance and officers left and the street was cleared of gawkers, it was just Sam and myself and the dog. Sam’s clothes were soiled and his hands were caked with dried blood. The messenger would be all right—more blood and broken bones than serious internal damages, the medical workers seemed to think. His blackout had only been for a minute or so. But he was being taken to the hospital for stitches and further tests.
“You can’t get on the subway like that,” I said to Sam. “You can wash up and take one of my brother’s shirts.”
We walked back to the apartment building and self-consciously waited for the elevator. I tried to commend Sam on his quick actions, but it felt strained and awkward and I was tired and ready to be on my own for the night, and Inky was restlessly tugging at the leash because she knew she would soon get a treat when we were back in the apartment.
In the elevator I unhooked Inky’s leash and she leapt down the hall when we reached my floor. Inside the apartment, I pointed to the bathroom—the layout was not much different from Eric and Sean’s apartment—and went to give Inky a treat and then find a shirt for Sam to wear.
A few minutes later he emerged bare chested and asked if I had a plastic bag he could use to carry his soiled clothes back to Long Island. It was impossible not to take in his body’s military athleticism—thick, muscled shoulders and arms and a nicely developed chest covered with black hair curving into a thin, dark line that traveled down the middle of his solid stomach and widened again above his navel. I handed him the shirt I had found in my brother’s closet and went into the kitchen to find a bag.
Sam was in the living room wearing my brother’s shirt when I handed him the plastic bag and, as he stuffed the soiled clothes inside it, he asked, “Do you think they were trying to set us up?”
“I know for a fact that they were trying to set us up.”
He nodded and smiled and stepped a little closer to where I was standing.
“You’re a nice guy,” he complimented me. “It would be a shame to disappoint them.”
I smiled and bowed my head, accepting the approval, and he kissed me on my forehead.
He was a big guy and it was a brotherly gesture, but it made me feel vulnerable. I lifted my eyes up to him, which was when his kiss fell against my lips.
Slowly, clumsily, as if being awakened from a deep sleep, I put my arms around his waist. His hands slipped around me and settled at the belt loops of my jeans, where he hooked his fingers as I moved my hands beneath his shirt and around to his chest. I had wanted to kiss him since I had met him at Eric and Sean’s, and I held my lips open as he forcefully moved his tongue into my mouth, as if to prove that he had been interested in me, after all.
He tugged the bottom of my T-shirt and slid it up over my arms and tossed it behind him, and his hands moved to my waist as he pressed his mouth against the center of my chest. His lips rode up my neck, and I let him linger there till the pleasure was unbearable, and then I took the edges of his shirt and pulled them toward his head.
We stood bare chested now in front of each other, deep-tonguing and stroking each other’s bodies. I rubbed his nipple between my thumb and forefinger while he moved a hand to my crotch and grasped the erection beneath my jeans. Then he unzipped my fly, pressed his hand inside and clutched my cock through the fabric of my underwear.
My hands moved to unbutton the top of his khaki pants and as the zipper gave way his trousers fell off his hips and puddled at his knees. He was wearing a pair of light blue boxers, tented from the head of his cock, and I reached my hand to his thigh and slipped my fingers under the hem of his boxers until I found its wide, mushroom-shaped head. His cock was warm and hard, and I clutched it and gave a few strokes, then found his testicles and cupped and squeezed them.
He pulled away from me as if to find his balance and breath, and I took the opportunity to slip out of my jeans. He sat on the arm of the couch and undid the laces of his shoes and stepped out of his trousers. He had a nice smile and I leaned over him and kissed him, and we fondled each other for another few moments, then I drew him up by his arms and he followed me into the bedroom.
We were rougher now, stroking, kissing, tweaking, nibbling. In the darkness of the bedroom I could see his smile, and he made soft noises of astonishment as we twisted and rolled around. I expected him to withdraw from my rising intensity, but he accepted it and pushed it farther. I wanted him to love me because I found him, in spite of whatever secrets he might possess, a good, honest man—and to love him in a way that could transcend the need for sex but would also embrace its deepest desires. I thought that if I could prove to him that I was a good sexual partner then he would also see that I could be a good boyfriend or husband for him, a mistake I continually made with every man I found my way into a bedroom with.
He asked if I had lube and condoms, and I rolled away from him and found them in the drawer of the nightstand. I thought he wanted to fuck me, but it was the opposite. I took it slow, fingering him till he was ready to accept my cock. He gasped and his chest flushed as I entered him, and I pulled out until he hungrily urged me back. He wanted to hold my neck as I fucked him, and I obliged until I realized I could curve my spine and take his cock in my mouth as I remained inside him. I felt entirely innocent and genuine with him, as if this were the first time I had ever done this with a guy and we were to do this together the rest of our lives. He was full of puffs of astonishment, and I could feel the muscles of his stomach clenching and shifting and I kept at him, unrelenting.
He pushed my lips away as his orgasm arrived, and I withdrew from him and finished myself off. I left him and toweled myself off in the bathroom, regarding the satisfaction of my smile and the raw, red patches on my shoulders and neck where his jaw stubble had burned my skin. Back at the bed, Sam toweled himself off, and there followed a long period of lying together cuddling, holding each other, rubbing our hands and fingers along skin and hair. I mentally reprimanded myself for pushing myself so emotionally into the sex and for stepping into what I really knew was to be another one-night stand. I knew it wouldn’t go any farther with Sam than this pleasurable moment, and I felt the hurt and disappointment of it before he had even left the apartment.
“You must have been starved for affection there,” I said, as I lifted myself out of his embrace, referring to his time working in Afghanistan.
“No,” he answered. “Just the opposite. There was a local boy,” he said, then quickly clarified, “…young man. He was a handsome young man.”
He rolled over so that he looked out the window, away from me, and I followed him, wrapping my arms around his waist in an effort to keep us together. I could feel his voice vibrating through his skin and into my fingers as he talked. “It began innocently enough. Eye contact. Flirting. Holding hands.”
“Holding hands?” I said and lightly laughed.
“Casually,” he explained. “It’s a gesture of friendship between men. Muslim men are openly affectionate toward each other in a way that would be regarded as odd—or gay—here, and it’s easy to fall into their habits.”
“I was working at the clinic,” he said, after a pause, as if he had been reviewing a memory before he attempted to describe it. “Dispensing medicines at the makeshift pharmacy. Tending to walk-in emergencies. Trying to patch up all these problems with aspirin and Band-aids.”
Now he laughed as I had, lightly, then continued. “The young boy showed up one day looking for work. I shooed him away because there was nothing for him to do but get in the way, and there was nothing to pay him with. But he returned about an hour later. He was really looking for food, and I gave him some bread and a chocolate bar I had saved since I was in Kabul. He was ecstatic. He knew a little English. They all know a little English there.”
“Hello, Meesturh,” Sam mimicked the accent. “I lihcke you. You lihcke me?”
We both laughed at the imitation, and Sam continued. “Like I said, it started with flirting. He was always smiling at me and he had a terrific smile—dimples on his left cheek you just wanted to drop your tongue into. He was always happy to help me with whatever I was doing. He made me smile. I gave him food every day. Bread I had taken from the guesthouse where I was staying and taking my meals. I would be grumpy in the mornings until he showed up, ravenous, and I watched him eat. He was sleeping in the caves up on the cliffs.”
“The caves?”
“The grottoes on the hillside, carved by the Buddhist monks centuries ago. Where the ancient giant Buddhas had been. They were cold, nasty places, and I have no idea how he stayed warm at night, because it could get very cold. There were many families living in the caves, and I can only imagine that their body heat was what was warming them—when they had food to fill their stomachs. The boy had been separated from his parents at a refugee camp, and he was staying with his older sister’s family—her husband and a little baby girl. He wouldn’t eat all the food that I gave him. There was always something that he tucked away in his pocket that I knew he would give to one of them later. It was heartbreaking if you stopped to think of it, but there was so much to think about, that this was only one minor thing. Every day there was another casualty or a patient with a problem—an abscessed tooth or a broken toe. Something. It was such a cold, harsh place. Beautiful. But hard.”
He continued. “One night I was able to bring him to the guesthouse to dine. It was owned by a local Muslim man and his wife, and they had always objected to my suggestion of him eating with us, in spite of my offer to pay extra to have the boy there, then one night they changed their mind. He ate with us—the rest of the MSF staff in the clinic and a few of the Red Cross guys who were also in the house—and they all knew him and were glad to have him with us. He helped the owner carry out the dishes of food and clean up—we ate on the floor, sitting on pillows and using our hands most of the time. There were three or four of us staying in each of the rooms, and instead of having the boy walk back in the freezing dark to the cliffs I had him sleep beside me on the floor. It was a simple, polite gesture. I was just trying to be a good Samaritan, but I knew it would create trouble for me one day. He stayed with me every night after that. Each night he slept closer and closer until we were sleeping together. It was just so natural. One day I knew I was in love with him.”
“This was the fellow who drove the van?” I asked. “To the hospital. To Kabul?”
“Yes,” Sam said. His body was tense, frozen into thought.
“How old was he?”
“I don’t know.”
Then again, after a pause, he added, “It was part of why I left. He was too young. I wasn’t sure what I could give him. So I ran away.”
“You ran away?”
“I left him in Kabul. I told him that I had to return to America for a while, because of a family problem; that I would be back soon. He took it okay, because I convinced him that I was coming back. There was no family problem.”
“Are you going to go back?”
“I’ve gotten a new assignment. Working in Tunisia.”
He lay still for a while, breathing slowly in and out. Then we both rose and showered together, stroking each other to another orgasm beneath the warm flow of water.
Clean, exhausted and back in the bed, I drifted off to sleep in his embrace. I sensed him stir hours later, rise out of bed and begin to get dressed. The activity aroused Inky in the other room, and I groggily stayed awake until Sam was dressed and at the door.
“Good-bye and thanks,” he said, as he left. “I hope you find him.”
I nodded and closed the door, petting Inky and groping my way through the darkness of the apartment and back to sleep. I was by then too tired to miss him, but I knew I would in the days that followed.