“We tend to relentlessly define people by the worst mistake they ever made.”

—JON RONSON

“That is not what I meant at all;

That is not it, at all.”

—from “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock,” by T. S. ELIOT

“But what one ‘means’ is neither important nor relevant.”

—from Between the World and Me, by TA-NEHISI COATES