Although many women are tempted to believe that it is fine to text with men and that there is no need to follow The Rules, the truth is that men are aggressors by nature. They revel in a thrilling pursuit. Texting with them sets a bad precedent for your relationship by allowing them to make casual, noncommittal contact with you that demands very little. If he doesn’t have to do much to get your attention, he won’t be forced to spend much time thinking about you or planning to seduce you. The harder he works to win you over, the more he will eagerly anticipate—and fully appreciate!—his time with you.
Letting him pursue you encourages him to commit more. You won’t have to wonder whether he’s really into you, or whether he would have asked you out of his own volition if you’d waited for him to text or call you first. Many women have made the first contact only to hear him say, “Oh! I was just about to call you.” They then want to kick themselves for jumping the gun and missing the sweet pleasure of being pursued.
If you just can’t help yourself and you absolutely must text, you’ll do yourself a favor if you use the Less Is Definitely More guidelines in this book. Whether you’re a die-hard Rules girl or a Rules girl in training, you’ll be two steps ahead of your man. Good luck!