About Selective Mutism (SM)

Leo has a condition called Selective Mutism or SM, but what does that mean exactly and how can you help?

 

SM is a disability but not one that is immediately obvious. It’s a kind of phobia, but instead of being frightened of heights or tight spaces, children with SM are scared to talk.

 

Children with SM are physically capable of talking and they want to but in certain situations they can find it impossible. They may use other ways to communicate such as nodding or shaking their heads, pointing, or writing things down. Most children with SM are able to talk when they are in familiar, safe places and with the people who know them best. Other environments, such as school, are often too difficult and frightening for children with SM to be able to talk.

 

If you know someone with SM, or there is a quiet child in your school there are a few things to remember and ways that you can help to make them feel more confident.

• Don’t try to get them to speak or ask them direct questions. This can make them feel extremely anxious and will make the situation worse.
• Remember that pairs or small groups, especially with close friends is a much more comfortable way of working and playing.
• Include them, don’t ignore them. Children with SM want to join in, so make sure you don’t leave them until last if you’re picking teams. Invite them to sit with you and include them in what you’re doing.
• Don’t mimic or laugh at them. This is extremely hurtful and unkind.
• If and when they do speak, do what Richa did and don’t make it into a big deal. The more relaxed and safe they feel with you, the more likely it is that they will talk.
• Be patient.
• Be kind.

This information was taken from the SMiRA leaflet for primary schools: What Is SM? If you’re affected by SM or want to know more about the condition please visit: www.selectivemutism.org.uk