You’re really being rude to me.Your objective with unfriendly employees isn’t to become bosom buddies, although that’s always nice. Instead, you need to create a synergy so that you can work together—as professionals. Think your coworkers don’t like you for a personal reason? The way you laugh? Your hairstyle? Or is it that you’re outgoing and they’re not? Be courteous and move on. But if you think you’ve offended your coworkers for some reason, find out why. Remember, make the discussion as objective as possible.
You’re really being rude to me.
I really hate how you’re treating me.
I used to think you were okay, but now I just think you’re nasty.
Do you dislike me for some reason? If so, you should tell me what it is.
Do you have a problem with me?
What’s going on with you? You’re like a cold fish these days, and it kind of stinks.
I hope I haven’t done anything to offend you.
Would you like to discuss any issues with me?
Did something happen that I don’t know about?
Have I said something you think is inappropriate?
Is there anything I’ve done to obstruct this project? If so, I’d like to know what it is.
If you have an issue with me, let me know. Otherwise, I expect that you’ll treat me with respect.
I don’t respond to that kind of language. Let me know when you’re ready to talk.
I think we need to discuss this project, but only in civil terms.
If you want me to engage in this discussion, you must treat me respectfully.
I assume you have something useful to say, but it’s impossible for me to hear when you speak that way.
We need to talk in a professional manner.
Quick tip: Think a coworker is abusive? Then document your interactions and write down anyone who witnessed them. And contact your HR department immediately.