Recommended Reading List

Please go to Resources We Love for recommended books, websites, and other media with cross-references. Many of these titles are available in audio book format.

Also note that Carol’s website has a bibliography of books and materials in which her work appears http://www.carolqueen.com/pages/bibliography.htm

Here’s our starter list of recommendations and references.

GENERAL

Come As You Are: The Surprising Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, PhD

Sex For The Clueless by Marcy Sheiner

Sex Made Easy: Your Awkward Questions Answered for Better, Smarter, Safer Sex by Debby Herbenick, PhD

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex by Nina Hartley

Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World’s Great Sex Experts by Annie Sprinkle, PhD

Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide by Barbara Carrellas

Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex, and How to Get It by Marty Klein, PhD

Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You’d Love to Ask by Marty Klein, PhD

The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides

Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered by Ducky Doolittle

101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

EROTIC COMICS

Oh Joy, Sex Toy by Erika Moen and some other fabulous artists too

Smut Peddler by many more fabulous artists

The Best Erotic Comics Series Edited by Greta Christina

SEX TOYS

Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators by Joani Blank and Ann Whidden

The Big Book of Sex Toys: From Vibrators and Dildos to Swings and Slings—Playful and Kinky Bedside Accessories That Make Your Sex Life Amazing by Tristan Taormino

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys by Violet Blue

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex by Violet Blue

ORGASM

I Love Female Orgasm by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller

O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm by Jenny Block

The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation: The Best Positions and Latest Techniques for Creating Powerful, Long-Lasting, Full-Body Orgasms by Tristan Taormino

MASTURBATION

Sex for One by Betty Dodson, PhD

The Big Book of Masturbation by Martha Cornog

First Person Sexual: Women and Men Write About Self-Pleasuring by Joani Blank

I Am My Lover: Women Pleasure Themselves by Joani Blank

For Yourself by Lonnie Barbach

Becoming Orgasmic by Julia Heiman Ph.D. and Joseph LoPiccolo Ph.D.

Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation by Jamye Waxman

Tickle Your Fancy by Sadie Allison

FEMALE SEXUALITY & EMPOWERMENT

What You Really, Really Want by Jaclyn Friedman

Our Bodies, Ourselves by The Boston Women’s Health Book Collective, Judy Norsigian

Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction by Debby Herbenick, PhD

Woman On Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence by Amy Jo Goddard

The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love by Abiola Abrams

The Heart and Soul of Sex: Exploring the Sexual Mysteries by Gina Ogden, PhD

Playbook for Women about Sex by Joani Blank

Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know by Danielle Cavallucci and Yvonne K Fulbright

Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot: Not Your Mother’s Orgasm Book by Deborah Sundahl

Mind-Blowing Sex: A Woman’s Guide by Diana Cage

What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Desire by Daniel Bergner

CONSENT

Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti

MALE SEXUALITY

Cockfidence by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex by Michael Castleman

Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men by Jamie Goddard and Kurt Brungart

PARTNER SEX

Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex by Betty Dodson, PhD

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

The Great Sex Weekend: A 48-hour Guide to Rekindling Sparks for Bold, Busy, or Bored Lovers by Pepper Schwartz, PhD and Janet Lever, PhD

For Each Other by Lonnie Barbach

Seal It with a Kiss: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Delivering the Knockout Kiss and Kissing: A Field Guide by Violet Blue

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue

PARTNERING

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Love That Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy by Wendy Strgar

Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

POSITIONS

Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way by Nerve.com

Lesbian Sex: 101 Lovemaking Positions by Jude Schell

Lesbian Sex Positions: 100 Passionate Positions from Intimate and Sensual to Wild and Naughty by Shanna Katz

Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight by Emily Morse & Jamye Waxman

The Anal Sex Position Guide: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Tristan Taormino

Ride ’em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison

Modern Kama Sutra by Kamini and Kirk Thomas

ANAL

Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin, PhD

Ultimate Guide To Prostate Pleasure For Men by Charlie Glickman, PhD and Aislinn Emirzian

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men by Bill Brent

Tickle My Tush by Sadie Allison

TANTRA & SPIRITUAL SEXUALITY

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex For The Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas

Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure by Barbara Carrellas

Essential Tantra by Kenneth Ray Stubbs

Radical Ecstasy by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Maneewan Chia

The Multi-Orgasmic Woman by Mantak Chia and Maneewan Chia

The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams

Miscellaneous Sacred

The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love by Abiola Abrams

Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths Of BDSM And Beyond by Lee Harrington

Sexy Witch by LaSara FireFox

Lesbian Tantra

The Lesbian Kama Sutra by Kat Harding

Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide for Lesbian, Bi, Hetero, and Solo Lovers by Christa Schulte

Gay Men Tantra

The Gay Kama Sutra by Colin Spencer

The Gay Man’s Kama Sutra by Terry Sanderson

BODY IMAGE, BIG LOVE

Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationship Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them) by Hanne Blank

Hot & Heavy: Fierce, Fat Girls on Life, Love & Fashion by Virgie Tovar

LESBIAN

The Lesbian Sex Book, 2nd Edition: A Guide for Women Who Love Women by Wendy Caster and Rachel Kramer Bussel

The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman

On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex Edited by Diana Cage

Lesbian Polyfidelity, by Celeste West

The Lesbian Love Companion: How to Survive Everything from Heartthrob to Heartbreak, by Marny Hall

Stone Butch Blues, by Leslie Feinberg

Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon

For Lesbian Erotica see Erotica

GENDER: Identity, Expression, Bodies & More

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie A. Brill and Rachel Pepper

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman

Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman by Leslie Feinberg

The Gender Book by Mel Reiff Hill and Jay Mays

Freeing Ourselves: A Guide to Health and Self Love for Brown Bois, by Brown Boi Project

Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, by Tristan Taormino

Boys Like Her: Transfictions, by Taste This & Kate Bornstein

Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love & Relationships Beyond the Gender Binary, by Morty Diamond

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves Edited by Laura Erickson-Schroth

Sex Changes: Transgender Politics by Patrick Califia

Whipping Girl by Julia Serano

Transgender History by Susan Stryker

My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity by Kate Bornstein

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

Female Masculinities by J. Halberstam

Drag: A History of Female Impersonation in the Performing Arts by Roger Baker

Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success: A Resource Guide for Boys Who Want to Be Girls by Veronica Vera

Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls by Veronica Vera

Mother Camp: Female Impersonators in America by Ester Newton

Vested Interests: Cross-dressing and Cultural Anxiety by Marjorie Garber

The Femme’s Guide to the Universe by Shar Rednour

Butch is a Noun, by S. Bear Bergman

SEXUAL ANATOMY

The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry

A New View of a Woman’s Body: A Fully Illustrated Guide by The Federation of Feminist Women’s Health Centers

Read My Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva by Debby Herbenick, PhD

The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World At Your Fingertips by Rebecca Chalker, PhD

Femalia by Joani Blank

101 Vagina by Philip Werner

The V Book: A Doctor’s Guide to Complete Vulvovaginal Health by Elizabeth G. Stewart, MD and ‎Paula Spencer

AGING & SEXY SENIORS

Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price

Better Than I Ever Expected by Joan Price

The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50 by Joan Price

Still Doing It: Men and Women Over Sixty Write About Their Sexuality by Joani Blank

Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause by The Boston Women’s Health Collective

The Wisdom of Menopause by Christiane Northrup, MD

VIRGINITY

Virginity: The Untouched History by Hanne Blank

Virgin Territory Edited by Shar Rednour

QUEER CULTURE

Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture and the Making of the Gay Male World 1890-1940 by George Chauncey

Out of the Past: Gay and Lesbian History from 1869 to Present by Neil Miller

Queers in History: The Comprehensive Encyclopedia of Historical Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals by Keith Stern

Homophobia: A History by Byrne Fone

That’s Revolting! Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity by Matt Bernstein Sycamore

Queer Images: A History of Gay and Lesbian Film in America by Harry M. Benshoff

Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold: The History of a Lesbian Community by Elizabeth Lapovsky Kennedy and Madeline D. Davis

Making Gay History: The Half Century Fight for Lesbian and Gay Equal Rights by Eric Marcus

The Celluloid Closet: Homosexuality in the Movies by Vito Russo

The Trouble with Normal: Sex, Politics, and the Ethics of Queer Life by Michael Warner

PomoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality Edited by Carol Queen, PhD and Lawrence Schimel

We Are Everywhere: A Historical Sourcebook of Gay and Lesbian Politics by Mark Blasius and Shane Phelan

Dagger: On Butch Women, by Lily Burana, Roxxie, & Linnea Due

Two-Spirit People: Native American Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Spirituality, edited by Sue-Ellen Jacobs, Wesley Thomas, & Sabine Lang

Skin: Talking About Sex, Class, & Literature, by Dorothy Allison

Persistance: All Ways Butch and Femme, edited by Ivan E. Coyote & Zena Sharman

For Queer Young People

GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens by Kelly Huegel

Coming Out in College: The Struggle for a Queer Identity by Robert Rhoads

Queer Families, Queer Politics by Mary Bernstein and Renate Reimann

Queer: The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke

ASEXUALITY

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker

BISEXUALITY

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out by Loraine Hutchins and Lani Ka’ahumanu

Closer to Home: Bisexuality and Feminism by Elizabeth Reba Weise

Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics by Jennifer Baumgardner

Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries, and Visions by Naomi Tucker

Bi America: Myths, Truths, And Struggles Of An Invisible Community by William Burleson

Current Research on Bisexuality by Ronald Fox

Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World edited by Robin Ochs and Sarah Rowley

Bisexuality and Transgenderism: InterSEXions of the Others edited by Nathan Alexander and Karen Yescavage

The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips, And Lists for Those Who Go Both Ways by Nicole Kristal and Mike Szymanski

Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond, PhD

Bisexual Women in the 21st Century by Dawn Atkins

PARENTING

For Parents
(for LGBTQQ and Queer Young People go to Queer Culture)

Talking to Your Kids About Sex: turning “the talk” into a conversation for life by Laura Berman

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals by Stephanie A. Brill and Rachel Pepper

Got Teens?: The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media and Other Adolescent Realities by Logan Levkoff, Ph.D. and Jennifer Wider, M.D.

7 Things Your Teen Will Never Tell You: And How to Talk About Them Anyway by Jenifer Marshall Lippincott and Robin M. Deutsch, M.D.

For Preschool and Young Children

A Kid’s First Book About Sex by Joani Blank

The Family Book by Todd Parr

10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert, Illustrations by Rex Ray

What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth

For Elementary School Age Children

It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley

Todd Parr’s books are perfect for ages 0 through 9 but even adults love them. He has so many amazing topics; here are some other favorites: It’s Okay to Be Different, The Feel Good Book and The I Love You Book.

For Teens/Young Adults

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives by Ruth Bell and other authors of Our Bodies, Ourselves

Mother/Daughter Sex Advice by Aretha Bright and Susie Bright

A Young Woman’s Survival Guide by Health Initiatives For Youth

S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide to Get You Through High School and College by Heather Corinna

Deal with It! A Whole New Approach to Your Body, Brain, and Life as a gURL by Esther Drill, Rebecca Odes, and Heather McDonald

MEMOIRS

Big Sex, Little Death: A Memoir by Susie Bright

My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir by Betty Dodson, PhD

An Intimate Life: Sex, Love and My Journey as a Surrogate Partner by Cheryl Cohen Greene with Lorna Garano

Annie Sprinkle: Post-Porn Modernist by Annie Sprinkle

Shameless: How I Ditched the Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure…and Somehow Got Home in Time to Cook Dinner by Pamela Madsen

Open: Love, Sex & Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block

Girlfag: A Life Told In Sex and Musicals by Janet W. Hardy

Hindsight: True Love & Mischief in the Golden Age of Porn by Howie Gordon a.k.a. Richard Pacheco

The Devil Made Made Me Do It by Georgina Spelvin

Revolution In The Garden: Memoirs of the Gardenkeeper by Dell Williams and Lynn Vannucci

9 1/2 Years Behind The Green Door, A Memoir: A Mitchell Brothers Stripper Remembers Her Lover Artie Mitchell, Hunter S. Thompson, and the Killing that Rocked San Francisco by Simone Corday

SEX & CULTURE

Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture by Carol Queen, PhD

Susie Bright’s Sexual Reality: A Virtual Sex Reader by Susie Bright

SexWise by Susie Bright

The Sexual State of the Union by Susie Bright

Mommy’s Little Girl: Susie Bright on Sex, Motherhood, Pornography, and Cherry Pie by Susie Bright

Full Exposure: Opening Up to Sex and Creativity by Susie Bright

Pleasure and Danger: Exploring Female Sexuality by Carole S. Vance

Deviations: A Gayle Rubin Reader by Gayle S. Rubin

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

CUNT: A Declaration of Independence by Inga Muscio

This Thing We Call Sex by David Steinberg

Gender and Sexuality for Beginners by Jaimee Garbacik

Hardcore from the Heart: The Pleasures, Profits and Politics of Sex in Performance by Annie Sprinkle

Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex by Pat Califia

America’s War on Sex: The Attack on Law, Lust and Liberty by Marty Klein, PhD

Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality by Hanne Blank

The Technology of Orgasm: “Hysteria,” the Vibrator, and Women’s Sexual Satisfaction by Rachel P. Maines

EROTICA

The Best American Erotica Series, edited by Susie Bright

Best Lesbian Erotica Series, edited by Tristan Taormino

Herotica: A Collection of Women’s Erotic Fiction, edited by Susie Bright (series with several volumes, Joani Blank and Marcy Sheiner additional editors)

5 Minute Erotica and More 5 Minute Erotica, edited by Carol Queen, PhD

Best Bisexual Erotica Volumes 1 and 2, edited by Carol Queen, PhD and Bill Brent

Sex Spoken Here: Stories from the Good Vibrations Erotic Reading Circle, edited by Carol Queen and Jack Davis

Sex Still Spoken Here, edited by Carol Queen, PhD, Jen Cross, and Amy Butcher

With a Rough Tongue: Femmes Write Porn, by Amber Dawn

The Harder She Comes: Butch Femme Erotica, by D. L. King

Trash: Short Stories by Dorothy Allison

Glamour Girls: Femme/Femme Erotica edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

In Her I Am, by Chrystos

FirePower, by Chrystos

Tales of the Dark Lord, by John Preston

Tales of the Dark Lord 2, by John Preston

Flesh and the Word, by John Preston

Flesh and the Word 2: An Anthology of Erotic Writing (Bk. 2), by Various & John Preston

Flesh and the Word 3: An Anthology of Erotic Writing (Bk. 3), by Various, John Preston, & Michael Lowenthal

Looking For It by Michael Thomas Ford

Last Summer by Michael Thomas Ford (the excellent Michael Ford has written books of various genres including gay romance and erotica, politics, young adult, dark comedy, even Jane Austin as a vampire!)

Leather Daddy and the Femme, by Carol Queen

Lucy and Mickey, by Red Jordan Arabateau

Macho Sluts, by Pat Califia

Doc and Fluff: The Dystopian Tale of a Girl and Her Biker, by Pat Califia

Leatherwomen 1, 2 & 3 by Laura Antoniou

Starf*cker by Shar Rednour

Black Silk: African-American Erotica, edited by Retha Powers

The Brown Sugar series, edited by Carol Taylor

Erotique Noir, edited by Miriam DeCosta Willis and Reginald Martin

Dark Eros: Black Erotic Writings, edited by Reginald Martin, PhD

Desilicious: South Asian Erotica, edited by the Masala Trois Collective

Caliente: Best Erotic Writing in Latin America, edited by JH Blair

Anything by ZANE

FEMINIST PORN

The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure, edited by Tristan Taormino, Celine Parreñas Shimizu, Constance Penley and Mireille Miller-Young

Good Porn: A Woman’s Guide by Erika Lust

New Views On Pornography: Sexuality, Politics, and the Law, edited by Lynn Comella and Shira Tarrant

Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment by Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals

How to Come Out Like a Porn Star Edited by Jiz Lee

Nothing But the Girl: The Blatant Lesbian Image: A Portfolio and Exploration of Lesbian Erotic Photography by Susie Bright and Jill Posener

ROLEPLAY & FANTASY

Exhibitionism for the Shy by Carol Queen PhD

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue

Shoot Your Own Adult Home Movies by Anna Span

POLYAMORY & OPEN RELATIONSHIPS

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

Love in Abundance by Kathy Labriola

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Sex From Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules by Sarah Mirk

More than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

Sex Parties 101 by Simon Sheppard

My Life On The Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory by Cooper S. Beckett

SM & FETISH

Coming to Power: Writing and Graphics on Lesbian S/M by Samois

Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice Edited by Mark Thompson

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame, and Jon Jacobs

Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Couples by Patrick Califia

The Bottoming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

The New Topping Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and Do It Safely by William Henkin and Sybil Holiday

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino

Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon

Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams

Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori

Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink: Educational, Sensual, And Entertaining Essays by Midori

The Toybag Guide to Foot and Shoe Worship by Midori

As Kinky As You Wanna Be: Your Guide to Safe, Sane and Smart BDSM by Shanna Germain

Hand In The Bush: The Fine Art Of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington

Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples by Violet Blue

Fetish by Petra Joy and David Bramwell

KINKY EROTICA

The Leather Daddy and The Femme by Carol Queen

Flesh & The Word: An Anthology of Erotic Writing by John D. Preston. John was a community organizer and a smart writer on many topics yet best known for gay male BDSM (we recommend anything by him)

Slaves of the Empire by Aaron Travis (many other gay male BDSM titles available on Kindle)

Slave Lover by Marco Vassi

Noirotica Seriesedited by Thomas Roche

The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou (this is a multi-book series)

Carrie’s Story and Safeword by Molly Weatherfield

The Struck by Lightning series (kinky romance trilogy) by Cecilia Tan

Master of O by Ernest Greene

Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales by Rachel Kramer Bussel (find more hot kink by her)

Dark Matter: Eros on the Wild Side Edited by Thomas Roche

FemDom Stories: Thirty Erotic Tales of Dominant Women Edited by Thomas Roche (please look him up for even more kinky erotica)

FOOD

The New InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook by Martha Hopkins and Randall Lockridge

Sex and Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Messy Girls by Charles Gatewood

The Astrology Cookbook: A Cosmic Guide to Feasts of Love by Stephanie Rosenbaum

The Lesbian Erotic Cookbook by Ffiona Morgan, McGuire Lee Ann, and Pam Newman

SOBER

How to Make Love While Conscious: Sex & Sobriety by Guy Kettelhack

INCEST, RAPE, SEXUAL TRAUMA

Healing Sex: A Mind/Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines

The Courage to Heal by Laura Davis and Ellen Bass

DISABILITY & HEALTH ISSUES

The Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette

Health Care Without Shame: A Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers by Charles Moser

When a Woman’s Body Says No to Sex: Overcoming & Understanding Vaginismus by Linda Valins

Private Pain: Understanding Vaginismus and Dyspareunia by Ditza Katz, PT, PhD and Ross Lynn Tabisel, CSW, PhD

Vulvodynia Survival Guide by Howard I. Glazer and ‎Gae Rodke

Fibroids: The Complete Guide to Taking Charge of Your Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Well-Being by Johanna Skilling and Eileen Hoffman

Enabling Romance: A Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships for the Disabled (And the People Who Care About Them) by Ken Kroll and Erica Levy Klein

Sexual Function in People with Disabilities and Chronic Illness by Marca L. Sipski and Craig J. Alexander

Sex and Back Pain: Advice on Restoring Comfortable Sex Lost to Back Pain by Lauren Andrew Hebert

The Illustrated Guide to Better Sex for People With Chronic Pain by Robert W. Rothrock, G. D’Amore and Jonathon Belt

Love, Sex and Disability: Maintaining Interest and Intimacy by Harlan Hahn, Ph.D.

Sexuality And Fertility Issues in Ill Health And Disability: From Early Adolescence to Adulthood by Rachel Balen and Marilyn Crawshaw

Sex, Love, and the Physically Handicapped by Evelyn West Ayrault

Secret Suffering: How Women’s Sexual and Pelvic Pain Affects Their Relationships (Sex, Love, and Psychology) by Susan Bilheimer and Robert J. Echenberg M.D.

Sex & Cancer

Sexy After Cancer by Barbara Musser

Man Cancer Sex by Anne Katz, RN, PhD

Woman Cancer Sex by Anne Katz, RN, PhD

Sexuality for the woman with cancer edited by the American Cancer Society

Sexuality for the man with cancer edited by the The American Cancer Society

Clinical/Professional Perspectives

Supporting Disabled People With Their Sexual Lives: A Clear Guide for Health and Social Care Professionals by Tuppy Owens

Choices: A Guide to Sex Counseling With Physically Disabled Adults by Maureen E. Neistadt

Sexual Function in People with Disability and Chronic Illness: A Health Professional’s Guide by Marca L. Sipski and Craig J. Alexander

Sex and Disability – Fall 1980 (Journal devoted to study of sex in physical & mental illness, Vol. 3 – No. 3) by Ami Sha’ked and Susan M. Daniels

HIV/AIDS & SAFER SEX

The Hot Guide to Safer Sex: The Ideas You Want, the Information You Need to Keep It Sexy and Safe When You’re “Doin the Deed” By Yvonne Fulbright

The Gay Men’s Wellness Guide: The National Lesbian And Gay Health Association’s Complete Book Of Physical, Emotional, And Mental Health And Well Being For Every Gay Male by Robert E. Penn

Safe Sex Bang by Dorian Katz, Alex Fialho, and Carol Queen, PhD

HIV & AIDS: The Ultimate Guide to Living with HIV and AIDS by Adam Green

And the Band Played On: Politics, People and the AIDS Epidemic by Randy Shilts

The Secret Epidemic: The Story of AIDS and Black America by Jacob Levenson