Remember when the best way to get out of high school sport was telling your teacher you had your period? The world doesn’t LOVE talking about menstrual cycles. But as you learn more about the way your body works and how your period affects you, it’s natural to want to talk to your friends, family and maybe some of your colleagues about what you’re learning. Our loved ones aren’t mind readers though. You need to know your own flow and lead the way. No more replying ‘I’m fine’, when what you’d really like to say is, ‘Could I possibly have a hug?’ Or some space, or some help, or whatever it is that you need!
Explaining the menstrual cycle to someone who has never had a period
The four seasons of the cycle make sense to most because we all understand the rhythm of the year. Try this:
‘You know how you feel like chilling at home when it’s cold and wet outside but are positively thrilled to be out socializing when there are blue skies and the sun is shining? That’s how the difference between having my period and ovulating can feel to me.’
You can also use the cycle of the day:
‘Think about how you’re bursting with energy mid-morning and love getting stuck into work, but then feel like napping in the afternoon. Then you sleep and rest and wake up again with more energy. That’s similar to what I experience over the course of my cycle.’
Reaching out for cycle support
I asked my fab Instagram community what kinds of cycle support they asked their partners and family members for. Here’s what they said:
• to give me time alone, help with house decisions and cook dinner.
• being able to talk openly about my period without any shame or groans.
• to recognize that some weeks are just a bit harder than others.
• to take the kids so I can listen to my own thoughts and rest.
• refilling my hot water bottle and having one ready when I get home.
• back rubs and lots of cuddles.
• my kids aren’t allowed to call ‘Muuuummmmm’ across the house. Dad is on duty!
• patience and kindness, even when they don’t fully understand what’s going on.
• to run me a bath with essential oils and tell me not to move.
• chocolate!!!