Chapter Four: Last Longer in Bed

This is the most important thing that every man must master to be a manly man. According to statistics, it is the one thing that the most men suffer from and later on in life just accept it. Most men are insecure of their penis size and the limed time he can have sex – something short and doesn’t last very long. Penis enhancement formula do work. Nevertheless, each man has to accept his size and work with what he has. It is a fact; you can use your middle finger to give any woman a screaming orgasm. When you have a look at the average man’s hand and finger size, I do say that you don’t need a penis longer than 90mm/9cm or 3.5 inches. The average penis is about 150mm/15cm or 6 inches long. The main issue is endurance in bed. A woman needs an average of 12 minutes to reach an orgasm through penetration. Then you have to hit the right spot as well. 45 present of men cannot last longer than 2 minutes, and the other 40 present last only 7 minutes. This is according to studies that was done in various universities around the world. Premature ejaculation is a huge problem in the world of sex. Here are some things that you can use to lengthen your time in bed. With time and practice , and combining these techniques, you will be able to have sex beyond your wildest dreams for long periods of time. Be a Manly Man. Remember that every man is different, and you must find what will work for you. You are not stuck with this problem. Accepting your problem is just wrong.

Methods of lasting longer

Men with bigger bellies can last longer than their thinner counterparts. The more belly fat a man has, the more estradiol, a female hormone, he has in his system and that helps him to inhibit orgasms. This hormone can take you up to 7 minutes.

Circumcising your penis is another option to enhance your time to ejaculation. The key is that it must be an adult circumcision. Circumcision reduces the sensitivity of the tip of the penis.

Viagra contains phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors used to treat erectile dysfunction and help to extend the length of time men can last in bed before reaching orgasm. Apart from the cost of the blue pill, it will not be wise to use it too often. You must consult your doctor in this matter. There are many other pills on the market. You can buy these in sex shops and have the same effect – without the potency of the original blue pill. Viagra is the most potent product on the market and it will let you last longer, but it will not prevent premature ejaculation. In addition, Viagra is prescription medication. It is wise not to overdo matters with these pills. It’s best to consult a medical doctor if you have a performance problem that’s seriously effecting your way of life. These aids have many side effects and can lead to serious problems when it is not used correctly. It is best to do it the natural way.

Cut out refined sugars in your diet because it reduces testosterone levels.

The medication that prevents pre-ejaculation is Priligy and Dapoxetine with both containing dapoxetine. Prilligy and Dapoxetine work by increasing serotonin’s action at the postsynaptic cleft (referring to the synapsis inside the brain). As a result, delaying ejaculation. As a member of selective reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) family, dapoxentine was first created as an antidepressant. Dapoxetine is removed quickly from inside the body thus making it a perfect treatment for PE, but it is a lousy antidepressant.

“Edging” is an exercise that helps you control your excitement. It is done through masturbation. Use good lubrication and bring yourself just before the point of no return. Then restrain yourself form cumming.

There are certain tropical sprays that use local anesthetics in its contents that you apply to your head of your penis to lessen the sensation and gives you more control over your orgasm. When you use these sprays, you have to read the instructions carefully to apply it not to transfer it to your partner. Alternatively, use a condom.

Condoms can also be of great help to extend your performance in the bedroom. You can use two condoms over each other to lessen the sensation on your penis. Alternatively, use condoms like Performax made by Durex that will also help lengthen your time in bed. They are called long-love condoms, containing a local anesthetic in the inside – this is so that you don’t affect your female partner with the anesthetic by dulling her sexual excitement – no one wants to dull her excitement.

The use of a cock-ring is very effective. There are various types of cock-rings like rubber or metal ones. This closes the urethra tube, running on the underside of your penis. You can consult with your partner, and it will help to stimulate her as well when you use it correctly. With experimentation, a cock-ring can be a great support in the bedroom and help you to last longer by preventing pre-ejaculation.

When you feel your orgasm is coming, and you are just about to climax, you can take your thumb and forefinger and squeeze at stem of your penis. Apply firm pressure and focus the pressure on the urethra (the tube running below along your penis). It prevents the orgasm fluid to rise into your penis and it lessens the sensation of ejaculation. In turn , when you apply pressure right behind the head of your penis, you will push blood flow out of your penis. This will lessen the sensation to ejaculate .

This technique is a little more advanced. You should practice it for a while if it is going to have an effect on your ejaculation. When you feel you have reach the “warning point” just before you ejaculate, take your penis out of her vagina to lessen the sensation. When you have done this, squeeze your penis like if you’re trying to stop from peeing. You can also use your anus mussels to make the squeeze more powerful. While doing the maneuver, you must be able to multitask a bit. You don’t want her to wander why you have stopped – let your tongue do some of the pleasuring. The best result is to practice this regularly every time when you are peeing, shut of your pee especially in the morning when you have a big one and a boner. When you master this it will give you total control, you will now decide when you want to finish every time.

Figure 1: Penis

Exercises for postponing pre-ejaculation

I believe it is very important to do things the natural way especially when you are young and strong. These exercises are guaranteed if you work at them regularly.

First, you should know where this muscle is located. Your PC muscle short for pubococcygeus muscle that forms the floor of your pelvic cavity and acts as a hammock from the pubic bone to the bottom of the spine. When you are urinating and stop the flow, it is this muscle that contracts to stop urinating in the middle of it.
Breathe normally and contract this muscle for one or two second’s tree times daily for four times a week. Do not hold your breath during this exercise because when you have sex you have to breathe and then you will not be able to do this contraction to stop your ejaculation.
Squeeze very slowly for ten times that last approximate five seconds. Each time as tight as you can while releasing the tension gradually over five seconds.
After two weeks, you should stretch your PC muscle for longer periods of time, and it will become easier. Now you must be able to up the number of squeezes and the time of each squeeze. Increase the time to seven seconds per squeeze. You can escalate on that doing more reps and hold each rep for a longer period of time for three times a day.
You must teach yourself to clench your penis and anus sphincter muscle separately or at the same time.
When you are on this level, you can do this exercise after each session daily. Start clenching your PC muscle very slowly so that it will take you several minutes to work up to the point where you are fully clenched, clench it a little harder and hold it there for thirty seconds, breathing slowly the whole time. When you are feeling a burning sensation release and do a cool down of twenty normal PC clenches.
With increments, tighten your PC muscle bit by bit and increase it gradually until it is fully clenched. Now release your PC muscle gradually until it is fully relaxed.
Now move up to the world where you will need the PC muscle, but with an erection that involves resistance training.
Put a towel over your erect penis and lift the towel by squeezing your PC muscles. Hold it for two to five seconds… relax and repeat it ten times. You can increase it gradually. To increase the resistance later on you can use your hand by pushing down while you ’re squeezing your PC muscles.
Do not over exercise because it will lead to fatigue.
Massage your penis until you have an erection. Gradually massage your penis to the point of orgasm, and then contracting your PC muscle until your penis went down. Repeat the process two to three times. When you orgasm during this exercise your PC muscle is not strong enough and you have to go back to the previous exercises.

PC workout:

Warm up with twenty PC clenches.
For one minute, squeeze PC muscle as tightly as you can.
For three seconds and then relax. In two seconds, perform hundred PC clenches without resting.
For one minute, squeeze PC muscle as tightly as you can.
Rest for two minutes.
Do fifty, five-second clenches and slowly relax at every clench.
Do five resisting PC muscle contractions while masturbating.

These exercises can cause strain or fatigue. If you feel any pain stop immediately. These exercises aren’t visible to anybody, and you can do it anywhere without being seen or noticed – except of course the masturbation part. A great time to do it when you are traveling to work and it will past the time more proactively. In the beginning , the exercises can be difficult. Gradually work your way up to do more of each exercise. Of course, your PC muscle is like any other muscle, the more frequently you workout, the better the results will be.

For the best results, use a male Kegel exerciser with weights (male pelvic trainer or PC Tool) to strengthen your PC muscle.

Figure 2: PC Tool

Mental Methods

Breathing control is a good thing during sex. Regulate your breathing by keeping it at a steady pace and not letting your breathing get to high. Keep it as low as possible. When your breathing accelerates, you get to anxious and you’ll orgasm too soon. To keep your breathing low, you should do some cardio vascular exercises to keep yourself at an average fitness level.
Mental control. When you have mastered the PC muscle control that is physical and ninety-five present of your total control over yourself, your mental state will contribute to your confidence. You must learn how to regulate your thoughts. First, just think of sex as sex and do not let your mind run away with your thoughts.
Focus without getting distracted. You must meditate; and therefore, you have to be still and relaxed. The only way to transcend a limit is to know how far you are from that limit. Plan to excel and to utilize what you have to its full potential to expand to the next level. Your mind is yours, and you are in control. Your mind only has the power you have given it. If you let it play with you, it will. You have to practice in controlling your mind. We are focusing on the time when you have sex to control your mind. You must meditate every day to control your thoughts during sex. You must understand your sexual responses. When you feel the warning of losing control, and feel that the physical is taking over you must regain control. It is carnal to stop the loss of control at the source before your thoughts have the chance to influence your ejaculatory muscles. Just take your thought away from your genitals. You’ll notice the feeling, and then, transfer that feeling to the rest of your body.
Take control.

Focus on one thought.
Focus on a calm setting that will calm you and take your mind away from sex. Like for example a tropical island with blue coast. No woman! Only nature!
Create a picture of your own.
Visualize seeing it vividly.
Put movement in your picture. See the waves move and the wind move through the tree leaves.
Start walking, in your imaginary paradise. First, slowly and then faster but not too fast.
When you are comfortable with your picture, start to cum while still seeing your picture.
Transfer your feelings to the rest of your body by slapping yourself.
Put your tongue on your palate and breathe more heavily.
Now you can add some PC muscle exercises with it.

Sexual positions can have a great effect on your control because it lets you tense muscles that advance ejaculation. B y just changing your body position a bit can help you relax more and help you to last longer. Each person is different. Never use a position that tenses your legs. Just bend your legs and it will change everything, but as I said, everyone is different.
When your heart races and you feel that the point of no control and no turning back is approaching, the first thing that you should do is to take the sensation away by taking your penis out of her. Press your penis hard behind the head to take away some of the sensation. Then slap the tip of your penis against her pussy a few times. Force you breathing towards a more normal state.

With all these tools in hand, you can determine when you will finish the sex session. You will be a Manly Man! Consistent practice and perseverance is key.

Causes of premature ejaculation

Doctors believe that masturbating, when you young, is a great cause for PE. The reason you masturbate is to ejaculate. Then you establish a pattern in your brain. Later in life , you are so programmed that you cannot control your ejaculation.
The guilty or shame feeling increases your desire to rush through sexual intercourse.
Men that want to maintain an erection during sexual intercourse want it so bad and every time ejaculation comes so fast that he cannot prevent it due to lack of education. That develops an anxiety and later relationship problems.

Biological causes

Very high hormone levels
Inherited traits
Inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra
Abnormal levels of brain chemicals called neurotransmitters
Thyroid problems
Abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculation system