GIVING LOVE: GIFTS YOU BRING TO YOUR PARTNER

In the process of consciously giving these gifts, the best in you is also evoked and strengthened.

When your North Node is in their 1ST HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

SELF-AWARENESS—You are in this person’s life to help them recognize and appreciate their own shining nature, individual strengths, and true inner self. Life has brought you across their path to validate them and to support them in actualizing their potential. Your authentic perception of who they really are gives you a unique ability to help them gain confidence in the flow of their own impulses and the power of their independent energy.

INDEPENDENCE—You have an innate ability to nurture them in a healthy way, encourage them to express themselves and claim their independence. You help them access the courage and energy they need to break any self-limiting dependencies and take action to achieve their goals.

STRENGTH AND LEADERSHIP—You inspire this person to assume the leadership role in their own life and express their strength on their own terms. Encourage their self-confidence and boldness by urging them to take chances, initiate, and actively take charge.

PERSONALITY EFFECTIVENESS—You have the discernment to help them see ways they are expressing their personality that do not honor their own strengths or their ability to shift outcomes and how this prevents others from recognizing the value of what they have to offer. Your insights can help them overcome their fears and become more effective and dynamic. You are also good karma in terms of enhancing their personal appearance, so don’t hesitate to make suggestions regarding clothing, most attractive colors, hairstyle, etc.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—If this is a primary relationship, be aware that when you feel this person wanting to combine with you, you tend to instinctively push them to be self-sufficient and strong. So in the process of helping them develop their independence, you may unconsciously deprive them of the relaxed interdependency of the partnership bond. To remedy this and enhance your sense of closeness, you can actively plan times for doing things together based on their ideas of what would be fun or meaningful. You can also encourage them to develop other “partners”—i.e., best friend, golfing buddy, business partner, etc., to help meet their needs for interdependency.

BEST APPROACH—You are in this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in getting more in touch with themselves and growing stronger as an individual. So it is always a good approach to ask them questions about themselves. “How do you feel about that?” “What would you like to create in this situation?” Encourage artistic endeavors, psychotherapy, or other avenues for discovering new aspects of their unique individual nature.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation, you created a co-dependency with this person, which robbed them of their initiative and independence in a way that is still affecting them in this lifetime. Thus, you are in a unique position to be an instrument of their healing. By encouraging their independence and strength, any psychic scars you may have from past unions with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 7th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 2ND HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

MATERIAL ABUNDANCE—Your purpose in this person’s life includes helping them make money, establish independent financial security, and learn how to experience the pleasures of the five physical senses. Have confidence in your ability to point out the moneymaking potential of their talents and suggest other ways they can increase their prosperity or their sensual enjoyment of life. You are also good karma in terms of their possessions, and your advice in this area is almost always correct.

ENHANCED SENSE OF SELF-WORTH—Follow your natural inclination to point out how valuable they are and how much they have to offer. Your encouragement can give them the strength to be the best they can be. Help them to appreciate themselves more by prompting them to do or buy things that enhance their sense of self-worth—i.e., a new wardrobe, gym membership, etc.

BUILDING GREATER SELF-RELIANCE—One of the reasons you are in this person’s life is because they have boundary issues in their relationships. You can motivate them to maximize their potential by setting appropriate boundaries. You will instinctively stimulate them to build on their own talents, rather than becoming overly involved in supporting others. Encourage any experiences that can contribute to their sense of self-sufficiency.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—If this is a primary partnership, you may be unconsciously maintaining your own space and supporting their self-sufficiency at the expense of the power and love that can be generated through merging energy with another. By being aware of this, you can consciously go out of your way to say and do things with them that validate the “us” in the relationship.

BEST APPROACH—The Universe has brought this person into your life to assist them in recognizing their talents and abilities and actively pursuing their own strengths. You can help them realize what is valuable about them and what is valuable to them, by asking them questions that put them in touch with their inner truth. Then they can make choices in alignment with what they deeply value. For example: “Which path would make you truly feel good about yourself?” “What is most important to you in this situation?” “What is your motive?”

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation, you were Soul Mates who became overly enmeshed at the expense of retaining a separate sense of self. You may also have used them to better your own position at their expense, or merged your power with this Soul and then betrayed them in some way. If so, then on a subconscious level you may be reticent to “set them up” again, so are careful to keep boundaries in place. As you demonstrate Love by helping them increase their wealth, sense of self-worth, and self-sufficiency, any psychic scars you may have from past unions with this Soul can be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 8th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 3RD HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

COMMUNICATION—One of your purposes in this person’s life is to help them overcome their inhibitions and encourage them to open up and communicate. Be interested in how they view life and the different things that are on their mind. Your job is to ask them questions and keep them talking so they can learn about reciprocal communications through your interactions.

ENHANCED CONNECTIONS WITH OTHERS—You can inspire them to expand their ability to successfully connect with others. Urge them to take the initiative in communicating with family, neighbors, and friends, by telephone, e-mail, etc. You can also arouse their desire to extend the scope of their interests and experiences. Encourage their ability to be tactful and to take a more lighthearted approach in social situations.

MORE POSITIVE DAILY INTERACTIONS—Life has brought you across their path because they need to increase their effectiveness in daily interactions with others by checking out the facts, seeing options, and looking at situations from another’s point of view. Help them to expand the scope of their interests by prompting them to become more aware of their environment and inspiring their curiosity about the people they meet. Encourage them to look at situations logically. You are good karma for them in terms of their relationships with their siblings and neighbors.

EDUCATION—Encourage this person to continue their formal education. You can see where further training can enhance their natural skills and mental abilities. If they have writing or speaking skills, help them to exercise their communication muscles. You can be a natural cheerleader and supporter, urging them to express their valuable ideas.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In the process of increasing their confidence in their ability to communicate, you may inadvertently cause them to become so involved in social activities and the details of everyday life that they become distracted from developing their spiritual nature. This person may require private time for prayer or meditation in order to maintain their peace of mind. Support them in pursuing a spiritual path that is important to them—even if you do not share their views.

BEST APPROACH—You are involved in this person’s life because they need help in gaining the confidence to open up and share what they really think—the way they see life and how they interpret events. You can best accomplish this by asking them to elaborate on their perceptions: “That’s interesting. What do you think about this?” “Will you tell me more about that?” Your curiosity will help them to value their own opinions, increase their facility in relating to others, and allow them to more easily create what they want through clear communication.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation, you somehow limited this person’s participation in daily interactions or hindered them from distributing their ideas to a wider audience. This was likely due to religious, self-righteous, or legal restraints—perhaps silencing their views in order to further your own ambitions. So in this lifetime you are in a unique position to support them in reconnecting with others, and expanding beyond any unconscious inhibitions to a free and happy level of open communication. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 9th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 4TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

A SUPPORTIVE FOUNDATION AND CORE BELIEFS—You can instinctively see where this person is coming from in terms of their core beliefs and where fears or limitations are keeping them from getting what they want in life. You have a unique ability to say just the right things to increase their sense of inner security. As you help them attune to their inner self, they will be able to see the need to make some changes in their basic frame of reference so that instead of undermining them, their foundation supports them in leading a happier life.

A SENSE OF BELONGING—Because you truly care about them for who they are, you bring them a sense of acceptance regardless of what they achieve in the outer world. This allows them to incorporate a feeling of “belonging” into their foundation. You are also good real estate karma for them, and you may be a factor that encourages them to buy a home that is just right for them.

BASIC SECURITY—You are tuned in to the perimeters of this person’s well-being. If they encounter any problems that threaten their basic survival, you are instantly there for them. Your presence in their life helps to increase their sense of security on all levels, and will intervene on a material level if they need your protection for survival.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—Although your awareness is accurate in terms of whether their core beliefs will support their sense of security, you are completely unaware of what they need to do on a practical level in order to succeed in the world. In fact, you are bad professional karma for this person, and even with the best intentions will inadvertently give them erroneous advice about how to reach their career or work goals. Be supportive with your confidence in their ability to succeed without trying to influence the way in which they do it.

BEST APPROACH—You are in this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in becoming more aware of their core beliefs and strengthening their foundation. You can assist them by asking questions about their internal feelings in different situations: “What do you feel is going on here?” “On a gut level, what do you fear about the outcome of ____?” “Emotionally, what is stopping you from going forward?” Also encourage activities that can help them build a more positive foundation, such as seminars or books on positive thinking, a 12-step program, seeing a therapist, etc.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation, you played a key role in supporting this person’s worldly success at the expense of their own inner growth and without considering their level of preparedness. You may have facilitated their skyrocketing to a position of fame and fortune that they hadn’t really earned. This may have resulted in their downfall—or even death. So in this lifetime your job is to help them strengthen their basic foundation so that whatever befell them due to your influence in a past incarnation will never happen again. They will have the inner strength to support the level of worldly success they attain. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 10th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 5TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

CREATIVITY—One reason you are in this person’s life is to help inspire their creativity and give them confidence in their artistic abilities. Be open to promoting their talents with emotional and/or financial support. Don’t hesitate to nudge them in terms of taking on a project that you sense will bring them joy and help revitalize their life. Encourage their creativity.

OPENING THE HEART/ROMANCE—Another reason you are in their life is to help them open their heart, rekindle the spark of happiness within, and stimulate their willingness to take risks—romantic and otherwise. Just being around you opens their heart. You are good karma for them in terms of romance and risk-taking, and your influence naturally increases their sense of healthy play. So don’t hesitate to nudge them in the direction of taking a risk in terms of something they feel happy about.

CHILD ENERGY—You are also good karma in terms of their relationships with children. One important purpose you have in their life is to reawaken their inner child—either by encouraging them to have children, to spend more time with children, or to directly pursue activities that nurture the child within. You naturally help them to overcome stagnation and reconnect with the playful, healthy, childlike part of themselves that can revitalize their energy.

LEARNING TO PLAY—Your natural influence will be to teach them how to look at life with a sense of humor, play, and fun. You have a lighthearted attitude with them, and your energy will inspire them to enjoy their life and experience pleasure in a healthy way. You can also have a positive effect on any sports activities in which they are involved.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In the process of validating their childlike nature and encouraging them to open their heart and have fun, you may neglect to see the dreams and aspirations they have for their life. So go out of your way to support them in spending time with friends who can help them gain objective insights about their life and help them further their larger goals.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life to help them increase their vitality and joy by expressing their creativity in all areas of their life. So your best bet is to ask them questions that help them gain awareness of what will truly bring them happiness. For instance: “If you follow that path, will you have a happy feeling about it?” or “Is that activity fun for you?” In this way you can help them reconnect with their own pure child energy.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation you coerced this person into promoting a cause or ideal at the expense of expressing their own individuality. In some way you channeled their creative talents in a direction that met your needs instead of supporting them in what made them happy. So in this life you have the opportunity to consciously encourage them to open their heart, have fun, and act on their creative urges. And as you give them your gifts, any psychic scars you may be carrying from past lives with this person can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 11th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 6TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

GOOD WORK KARMA—You are naturally a positive influence on this person in terms of their work—insightful advice about their projects, job, and interactions with co-workers. You can motivate and inspire them to get the job done because you understand their desire to be of service and the purity of their intent. Your influence can also help them to recognize and heal any behaviors that are counterproductive to creating a harmonious work environment.

ORGANIZATION—You have been called into their life because you naturally affect their behavior in a way that increases their level of healthy organization. You bring them the gift of actively helping them put their practical affairs—and their lives—in order. By asking them a few questions to determine their needs, you can see how they can restore order to their environment and organize their time more efficiently. As long as your true motive is to help them, they will be open to your input.

PROCESSING/INTEGRATION/FOCUS—When this person makes a mistake and suffers a setback, you are uniquely equipped to help them process and understand what happened so they can correct their behavior and avoid making the same mistake again. You help them work on themselves in a way that makes them healthier and more successful. By focusing on areas that are causing them stress, your insights allow them to create a new order and gain confidence in the situation.

HEALTH—One of the reasons you are in this person’s life is to be a good influence on their health. They are likely to discuss their health issues with you, and you can naturally be aware of any attitudes or behaviors that are undermining their health. They sense that you are good doctor karma for them, so when you recommend healers and/or remedies that are most likely to restore their health, they are usually receptive to your ideas.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—Although one of your main purposes in their life is to be a positive influence on their work, in bringing increased power and focus to “getting the job done” you may inadvertently draw energy away from their taking time to recuperate and recharge on a personal level. If you are working together, be aware that you may not be giving them enough time off from the task at hand. It would be in both of your best interests for you to encourage them to structure their schedule in a way that allows them to have the personal time they need.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in bringing order to their lives, including organizing their time, their work, and their health regimen. Asking them questions—“How is your work going?” “Are you feeling energetic these days?” “What is your schedule like at this point?”—and being interested in the tangible details of their life helps them focus on how they are spending their time and what they need to do to bring the disorganized parts of their life into order.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is likely that in a past incarnation, you were responsible for putting this person in a protected environment that isolated them from the world. This undermined their confidence in their ability to survive by doing meaningful work that is rewarded by society. Now you are in a unique position to help them regain confidence in their ability to use their power to produce tangible results, and in the process, any psychic scars you may be carrying from past lives with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 12th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 7TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

PARTNERSHIP—Being a team player means surrendering the spotlight and putting the harmony and well-being of the partnership before selfish concerns. You are in this person’s life because they are too focused on themselves, and their independent tendencies have become exaggerated. Your job is to help them develop more awareness of “us” and grow in their ability to form successful partnerships. Then their life will become easier and more fulfilling.

ENHANCED PRIMARY RELATIONSHIPS—You have a unique ability to help this person feel accepted, appreciated, and loved, and your presence will most likely open their heart to you. Even if they are romantically involved with someone else, you are likely to give them good advice on how they can improve that relationship, and their relationship skills in general. Show interest in their relationships with others: “How is your relationship with your wife going?” Through the process of sharing information with you, they will be able to gain new insights about their situation.

COOPERATION AND DIPLOMACY—You can be a very positive influence in helping them develop the skills of tact and diplomacy. You naturally see the ways in which they are avoiding confrontation or are not cooperating with others, causing situations to become more difficult. When they have a crisis in their relationships, do not hesitate to become involved. You are good relationship karma for them, serving as a role model and giving them advice that will improve the harmony in their interactions with others.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—As you help them learn to share and “do it together,” you can inadvertently drain energy from their sense of self-identity. You are far more aware of them in their capacity to be a good partner than you are of their individual uniqueness. Ask them to let you know if they begin to feel the need for more independence, time alone, or support in pursuing their own interests.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life to help them improve their relationship skills. Showing interest in their inter-actions with others opens a channel through which they can learn and grow. For example: “How is it going with your boss?” Or: “Is communication getting any better with your son?” Often just by discussing their relationships with you they will gain clarity about how to handle things in a more positive way. Don’t hesitate to share your opinions, insights, and suggestions in terms of how they can create greater harmony with others.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is possible that in a past incarnation, you pushed this person into independent activity at the expense of the joys of relationship. Whatever the past life circumstances, in this lifetime they carry the fear that they will be denied a happy marriage—a fear that you are in a unique position to help them heal. And in the process of supporting them in having fulfilling relationships, any psychic scars you may carry from past incarnations with this Soul will also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 1st House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 8TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

SOUL MATE RELATIONSHIPS/BONDING—You are in this person’s life to give them the gift of a Soul Mate relationship that will allow you both to experience the joy and safety of a mutually empowering, interdependent bond. If this is a sexual relationship, it will satisfy personal needs yet transcend them to create its own energetic field. In a business relationship, your synergy will allow you to produce a result far greater than either of you could have created independently.

MERGING RESOURCES—It is time for this person to recognize that they don’t have to do everything on their own. You can show them how to combine their resources with you in a way that is healthy and healing, as well as profitable. Actively validate their value in your life and their ability to combine with you in a way that allows you both to be successful. You are also able to teach them how to graciously receive the resources of others—their talents, dreams, and money.

PSYCHOLOGICAL AWARENESS—Another reason you are in this person’s life is to help them develop their capacity to tune in to the psychology of others—their motives and desires. If they are having difficulty with someone, encourage them to see the other person from a psychological perspective—their perceived needs in the situation and why they might be exhibiting those particular behaviors. By helping them gain insight into another’s psychology, you empower them to draw closer to that person.

INSIGHT, EMPOWERMENT, AND TRANSFORMATION—To bring this person the gift of transformation, have confidence that your influence can help open them to core emotional, psychic, and sexual energies. Also, encouraging their powers of investigation may lead to insights that can further transform and empower them. Your influence can help them explore the realms of psychology and metaphysics in a healthy way that brings them a sense of increased potency.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—You are likely to feel somewhat “distant” from this person’s individual interests and values that exist outside of the “team’s” interests. Be careful that you don’t invalidate the things that are important to them. Ask them to let you know if they start feeling unsupported as an individual, or need more time for themselves, apart from the “team.”

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because on a deep level they have asked for an emotional healing through experiencing a healthy, synergistic bond with another. You can help them create this by getting more deeply in touch with the workings of their own psychology, and that of others. Ask questions such as: “What was your underlying motive in taking that action?” Or: “What do you think the other person wants to create in the situation?” Being more in touch with others’ needs will enable them to have more healthy, mutually supportive relationships.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is possible that in a past incarnation, you played a role in exaggerating this person’s need for self-sufficiency at the expense of their experiencing the support and benefits of a bonded relationship. So in this life, they subconsciously fear relationships that involve bonding and shared energy. You are uniquely equipped to help them resolve this issue, and in the process, any psychic scars you may carry from past lifetimes with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 2nd House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 9TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

CLARITY IN ETHICAL AND LEGAL MATTERS—You have an innate ability to see where this person may be out of alignment in terms of ethics and/or Universal Law, and how this is causing problems for them in their daily life. You can assist them in activating their conscience by encouraging them to take “right action” in every area of life. This includes choosing to not “get away with something” even if they can, and not violating another’s trust. By probing the motives behind any incongruent behaviors, you can help them correct any mistaken beliefs that may be contributing to their problems with integrity. You are also good legal karma for them.

PURPOSEFUL ACTION, FREEDOM, AND ADVENTURE—You add a sense of freedom and adventure to their lives that they haven’t previously experienced. Your example of taking risks in your own life can inspire them to take more chances themselves—especially those that have the potential for character development and spiritual growth. You are in their life to encourage their spontaneity, broaden their horizons, and encourage them to live their life with a greater sense of purpose and adventure. You are also good foreign travel karma for them.

SPIRITUAL GROWTH—You can help them reconnect with higher truth, philosophy, spirituality, and intuition, so that they can experience greater peace of mind. You have entered their life because they are searching for deeper meaning, so don’t hesitate to urge them to pursue a spiritual path.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In the process of influencing this person in developing their ethics and spirituality, you may drain energy away from the comfort they experience from more mundane activities. It is likely that your tastes are different in this area, and if they desire to spend time watching television or doing something else you don’t enjoy, support them even if you don’t always participate. Also, be aware that you may inadvertently give them bad advice in terms of sales, schoolwork and classes, teaching, or any issues involving their siblings or neighbors.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in coming into greater alignment with right action and the Truth of their own being. Assist them by asking questions that help them gain awareness in this area. For instance: “What do you feel intuitively about this situation?” “What does your conscience tell you is the most ethical thing to do?” Also, encourage them to pursue activities that explore these issues, such as studying philosophy, becoming more involved with a spiritual path, prayer, or meditation.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It may be that in a past incarnation, you gave this person misinformation or encouraged them in some breach of ethics that compromised their integrity. Whatever the specific scenario, you were likely involved in creating confusion for them regarding ethics, which is causing difficulty for them in this lifetime. Now you are in a unique position to help them realign with their integrity. As you support them in developing optimism and faith in positive outcomes as a result of following a path of integrity, any scars you may be carrying from past incarnations with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 3rd House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 10TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

SUCCESS WITH GOALS AND AMBITIONS—You have been called into their life to help this person gain clarity about their goals and the steps that will lead to successful accomplishment. You can influence them to keep going until their dreams become reality and they increase their worldly success.

THE ABILITY TO TAKE CHARGE—Validate their ability to take charge in every area of their life, especially in successfully reaching their professional or material aims. You are innately aware of their “CEO talents”—even if they are not—and will give them good advice that can help motivate them to get out in the world and take responsibility for creating success. You can also help them deal with situations where their talents aren’t being appreciated or where they are being taken advantage of in their profession.

GREATER EASE WITH AUTHORITY FIGURES—You are naturally aware of this person’s self-sabotaging tendencies with authority figures, and are in a unique position to help them heal any childhood limitations they may have experienced with a parent. You can give them the right guidance to help them overcome their fears of taking charge. Validate their abilities, and don’t hesitate to encourage them to live up to their full potential. Because your assistance is in alignment with their own wants and needs, they won’t resist your efforts.

ENHANCING THEIR PLACE IN SOCIETY—Your influence will increase this person’s credibility, reputation, and prestige in some way. You are aware of their public image and can naturally see how it can be enhanced. In fact, you could be an excellent PR person for them, and may feel drawn to directly participate in helping them create professional success.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In the process of helping this person take charge and successfully reach their goals, you tend to invalidate their feelings. It is to your advantage to go out of your way to be aware of—and acknowledge—their feelings, even if you can’t identify with them. For instance, if they are upset: “I am really sorry you are feeling upset. Is there anything I can do to support you?”

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because, on some level, their emotions are standing in the way of successful accomplishment, and you have the innate ability to help them take control of their own destiny. One way is to ask questions that help put them in touch with their own strength and authority. For example: “What can you do to gain a greater sense of self-respect in this situation?” “What would you like to see happen next?” “What is the next goal you would like to accomplish in this area?”

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It may be that in a past incarnation, you were involved in a family relationship with this person that in some way deprived them of having an opportunity to go out into the world and establish their reputation in their own right. As a result, in this life their subconscious is telling them that they are not competent enough to shine in the public arena. Now you are in a unique position to help them develop confidence in their ability to take care of themselves. And as you encourage their success, any psychic scars you may carry with this person can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 4th House, your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 11TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

FRIENDSHIP—One reason you are in this person’s life is to be their best friend and teach them how friendship works. Through your influence they are learning the value of total acceptance, genuine curiosity, and loving concern for others. Even if they are a lover, you are good friendship karma for them, and consciously activating the friendship component will help balance the relationship.

OBJECTIVITY/SEEING THE BIGGER PICTURE—You can help them become more objective about situations that are troubling them. Don’t hesitate to nudge them in the direction of seeing a difficult situation from a wider perspective that includes the needs and wishes of the others involved, rather than just their own desires. Approach them as a friend with helpful information, prompting them to consider circumstances more objectively, especially in terms of how they express themselves. Help them to tune in to higher insights that give them a bigger picture of what’s going on as a way of gaining clarity and peace of mind.

SUPPORT FOR THEIR DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS—If this person has a desire to reform society, and their contribution can make a positive difference, on a deep level they may have called you to help them to realize that goal. You are in their life to validate their altruistic and humanitarian instincts and help them succeed. You will naturally recognize their talents and ideas they have that can benefit society and will encourage and support them in actualizing these gifts in the world.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In bringing this person new insights and helping them to see the bigger picture, you tend to diminish their ability to simply enjoy life and to get in touch with their creative impulses. It is in both of your best interests to go out of your way to plan some time for relaxation, and to verbally support them in any creative ventures. Also, be aware that you will inadvertently give this person bad advice about their biological children, romances, or creative projects—except in the context of helping them to see the bigger picture so they can make better decisions for themselves.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in seeing the bigger picture and gaining objectivity so they can navigate their life more successfully. So if misunderstandings arise, your best bet is to resist any tendency to take their actions personally, and to help them—as a friend—become more objectively aware of their behavior. As you encourage them to view unfolding events within the larger scheme of things, they will be able to live their life with more awareness. One way to assist them is to ask questions, such as: “What is the bigger picture here?” “What would you like to have happen in this situation, and do you think the other person has the same goal?” In this process, you may trigger an insight that allows them to clarify what is really important and resolve any emotional drama in the situation.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It may be that in a past incarnation, you in some way locked this person into a specific role, draining them of the power to be themselves and to follow their own dreams. In this lifetime, your job is to help free them of any rigid role that may be preventing them from being themselves. You are uniquely equipped to be an instrument of their healing, and in the process, any psychic scars you may have from past lifetimes with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 5th House, then your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).

When your North Node is in their 12TH HOUSE, you are bringing them the gifts of:

SOLITUDE AND SERENITY—The Universe has brought you across this person’s path because they are ready to be open to a more metaphysical, mystical level of awareness. Your purpose is to support and empower their ability to tap into a connection with invisible forces—and their own wellspring of inspiration. Encourage them to relax, spend time by themselves, and reestablish the importance and strength of their own inner life.

INCREASED SELF-AWARENESS—We all have unconscious reflexes resulting from our history that undermine our effectiveness in the world and prevent us from getting what we want. We may approach something we desire with a sense of fear that causes erratic behavior or excessive inhibition, or we encounter a block that defeats us. One of your gifts to this person is to help them become aware of how they have been sabotaging themselves and to heal and release some of these disturbances from their psyche.

SPIRITUAL TRUST AND SURRENDER—You have come across this person’s path because they need to build their trust that everything is working out according to Divine Order. Your influence will help them develop their connection with the Spiritual Power that supports their life. Be interested in their ideas about trust and their viewpoint regarding reliance on a positive Higher Power. Your energy will help them become stronger in their faith and have a positive effect on their psychological health.

COMPASSION—Your influence helps them take more downtime for reflection, which deepens their capacity for compassion—toward themselves and others. If they remain too focused on the mundane details of life, they tend to become perfectionistic and critical. When they sense your deep understanding and acceptance, it helps them relax and feel more confident in the natural flow of life. You are also aware of any desires they may have to be of service to those in need.

POTENTIAL AREAS OF CONCERN—In the process of bringing this person the gift of supporting their solitude so they can develop a greater reliance on a Higher Power, you can drain energy from their ability to work and organize their time in a way that allows them to be productive in the world. In fact, you will inadvertently give them bad advice in terms of their work, getting organized, and their physical health. It is best to support them in getting input from others regarding these issues.

BEST APPROACH—You have come into this person’s life because on a deep level they have called for help in recognizing and releasing their self-sabotaging behaviors. However, it works best if you refrain from approaching them with suggestions for making specific corrections. Just keep boosting their confidence in their own spiritual connection with Divine Order: “All is well.” “Everything is unfolding as it should.” From that place of calm and trust, the practical answers they need will come to them.

PAST LIFE INFLUENCES—It is possible that in a past incarnation, you in some way caused this person to strive for the image of perfection in the outer world at the expense of their inner spiritual life. This resulted in some kind of trauma that is still affecting them subconsciously in this lifetime. You are uniquely equipped to help them heal these self-sabotaging patterns and reconnect with their Higher Power, and in the process any psychic scars you may be carrying from past lifetimes with this Soul can also be healed. If your South Node also conjoins a planet in their 6th House, then your connection is truly a matter of destiny—a contract to be fulfilled—and these influences will be felt much more strongly (see Part III).