PART III
The Aspects
Navigating the Energy of Past Life Connections
Information on the Aspects
In astrology, “aspects” are energetic connections—mathematically calculated—between two heavenly bodies. For the purposes of this book, an “aspect” refers to the conjunction between the Nodes in one person’s chart to the planet(s) in another person’s chart, which show specific past life connections between the two Souls. In a future book, other aspects between the planets and the Nodes will be explored.
To see if a conjunction exists between yourself and another person, you can log on to www.cosmiclove.com and it will be calculated for you as a free service. You will need to enter the birth information for both people—date, place, and time (if known).
The information that follows is being presented here for the first time, the result of extensive research into how nodal energies operate within relationships. It is further based on the concept of reincarnation, which I have found to greatly expand the benefits of working with the Nodes. The outer planets—Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto—move so slowly that astrologers often refer to them as a “generational influence” and don’t consider specific conjunctions with these planets to be significant. However, in my research I have found that if one partner’s Node conjoins an outer planet in the other person’s chart, the potency of the conjunction still holds. There may be a million people whose North or South Node conjuncts a planet in your chart, but the ONE drawn into the inner circle of your life is the person who is there to help you to grow in that area.
Contracts to Be Honored
My research has shown that when the North or South Node in one person’s chart forms a conjunction to a planet in another person’s chart—someone with whom they are closely involved—it indicates a “contract” between the two people that is to be fulfilled in this lifetime. These Souls have been together in past lives and have an agreement to go through certain interactions in this incarnation in order to balance and heal the energy between them.
One way this occurs is that there can be certain Souls with whom we have experienced intense difficulties in a past life. Before incarnating, an agreement is made with that Soul to come back and deal with the underlying issue in a more conscious and loving way so that both Souls can be healed. Hence, we find ourselves in relationships with people who have North or South Node conjunctions to our natal planets.
In working with this material, it is helpful to remember that it is generally the “victim” who has the power to break the chains of a reciprocal past life injury, through forgiveness of the perpetrator. Forgiveness involves not only forgiving the other person, but also yourself for any time in this lifetime or another that you may have done the same thing to another Soul.
Relationship Roles: Soul Contracts and Free Choice
Please note that the kind of relationship you are in with another makes a difference in how to best respond to the energy generated by a difficult aspect. If it is a lover or a friend, you always have the option of choosing not to continue the relationship. However, if the person is your mother, child, or other close family member, then the situation was chosen by the Souls involved before this incarnation. Therefore, it must be assumed that the experience was necessary and in the best interest of both parties.
For example, if your lover’s South Node conjuncts your Moon and you don’t feel nurtured, you can choose to dissolve the relationship and find someone who makes you feel more supported and secure. But if your mother’s South Node conjuncts your Moon, in examining the rest of your chart it is likely that you have a past life pattern of overemotional responses, and becoming more emotionally independent in this lifetime will promote your Soul’s growth. In that case, two different dynamics could be operating. You may have chosen a mother who wouldn’t let you become emotionally dependent on her OR it may be a payback from a past incarnation, where you either withheld nurturing from her or smothered her with overprotection. Somewhere in time, one of you has to break the chain of hurting each other by choosing to respond to the other person with the conscious intention of creating a win-win situation.
Also, when you have an actual Soul contract to go through certain experiences with another person in this lifetime, the situation will seem inevitable. For instance, although you might consciously choose not to become involved in a romantic relationship with someone whose South Node conjuncts one of your planets, you would feel irresistibly compelled to enter the relationship—even against your better judgment—if you had such a contract. On an ego level you may decide: “I’m done with that lesson.” But you may not be complete on a Soul level. In that case, your best bet is to use the information provided here to consciously cooperate with the energy and allow the relationship to help you grow into a more well-balanced person.
Do I Know You?
People often ask me questions like: “Can anyone whose North Node conjuncts my Venus bring me good luck in love and money?” The answer is yes. However, not everyone with this aspect is a past life Soul connection—only those who interact with you in the context of a relationship: a family member, lover, business partner, co-worker, close friend, or other intense connection, even someone you perceive as an enemy. There are many people whose charts strongly connect with ours, but we form close relationships with only a few of them. These are the people with whom we have unfinished business, and in whose company we can work through the particular issue that will rebalance both people’s energetic fields.
If the connection is strongly unpleasant, it’s best to do all you can to resolve the karma in this lifetime, otherwise you will have to keep going through it in future incarnations until you finally “get it straight.” Now, while you have these tools to expand your consciousness, it would greatly enhance your Soul’s growth—not to mention your ability to experience peace and happiness—to heal everything you can with other Souls with whom you are connected.
Life itself supports you in expanding into your own highest potential for self-actualization, and sends those people across your path who can best help you grow. Whoever you have attracted into your life is bringing you this opportunity. Knowing the nodal aspects, especially the conjunctions, makes it possible for you to consciously participate by accepting and working with the process, rather than resisting it—and this creates a win-win situation that benefits both people.
North Node Conjunctions
People Who Help Along the Way
When the North Node in one person’s chart is conjunct a planet in another’s chart, a Soul contract has been made to come together in this lifetime for mutual benefit. The North Node person brings the special gift of helping you realize one of your talents. They function like a good luck charm by energizing the area of your life ruled by the planet involved. The North Node person helps to expand you to a higher level, bolstering your confidence and ability to succeed in that area.
This process brings healing energy to both parties. Through their connection, the planetary person’s personal growth and self-actualization are nurtured and encouraged. And by supporting the planetary person, the North Node person’s own North Node attributes are stimulated, which helps them integrate those qualities into their personality and realize their highest potential.
North Node Conjunct the Sun
The Sun represents the buoyant, naturally confident part of ourselves and our individual style of self-expression. Its placement in the birth chart—by house and by sign—reveals the area where we most want to shine in this lifetime. This is the creative drive that, if acted on, will move us to the next level of our evolutionary journey. The results of embracing our creativity are greater ease of self-expression, control over our own life, and the strong vitality that comes from being true to our own nature. When we recognize and express our innate potential, we will be content with ourselves in this lifetime.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Sun person’s life is to help them discover what it is that they would most like to create. You encourage their self-expression and inspire them to use their vital life force in ways that make a significant contribution.
Support their efforts, especially in terms of their creative projects. They may need to bolster their self-esteem or build a stronger leadership foundation. Perhaps they have a vision that needs encouragement. By verbalizing their strengths you help them to gain the confidence to use their life force at a higher level. When you openly praise their talents you fan the fires of their creativity.
Your positive influence validates their strengths and their ability to create their own destiny. Also, in the process of feeding their ego and building their confidence, the best in you is brought forth and the flow of Love between you is enhanced. As you inspire them to take the next step toward self-actualization, you are energized to take that step in your own life.
If you are the SUN person:
Your vitality and sense of uniqueness are strengthened and supported by the North Node person as they encourage your creative potential and help you to shine. Thanks to their influence, you become more creative, confident, and determined. They see your talents and bring them to your attention in a healthy way that makes you stronger.
This person has entered your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is calling for you to operate at a higher level. They will help you to bring out your leadership qualities. Your job is to accept their support and be willing to take the next step in your evolutionary journey of self-actualization.
You will feel a heightened energy around this person. They are aware of your talents and have faith in your ability to accomplish your goals. By allowing them to make you stronger and more successful, you honor their gift and the connection between you. Through this link with them you positively influence each others’ health and vitality, and you inspire their creativity as well. This is “good karma” at work! The gift becomes reciprocal—a system of mutual support.
North Node Conjunct the Moon
The Moon in our birthchart represents our deepest emotional needs for nourishment on all levels. Its placement, by house and by sign, reveals the most vulnerable part of ourselves—where we most need to feel loving support in order to thrive. The Moon, subconscious indicator of our true feelings, is an important factor to consider in marriage. North Node conjunct the Moon is a tremendous mutual blessing in any type of long-term relationship.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
The potential is for the two of you to have a very loving, lasting relationship. Your purpose in the Moon person’s life is to supply what they need to feel validated and emotionally secure. You instinctively know when they are feeling insecure, and your attention lets them know that you care about them. You naturally recognize and support their inner core and help them achieve a positive self-image. As they learn that they can count on you, they relax, their heart opens, and Love and appreciation flow between you.
Another gift you bring this person is to teach them how to love. You do this automatically by letting them see that it is “safe” for them to open up and be vulnerable. Freely validate the ways in which they show affection for others. Acknowledging the good qualities you see in them encourages their caring nature and enhances the way they express their feelings to others. This naturally leads to more positive results, and they become stronger and more successful in their relationships.
In the process of giving them confidence in their ability to relate empathetically to others, the best in you is strengthened and you also become more caring.
If you are the MOON person:
The North Node person has come into your life because on a deep level your Soul is calling for you to open your heart bravely, without fear of personal rejection. It’s time for you to release emotional defenses and let yourself trust. Actually, just being around them makes you feel loved, accepted, protected, and supported. You can relax. They give you a sense of belonging and of being right where you should be.
This person satisfies many of your basic needs and helps you connect with your true feelings. They see who you really are and reflect your core motivations and the goodness of your being back to you in a way you recognize and appreciate. They evoke a loving energy that gives you confidence in your ability to express caring and be appreciated in return.
Your job is to accept their nurturing gift and allow yourself to become more open and comfortable with others. By permitting them to stimulate your heart center, you also bring out the best in them. This connection is excellent for marriage and long-lasting friendships, since there will always be a mutual flow of nourishment, Love, and caring.
North Node Conjunct Mercury
Mercury is the planet that rules intellect and intelligence. Its placement in the chart shows how we think, what interests us, how we approach and solve life’s challenges, and how we communicate our thoughts to others.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Mercury person’s life is to help them think more clearly and express their ideas to maximum effect. Even if you don’t say a word, your presence energizes their thought process—they just think better when you’re around.
You will tend to have comfortable, productive communication with this person. And in the process of talking things out, you can naturally see where they become closed-minded or illogical when dealing with difficult situations. This allows you to offer valuable insights that empower them to reach a higher level of clarity in their communication.
Don’t tiptoe around difficult subjects. Share your thoughts and offer alternative ways of viewing the situation when they get “stuck” in an old pattern or stubbornly cling to an idea. As you do so, the verbal exchange enlivens you both. And in the process of helping them clarify their thinking, the best in you emerges, you gain new insights into your own life challenges, and the flow of Love between you is increased.
If you are the MERCURY person:
The North Node individual has come into your life to help you think more clearly and realistically. On a subconscious level, your Soul wants you to grow in your mental capacity and this person is a catalyst to help you reach a higher level of thinking. Your mental prowess improves and ideas take shape when you’re around them.
They stimulate and expand your communication skills, while helping you to solve problems through logic and clear reasoning. This person will be very supportive of your ideas and understand your underlying world view. Even if your perspective and mental interests are quite different, they will be respectful and open to your thoughts. The flow of conversation is easy and natural. You may feel like you’ve known each other forever.
If you have been shy about revealing your thoughts and concerns in the past, you are not likely to feel inhibited with this person. As you develop the habit of lucid thinking and relaxed conversation with them, you gain confidence in dealing with your other relationships. By receiving their gift and allowing them to help you think more clearly, you return the favor and it becomes a shared blessing.
North Node Conjunct Venus
Venus reveals our love nature. Its placement in the birthchart—by house and by sign—indicates the manner in which we express and receive love, and what gives us pleasure in life.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Venus person’s life is to increase their sense of self-worth and to bring them good luck in the areas of love and money. Your appreciation and admiration validate them and help them to feel good about themselves. They recognize your good intentions as you open their heart to love and affection.
Verbalize your feelings about them. Talk about their talents and abilities and support them in activities that enhance their self-esteem. Your influence increases their self-acceptance and builds their confidence in their social skills.
As you validate what is special about them, you also feel good about yourself. The Love engendered by your relationship is a blessing for you both.
If you are the VENUS person:
Chances are you’ll fall in love with this person—like it or not. Their purpose in your life is to teach you how to love and experience pleasure. They expand your capacity for personal affection and heal obstructions that get in the way of your feeling Love for others. Their presence opens your heart in a healthy way.
As they activate this love in you, you in turn want to help them. You feel generous and affectionate toward this person. You understand them and overlook their faults. Even if they hurt you, your love understands that we all have personal flaws and you forgive them. They also validate you and enhance your sense of self-worth. Even if they let you down, your self-esteem does not suffer.
This person has entered your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is longing for you to experience more joy and pleasure in living. Since they make you feel beautiful and worthwhile, it is easier to attract others, so they are a boon for your social life. They are good luck for you in relationships, and they may even bring you financial benefits.
Your North Node partner will help you see life and relationships in a way that expands your capacity to experience love. There is a positive, mutual flow of love intrinsic to this connection, so when someone has their North Node on your Venus, spend time with them!
North Node Conjunct Mars
Mars rules the “warrior within.” Its placement in our birthchart reveals our sexual style, the way we assert ourselves, the areas where we most need to experience independence, and what motivates us.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Mars person’s life is to motivate them to take action. You sense their life force and have the innate ability to jumpstart their energy in a positive direction. Your enthusiasm supports their initiative and encourages them to follow their desires by bravely pursuing new pathways. Be confident that you are a positive force for your partner. When they express a desire to do something, step right up and lend encouragement.
If this is a sexual relationship, they will reveal their sexuality more comfortably and more spontaneously with you than with others. As you support their success with sexual expression, your relationship will be filled with mutual satisfaction.
In a non-sexual relationship, you are bringing them the gift of Love by showing interest in goals that are important to them. Encourage their independence and urge them to follow their dreams. You naturally know the right words to build up their confidence to express the “warrior within,” allowing them to become the leader in their life and manifest their desires. In the process of motivating them, you will increase your own level of boldness to pursue your goals for your own life.
If you are the MARS person:
When the North Node person encourages you to be assertive in the pursuit of your goals, take their advice. This individual can motivate you and help you learn how to take action in ways that promote your aims. They fuel your intentions when these intentions are in your best interest.
Whenever you lack courage or drive to take the next step, connect with this person. They will energize you. Share your dilemma with them, since they know what works best for you. The key is for you to first be clear about what you want, then reach out to them and let them motivate you to take action.
This person has entered your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is urging you to get in touch with your power to achieve success through rightful action. If you lack boldness, this person can light that spark for you. It is their job to help you heal self-sabotaging patterns that prevent you from getting the results you want. By following their advice, you in turn bring out the best in them and they are motivated to act successfully on their own behalf.
North Node Conjunct Jupiter
Jupiter in the chart reveals (by house and by sign) the areas of life where good fortune smiles on us. This is where we are intuitively connected to the beneficent forces of the Universe and consequently experience guidance that brings us spiritual and material happiness.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
You bring the Jupiter person the gift of helping them grow and establish a positive view of life. You may introduce ideas that expand their appreciation of culture, or you may enlighten their higher consciousness so that they find answers that were previously unavailable to them. In this way, you help them achieve peace of mind.
Encourage them to expand their horizons. Let them know you are interested in the areas where they most want to develop. If they express a desire to further their education or experience other cultures, show enthusiasm for these aims. Your support will expand their trust in life. You are like a good luck charm for them, opening them up to the flow of universal forces that bestow blessings and good fortune when we are ready to receive these gifts.
Your purpose in their life is to be a conduit to a higher level of awareness than they would be able to reach without your influence. As you encourage them to take risks and grow through new experiences, it brings out the best in you and increases the flow of Love between you.
If you are the JUPITER person:
Your North Node partner will encourage your desire for personal growth and self-development. Their influence in your life helps you to see that life is an adventure—and you want to be part of it! They have come into your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is calling for you to perceive life within a larger framework. They are destined to impact your spiritual growth and increase your faith in positive outcomes.
It may be that in trying to understand your relationship with them, you read a self-help book, draw closer to your church or spiritual group, or begin a practice of prayer or meditation. Through their influence you become ready to take the next step in your evolutionary journey by connecting with positive spiritual forces that bring you greater peace of mind.
This partner also provides positive guidance in terms of prosperity and abundance. They bring you good luck in the areas where Jupiter’s house placement in your birthchart naturally inclines you to receive such gifts. For example, if your Jupiter is in your 2nd House (money), you were born with good money karma. Their North Node conjoining your Jupiter increases this karmic asset, so when this person enters your life, your natural money magnetism is activated to attract financial blessings.
By actively receiving their gift and increasing your faith in positive spiritual forces, you simultaneously nurture your spiritual connection with them. And as the gift is activated, it becomes reciprocal. This is a winning situation for both of you.
North Node Conjunct Saturn
Saturn shows that part of us—by house and by sign—where we have been “damaged” due to having a lack of boundaries (both in a past incarnation and often reactivated in early childhood), and thus feel awkward and inadequate in this lifetime. We tend to have inhibitions and barriers in those areas that block us from full expression.
When the Saturn in one person’s chart conjoins the North Node in another’s chart, there is enormous potential for healing for both parties. This is a definite past life karmic connection in which the North Node person has promised the Saturn person to help release them from these limitations. Through this connection, the Saturn person feels energized and encouraged to successfully overcome old constraints. A deep bond is activated for both parties.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Saturn person’s life is to help them heal the area where they have been most damaged in the past. The damage occurred because of their lack of boundaries in this area. At the time they were injured, in that incarnation they did not have the knowledge and character development necessary to overcome their sense of failure in the situation. As a result, they now feel inept in creating success in that area of their life. For instance, if in a past life they didn’t set appropriate boundaries around money and lost their fortune as a result, now they may not feel confident in managing their finances successfully (Saturn 2nd House).
All Saturn-related karma is the result of not knowing how to take responsibility for creating success, and our natural tendency as human beings is to avoid areas where we feel uncomfortable. Your presence in their life naturally makes the Saturn person more receptive to dealing with these issues. Your influence helps them to stay “on path” and encourages them to expand their consciousness, increase their patience, and activate their self-discipline. In this way they gain experience and self-assurance in the part of their life where they feel restricted.
So take the initiative to encourage them wherever they feel inept. Demonstrate your faith in their dormant skills. Your presence automatically gives them renewed strength and confidence in their ability to take charge so they can evolve into their full potential and successfully reach their goals.
The reciprocity inherent in this conjunction lies in the fact that the Saturn person’s awkwardness pulls on you, demanding that you engage the energy of the house and sign of your North Node. On some level they recognize that only by activating your North Node potential and claiming your destiny will you have the strength to help them break down their barriers to success.
This process is not always easy or comfortable. If you are lazy and don’t enact your North Node attributes, they may pull back from the relationship—perhaps even abandon you. One way or another, your relationship with the Saturn person will force you to recognize the importance of these areas in your life so you can reach the next level of personal growth. In the end this is a win-win situation for both parties.
If you are the SATURN person:
Saturn represents the area where we most want to experience success, yet feel the most deeply inadequate and fear failure due to an injury experienced in a past incarnation and often reactivated in early childhood. This injury occurred due to a lack of boundaries in a situation that was important to you. For instance, you may have gotten hurt in a romantic relationship because you failed to establish personal boundaries with your partner. Now in this lifetime you feel awkward and unsuccessful in the area of romantic relationships (Saturn in the 5th House).
The North Node person has entered your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is calling for you to gain the confidence you need to overcome these fears, learn to establish appropriate boundaries, and create success in this area. Their influence helps disintegrate old restrictions that have been holding you back. They validate you and give you self-assurance where you need it the most.
Your North Node partner recognizes your underlying talents and has faith in your abilities. They refuse to buy into your feelings of insufficiency and are willing to help you actualize your potential to take charge and achieve success. In spite of your imperfections, awkwardness, and flaws, you feel appreciated and loved by this person—somehow they “get” who you really are.
They will bring you positive expansion in areas where you have injuries stemming from past life issues or from your relationship with a parent, and have felt inhibited and limited—the areas of life where your Saturn is located. For example, if your Saturn is in the 10th House (your career and/or reputation is involved), they will be supportive of your career and will help to expand your reputation. If your Saturn is in the 2nd House, your finances are likely to increase. With Saturn in the 3rd House, your communication skills improve, etc.
This is an excellent marriage, partnership, or friendship connection. By respecting their values and allowing this person to be an integral part of your life, you make your journey and healing your karma so much easier. Don’t take them for granted. They are bringing you the gift of freedom from the insecurities that can paralyze you and keep you from fulfilling your dreams.
In fact, this person brings you the potential to experience what you have always longed for on the deepest level (depending on the sign placement of your Saturn at birth): Aries = authenticity, Taurus = self-worth, Gemini = acceptance, Cancer = nurturing, Leo = approval, Virgo = a sense of order, Libra = harmony, Scorpio = empowerment, Sagittarius = freedom, Capricorn = respect, Aquarius = understanding, Pisces = trust.
North Node Conjunct Uranus
The placement of Uranus in our birthchart reveals, by house and by sign, that part of us that longs to experience the aliveness of change and new levels of awareness.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Uranus individual’s life is to awaken them to the positive possibilities of change and encourage them to make choices that add excitement to their lives. By supporting them and giving approval and value to their distinct brand of individuality, you set them free to follow new enlivening avenues of self-actualization.
Uranus in their birthchart shows the area in which they are most uniquely themselves, where they are following their own path rather than heeding the dictates of society. You validate their innovative approaches and help jolt them out of any stagnant ruts they may be stuck in.
Freely encourage them to be themselves and to take action that is intuitively in alignment with their inner being. If they have a desire for change or want to reform society (or their immediate environment) in a constructive way, support their aims and be willing to engage in the experiment with them. Being true to the self within ignites their aliveness and allows them to take the next step on their evolutionary journey. You are the catalyst who can make it happen. And in the process of supporting their uniqueness, the best in you becomes free to rejuvenate your life as well.
If you are the URANUS person:
The North Node person has entered your life because on some deep level your Soul is longing for you to shrug off the pressures of social conventions and begin to follow your own innovative spirit. Their job is to encourage you to try new paths and take chances that ultimately disrupt the status quo and lead you to a higher level in your evolutionary journey. The old structures have served their function and are holding you back. It’s time to replace them with new and exciting avenues that awaken your energy and aliveness.
If you find yourself stuck in an uncomfortable situation, this person will help you to see new possibilities. They support your unconventionality, and their influence creates an inner awakening in you that leads to greater freedom in your life. By receiving their gift, it becomes activated and reciprocal. So when you have flashes of intuition and inspiration, this person will be right there with you on the journey, gaining new insights and aliveness for themselves as well.
North Node Conjunct Neptune
Neptune reveals, by house and by sign, the area in which we experience our deepest need for unconditional love, trust, and reliance on a power greater than ourselves. It is where we most long to connect with Divine Love and experience a state of inspiration, bliss, and unlimited joy.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
On a Soul level, the Neptune person has called out to you to validate their spiritual path. You will feel naturally inclined to support them as they look to a Higher Power for their inspiration. Your purpose in their life is to encourage them to pursue the vision or dream they would like to manifest. If they have a spiritual ideal or mystical approach to life, your influence bolsters their progress.
You instinctively know how to support their idealistic, artistic, mystical, spiritual nature so that they can take the next step of their evolutionary journey. Regardless of what spiritual or artistic path they have chosen to follow, support their efforts to become more unconditionally loving. Suggesting disciplines such as meditation, yoga, and other mystical pursuits can lead to bliss and open them to guidance from a Higher Power.
Your influence can bring out the healer in them, which in turn helps them to become a greater inspiration and healing influence for others. In the process of encouraging their spiritual development, the best in you emerges and you are inspired to seek a higher path in your own life.
If you are the NEPTUNE person:
Your North Node partner has entered your life because on a subconscious level your Soul is calling for you to grow spiritually and experience Love on a whole new level. They help to clarify any confusion or delusion that may be hindering your spiritual path, which enables you to more fully actualize your spiritual potential.
You are ready to take the next step in your evolutionary journey by connecting with a Higher Spiritual Power. This may take the form of developing your creativity or entail a search for mystical truths through esoteric studies. This person will inspire your creative or artistic talents or interests. They honor the gentleness in your nature and your sensitivity to subtle forces. And you gain confidence and strength from their support.
This person encourages your dreams, visions, and mystical inclinations. They can spot the pitfalls that are blocking your progress and preventing you from manifesting your dreams—and they can help you in making your dreams come true.
If you have been dealing with the challenge of addictive substances or behaviors, their presence in your life can help you conquer your dependency. They will be a healing, soothing influence, supporting you in following forms of relaxation and purification such as yoga, meditation, or fasting. They listen and are interested when you discuss these subjects. By receiving their gift, the energy becomes activated and reciprocal. So as you become more trusting and reliant on the guidance of higher spiritual energies, you inspire them to expand their own spiritual journey as well.
North Node Conjunct Pluto
Pluto reveals, by house and by sign, the area of our life where we most want to demonstrate power. This urge is often suppressed by our environment in childhood, leaving us feeling powerless and terrified to use our power. Pluto’s placement also shows us where a purging or cleansing must take place in order for us to consciously reconnect with our potency and learn how to use it in a healthy way.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Pluto person’s life is to encourage change and personal empowerment. You help to reactivate their sense of potency and learn how to use it appropriately. One way to do this is by validating their positive qualities. Your partner automatically feels more charismatic, energized, and powerful because of your influence.
It is appropriate for you to show an interest in their affairs and encourage them to take risks that lead to healthy transformation. Don’t hesitate to be firm when steering them in the direction of commitments and actions that will be empowering for them. Inspire them to transform areas of fear and suppression into bold and positive action. By supporting their strengths and encouraging them to take actions that test their character, you nurture their moral fiber.
Your influence helps them to recognize and accept the dark side of others—and themselves—and work with this energy in a way that leads to a healing for all concerned. In the process of encouraging their potency, the best in you also grows stronger. As the gift is activated, it becomes reciprocal and inspires you to take risks that result in personal empowerment in your own life.
If you are the PLUTO person:
Your Soul has attracted this person into your life because it’s time for you to accept your power and learn to use it wisely. Your North Node partner totally supports you in taking control of your own life and rising to a position of autonomy—they would never try to suppress your power in any way.
Their counsel helps to clear up any misgivings you may have about your own skills and talents, and how to use them as powerful, positive tools. For example, if you are sabotaging yourself by using your power to “bulldoze” others, they can help you learn to use your strength in constructive ways that empower everyone in the situation—including yourself.
If you hesitate to express your power because you fear the reaction of others, their confidence in you gently assists you in releasing your inhibitions so your charisma can shine forth. Their support can help you heal any past experiences that may have led to feelings of powerlessness that are now holding you back. Their presence in your life reveals to you how powerful you really are, and helps you express your personal power on a more effective, highly evolved level.
By tuning in to their positive and transformative influence, you grow stronger and gain confidence in your abilities. And when you accept their gift, the energy is activated and becomes reciprocal. So as you allow them to help you transform into a more powerful positive presence, you simultaneously bring out the best in them and their personal power is also increased.
North Node Conjunct Chiron
Chiron’s placement in the birthchart reveals a wound that we experienced in a past incarnation. We subconsciously carry this painful memory into this life so that we may be healed from the erroneous conclusions we reached at the time the wound occurred.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in the Chiron person’s life is to help them heal from a past life incident in which they experienced tremendous and unexpected pain. An event or betrayal wounded them in a way that was never resolved, and from this trauma they drew conclusions about life that are incorrect. Now they are unconsciously repressing the area where Chiron is found in their chart to try to avoid the pain of unexpected repercussions. As a result, they unconsciously engage in behaviors that attract the same type of painful experiences into their life.
It is likely that you were present in the past life when this wound first occurred, and so you have special insights that can help free them from this pattern. So if you observe that in part of their life they have difficulty expressing themselves fully and repeatedly experience pain, encourage them to examine that area by asking questions to better understand where they are coming from. Have confidence that your insights and influence can validate their ability to heal themselves by helping them to move forward in those areas they have been avoiding, which has limited their journey of self-actualization. Once this happens, they will have developed the tools that empower them to be a wise healer for others.
If you are the CHIRON person:
The North Node person is in your life to help you heal a debilitating wound incurred in a past life that is still keeping you from achieving your full potential. This wound may affect you physically or psychologically, and it may be the cause of a fear of having faith in certain areas of your life.
At the time the wound occurred, your conclusions about what caused it—and your ideas of what would prevent it from occurring in the future—were erroneous. Consequently, you are now living your life with incorrect programming about how to get what you want in areas associated with the wound. For example, if in a past life you tripped while hiking, fell off a cliff, and died, your final thought may have been: “How did this happen? My partner must have pushed me.” In future lives you may continue to enjoy hiking, but every time you stumble or fall, the same faulty conclusion arises: “It’s my partner’s fault that I tripped.” So you either keep getting hurt, give up hiking, or become distrustful of your partner.
This person has entered your life to help you gain awareness of the real reason behind the pain you are experiencing in this area so that you can reach your goals without further suffering. In the above example, they may point out to you: “Actually, the reason you tripped was because there was a rock on the path that you didn’t notice. If you pick your feet up higher and watch for rocks, you won’t stumble and fall anymore.” It’s like an “aha” when the truth is revealed. As soon as you understand the real cause of the original wound, you can begin to heal. And the knowledge you gain empowers you to help others learn to hike safely.
It is likely this person was with you in the past life scenario when this wounding occurred, and that is why they can see the precise misunderstanding that is still holding you back. Their gift to you is an awareness of this wound and of the path that can lead to healing.
North Node Conjunct Ascendant
The Ascendant, or Rising Sign, rules the 1st House—the House of the self. It reveals our personality and our style of presenting ourselves to others. It also shows our body type, our demeanor, and our instinctive way of interacting with our environment.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
Your purpose in this person’s life is to help them attain confident self-expression. You are aware of their positive inner qualities, understand their good intentions, and encourage the gifts they have to share with others. You can also see the ways in which they express themselves that keep others from seeing who they really are.
By freely complimenting their abilities and validating their strengths, you help them bring out their positive qualities so that others can better appreciate them. In the process of encouraging them to be a strong leader in their own life, your own strength will simultaneously be increased.
If you are the ASCENDANT person:
The North Node individual has entered your life because on a deep level your Soul is calling for you to strengthen your personality. This person validates your good points and helps you improve your presentation to others. They can see how you sometimes sabotage yourself; they know when you are being untrue to yourself. Their influence helps you display your best characteristics so that you can more easily attain your goals. For example, they may notice that you are a highly intelligent person who is giving just the opposite impression. They will bring this to your attention and help you learn to express yourself in ways that more clearly reflect your true nature. Then others can be more appreciative of the inner you.
As you accept their gift, its energy is activated and becomes reciprocal, so in strengthening your positive qualities and becoming more authentic, you bring out the best in them.
North Node Conjunct the Midheaven
The Midheaven is the sign that rules the 10th House, which represents the areas of profession, status, and issues of authority. Any North Node conjunction to the angles (2 degree orb) is karmic, a gift to be given.
If you are the NORTH NODE person:
You have joined this person’s path to support them in taking charge and becoming the CEO in their own life. You have the innate ability to help them overcome any past life misunderstandings in the areas of their profession, their status, or any issues regarding authority. Compliment their abilities to shine in public situations. Your influence automatically encourages them to gain status, improve their public image, and reach goals that are important to them. As you help them heal any hindrance that blocks their success, your own competency is validated and your sense of self-respect is increased.
If you are the MIDHEAVEN person:
Your Soul is calling for you to more efficiently take charge of your own destiny. This person has come into your life to encourage you to activate your energy to accomplish this. Without Divine Intervention in the form of the North Node person with this aspect who has come into your life, you might never get to the root of past life misunderstandings in these areas and gain the clarity you need to experience success. Their presence automatically gives you confidence in your ability to achieve public recognition. They help you display competency in your work and experience good fortune in the pursuit of your goals.
North Node Conjunct North Node
If two people share the same nodal position—and therefore are learning similar lessons—one of two scenarios is possible: They can either indulge each other’s blind spots and continue in their unconscious dysfunctional behaviors, or they can consciously work together and gently help each other to rise above these self-sabotaging patterns. By choosing the path of mutual growth and pulling together to face the challenge of overcoming common obstacles, they can create a most exciting and satisfying relationship.
There can be additional factors to consider beyond sharing the same nodal position. For example, if one partner is a Cancer North Node person and the other person also has North Node Cancer or Cancer in the 4th House (Cancer’s natural home and therefore the same challenge), they can let each other get away with avoiding feelings and not being vulnerable. Or they can work together to encourage each other to slow down, gain awareness, and reveal what they are truly feeling as life’s situations unfold. This creates the satisfaction of true intimacy, which both deeply long for.
North Node Conjunct South Node
When two people have a “nodal reversal”—i.e., the North Node of one person conjoins the South Node of the other—you are here to help correct karmic imbalances from past incarnations. When you first meet this person, you will feel compelled to share a tremendous amount of information with each other. This is due to the fact that whatever you have experienced in excess in past lives (as represented by the sign of your South Node) is exactly the information the other person needs to activate the qualities of their North Node and move forward in their evolutionary journey—and vice versa.
In addition, when the other person’s North Node conjuncts your South Node and you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, they will also help to bring clarity and healing to the area of the house ruled by the planet that conjuncts your South Node. This is a specific area where a trait that you exhibited to excess in a past incarnation has been carried into this lifetime and is causing negative consequences.
South Node Conjunctions
Past Life Contracts
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In this section, some of the South Node contacts will be covered more extensively than others. This is because some planet/South Node combinations just naturally go more deeply into the past life imprints between the two people involved. This is not an easy or pleasant connection with another Soul, yet it offers a great opportunity for personal growth and self-actualization.
If someone has their South Node conjunct one of your planets, they will tend to have a seemingly negative impact in areas of your life that fall under that planet’s rulership. They can’t help but inadvertently siphon off some of that planet’s positive potential for your life. However, this debilitating influence becomes a gift, since you (the planetary person) are forced to develop tremendous self-sufficiency, shore up the weak spots, and overcome any unhealthy tendencies that hold you back in that area. The South Node person does not allow you to get away with living on an unconscious level, which forces you to confront that dysfunctional part of yourself and learn to express it with more maturity and confidence than would have been possible without the South Node influence. Ultimately, their influence increases your strength, individuality, and self-reliance in the area represented by the planet that conjuncts their South Node.
When the South Node person affecting you also has a planet conjoining their own South Node, they have a specific contract with you—a debt to be repaid. It’s as though in a past life they harmed your psyche with some debilitating form of co-dependency that held you back and continues to do so in this incarnation. Now they are here to undo the damage. This process of healing is often painful. The South Node person’s influence may stir up the initial hurt and undermine your initiative until you gain enough strength to independently express that damaged part within you in a healthy way. It’s almost as if they compress your energy so that it can then more fully expand.
Even if it seems that the South Node person doesn’t love you, they are actually here to help you learn to recognize what doesn’t work for you. They are subconsciously invested in your “getting it right” because when that wounded part of you has been healed, the positive potential (shown by the position of the North Node in their chart) that was forfeited through their past actions is restored to them.
If both people continue operating on an unconscious level, their relationship will unfold in a way that is instinctive and predictably unpleasant. However, armed with the above information, the parties involved can make a conscious decision to alter the situation. For instance, by gaining awareness of the position of their South Node in another’s chart, the South Node person can choose the high road and deliberately put positive energy into the area where they would normally drain energy. For example, if your South Node conjoins your partner’s Mercury, rather than invalidate their thinking (which would be your unconscious instinct), you can go out of your way to encourage their ideas, thus demonstrating your awareness that their style of thinking is legitimate for them. In this way you clear yourself of whatever misconduct occurred in a past incarnation and open yourself to greater success and freedom in this lifetime.
If you are the person with the planet involved in the conjunction, by consciously working to become more independent in expressing the qualities of the planet involved, you clear the unhealthy energy that blocks you and open the door to possibilities for success and fulfillment in the areas of your life related to that planet.
South Node Conjunct the Sun
The Sun shows our creative life purpose—our style of leadership and the special gifts and talents that, when expressed, cause us to shine. It’s our unique “role” in life, and when we play it well, it boosts our vitality and happy childlike sense of self.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
You unconsciously sap your partner’s vital life force and self-confidence as they strive to create significance in their own life. For example, I had a client whose South Node was conjunct her brother’s Sun. With his Sun in Taurus in his 10th House, he had worldly ambitions and material goals. This was the correct path for him. She was a spiritually oriented person, who criticized his values and ambitions. She loved her brother, but by undermining the value of what he was striving for, she unwittingly drained his life force and invalidated his successes.
To be a supportive influence in the Sun person’s life, the first step is to recognize that their life goals and the creative paths they take to achieve them is their way, not yours. By encouraging them in their pursuits you can validate and strengthen them. It will take a conscious effort on your part: “Congratulations on creating such a success! I knew you could do it!” But by going out of your way to deliberately boost their vitality by supporting the creative life direction that energizes them, you open yourself to their support of your own goals.
If you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, this is a payback lifetime and you have a specific contract with this person. There was likely a past incarnation in which you inflated their ego for your own benefit in a way that was not healthy for them. This damaged their sense of personal power and their ability to use their talents and creative energy for purposes they deem worthwhile. It also encouraged false ideas that are still undermining them in this lifetime.
For example, perhaps in a previous life you complimented their beauty and allure and then sent them out into the streets to make money for you. As a result, they now tend to express their leadership and creative life force in self-sabotaging ways.
So in this lifetime you have an opportunity to help them heal a deep wound that you initially participated in creating. You are uniquely equipped to “see” where their sense of self is exaggerated and “off base.” By not letting them get away with this, you prompt them to express their creativity in ways that reflect their innate individuality. On the most conscious level, you will be able to see the true special talents and creative gifts this person has to offer. The best possible karmic resolution is for you to encourage them to express those gifts in alignment with Truth so that the results will bring them authentic personal happiness.
If you are the SUN person:
If your partner’s South Node conjoins your Sun, their influence can unintentionally drain your vitality and suppress your creative force. They don’t let you simply be yourself in a natural way because your style of taking charge and creating results in your life doesn’t mesh with their own. They may disapprove of the manner in which you conduct your life and feel that you are capable of achieving more. In fact, you may never feel this person’s total support unless you attain what they feel to be your true potential.
For example, one client had a wife whose South Node was on his Sun. He was the sole breadwinner for the family and she took care of the home and children. To fulfill his role, she insisted that he have a steady job working in a bank, which denied his own creative talents and need for self-expression. When they divorced, he immediately left the bank and entered the field of creative technology—a profession that makes him feel happy and fulfilled.
What is happening with this dynamic is that in a past life the South Node person inadvertently damaged your sense of personal power and now “owes you” the gift of regaining confidence in your individuality and your ability to create your own destiny. So they unconsciously invalidate your style of creating results, which prevents you from relying on them and compels you to turn inward and become more aware of your own true values. Through their influence, you finally reach the point where you resolve to “be me and that’s it!”
In addition, if the South Node person is in your inner circle and also has a planet conjunct their own South Node, in a past incarnation they may have deliberately inflated your ego and encouraged false ideas for their own personal gain. This damaged your sense of personal power in ways that are still undermining you. So in this lifetime they have a contract with you to heal these specific past life injustices and help you find your strength on a deeper level than ever before. As you become consciously aware of how this person’s influence constrains you, you not only become stronger, but also begin listening to your own inner voice in making decisions and creating your own destiny.
South Node Conjunct the Moon
The energy of the Moon is a valid urge inside the human psyche. It is the longing for the “mother” and her unconditional love and acceptance. Thus the Moon represents our deepest personal urge to connect: our needs for intimacy, for nurturing and being nurtured, and for a sense of belonging.
The Moon’s placement in our chart—by house and by sign—shows those areas where we most long for these experiences. Since the Moon represents our feeling nature, its placement also indicates that area in which we are most non-verbal. As a result, in the domain where it is found we tend to expect those who care about us to instinctively be aware of our deepest needs.
The Moon’s aspects to the other planets indicate the ease or difficulty we are likely to encounter in getting these needs met. If one partner’s South Node is on the other partner’s Moon, it indicates that there is a block to the natural flow of spontaneous nurturing in the connection. This is one of the most difficult relationship aspects, yet it is frequently found between mates. However, it presents a tremendous opportunity for personal growth, since it will require heightened awareness, conscious effort, and a willingness to change from both partners in order to create a mutually satisfying bond.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
When your South Node is on your partner’s Moon, over time their experience is that you don’t give them what they need in order to feel secure, supported, and cared about. At the same time, your experience is that no matter how much you give them, they always need more. Until one or both of you become consciously aware of this dynamic, your relationship is likely to become a source of frustration and disappointment.
On a practical level, you may in fact be giving a great deal to your partner, but it’s not a “match” for what they actually need on a deep level. As the relationship progresses and your partner starts feeling emotionally insecure and unloved, they may subconsciously begin to retaliate by withholding what you need to feel loved. Then a negative spiral is created where neither of you are getting what you need in order to feel fulfilled and taken care of in the relationship.
In dealing with the situation, it’s helpful to understand that one way this aspect affects the Moon person is that it doesn’t occur to them to verbalize what it is they need from you. And one of the effects for you is that subconsciously, you’re not tuned in to what this person needs from you unless they tell you. However, as the South Node person you hold the power to overcome these obstacles by making a conscious effort to ask the Moon person what it is they need from you in order to feel supported and cared about. Even though this may feel awkward at first, validating their emotional needs in this way will greatly be to your advantage. When the Moon person feels deeply understood and happy, their loving energy comes back to you in ways that more than make up for your extra effort.
As your awareness grows, you may also notice that—on a deep level—your first instinct is to pull away from your partner’s need for closeness. This reaction stems from unconscious memories of many family-based past incarnations between you in which unhealthy co-dependent relationships robbed both of you of opportunities for personal growth. This knowledge allows you to avoid the pitfall of co-dependency in this lifetime by remaining separate and whole while consciously choosing to validate your partner’s feelings because of the love you feel for them.
The healthiest resolution is for you to continue to ask the Moon person what they need from you while lovingly encouraging them to verbalize their needs on an ongoing basis. They will feel grateful that you asked, and it will make them happy. The more they feel cared about in the relationship the easier it will be for them to take the important step of asking for what they need. It is also important for you to remember to ask for what you need from them as well.
If you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, this is a payback lifetime and you have a specific contract with this person. In a previous incarnation, you may have deliberately bound this person to you in a way that caused them to lose touch with their own personal essence. Their identity became enmeshed with yours, and their security was dependent on your decisions. In this way you robbed them of their self-reliance and their ability to grow in emotionally healthy ways. As a result, they still have difficulty establishing healthy relationships. In this lifetime, it is your job to consciously help them to restore their emotional self-sufficiency without injuring their heart—to let them know they are loved and supported for who they really are without enslaving them.
If you are the MOON person:
The Moon in the birthchart reveals where we have the deepest need to feel understood, nurtured, and cared about by another. This is the area where we feel most vulnerable and experience ourselves as lacking completion. Thus we need support and encouragement from another Soul in order to gain a deep sense of satisfaction. The Moon also shows our receptive nature—where we most want to experience the feeling of “family” and be able to depend on another to care about us.
When a partner’s South Node falls on your Moon, it can bring disappointment and feelings of being unloved and unsupported. This person may not be tuned in to your emotional needs and it can seem like they never give you what you’re really longing for. This is due to their unconscious memories of many family-based past lives in which there were unhealthy co-dependent relationships between you. As a result, every time you expect this person to fulfill your needs, they unconsciously pull away in order to prevent a co-dependency from reoccuring.
Clearly you have a past history of great love for each other that continues into this lifetime, but because of the co-dependency it hasn’t been expressed in a healthy way. This incarnation brings the necessary lessons that can teach you to differentiate between being co-dependent and taking responsible action to ensure that your needs are met. Now you have the opportunity to learn to verbalize your needs so that the co-dependency dynamic isn’t triggered.
If you leave this issue on a non-verbal level and continue to assume that your partner automatically “knows” what you need, the relationship will probably become a source of dissatisfaction for both of you. With this aspect, your partner cannot know your needs unless you verbalize them. But if you make a conscious effort to tell your South Node partner what you need from them in order to feel cared about, they are very likely to respond in a way that makes you feel validated and loved.
For instance, if in order to feel cared about on a deep level you need to hear the words “I love you” on a daily basis and just assume your partner will tell you, you will be disappointed and—over time—may begin to feel that your partner doesn’t really care about you. However, if you take responsibility to tell your partner that this is what you need and they give it to you, your emotional needs will be met and validated. Then you will experience satisfaction and also be more willing to give them what they need in order to feel cared about.
If this person is in your inner circle, and if they also have a planet conjunct their own South Node, then in a past incarnation they may have deliberately created a co-dependency with you for their own personal gain. In this case, they have a specific contract with you in this lifetime to help restore your emotional self-sufficiency. In either case, you have attracted this person into your life because on a deep level your Soul is calling for you to learn how to become more emotionally independent—the next step in your evolutionary journey.
South Node Conjunct Mercury
Mercury rules the conscious mind. The house and sign where it is found in our birthchart shows the way we think, what we think about, and our style of communication.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
If you do not consciously share ideas with your Mercury partner, you will likely invalidate their thoughts in areas that are important to them and become a discouraging influence in their life. To you, the way they view the world and cope with day-to-day reality usually doesn’t measure up to your standards. Your less than respectful attitude toward their opinions may discourage them.
On an unconscious level, what is happening is that the position they are coming from when they express their views is one that you operated from excessively in past lives. So when they communicate with you, you become agitated because—on an internal level—you “know” that to participate in this style of thinking in this lifetime will cause you to lose ground in terms of your own personal growth. However, it is important for you to understand that it is appropriate for the Mercury person to operate from this position.
As the South Node person, you hold the power that determined the outcome in this part of the relationship. In order to create success, pull back and become more aware of your own separate identity. Make a special point of encouraging the Mercury person to independently pursue those interests that are mentally stimulating for them. Consciously validate their view of life as correct for them—without thinking that it has to work for you. Encourage them to spend time with other friends who think as they do. In this way, their need for an exciting exchange of ideas can be satisfied without depending on you.
If you are the MERCURY person:
Your South Node partner doesn’t take your ideas seriously, and rarely respects your point of view. In past incarnations, they operated excessively from the framework within which you currently view life, and sense that it is not healthy for them to participate in this style of thinking during this lifetime. Thus, when they experience YOUR thought pattern, they tend to ignore it or invalidate it. They may love you, but they certainly don’t validate your intelligence or encourage your ability to view life in terms of the bigger picture. Rather than try to change them, a more realistic solution is to rely on other friends for the intellectual stimulation you need.
If this person also has a planet conjunct their own South Node, it is likely that you had a past life connection in which your mental bond created an imbalance that you still carry. You may at first have connected intellectually in order to achieve a mutual goal, but then became co-dependent in a way that was undermining for both of you. For example, if you were a scientist, they may have used your brilliant thinking to further their own aims. Or maybe they convinced you to use your abilities for something that was important to them at your own expense.
To clear this past life debt, the South Node person has come into your life to give you confidence in using your own thought processes and ideas without needing validation from them. They owe you the gift of mental independence, and this is why they don’t seem to “hear” you and continue to belittle your ideas. Their attitude forces you to connect with others for mental stimulation and to expand your worldview to higher levels. This person also forces you to strengthen your confidence in your own truth and in the validity of the framework within which you view life.
South Node Conjunct Venus
Venus rules love and relationships. A Venus/South Node conjunction is a contract involving love and romantic relationships that is scheduled to be reactivated and resolved. Venus also rules money, and that may be an additional factor in your connection with this Soul.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
When you first meet, if you feel an immediate attraction to this person it is a past life connection involving an intense, passionate, love relationship. This could be for good or ill: an unfulfilled romance that you both longed for all the rest of your lives, or an enemy from whom you robbed the passionate romantic love they desired.
One possible scenario: the two of you were seventeen years old—at the height of passion and idealism—and newly married. There’s a knock at the cottage door—it’s the army recruiting “all able-bodied men for the war.” She says: “Don’t go!” His final words are: “I’ll be back!” He dies on the battlefield, and his last thought is longing to be with her again. She waits for him her whole life, dreaming about how perfect things would have been if he had been by her side. Thus, there is a strong fantasy component to the relationship.
So now in this lifetime your wishes are being fulfilled: You have another chance to experience life together. However, when you actually live with this person, over time you may find that they are not who you imagined them to be at all. Even in the past incarnation had the relationship not been interrupted, you may have discovered after a couple of years that you didn’t even like this person. This is why—as the relationship progresses, it is important to determine if the Venus person is someone with whom you feel a true affinity. If you do, then this is a past life love connection that brought so much happiness to you both that you vowed to meet again.
However, it’s possible that when you first meet this person, your inner voice may warn of caution. In this case—especially if you also have a planet conjunct your own South Node—it may be that in a past life you deliberately prevented the Venus person from being with the person they loved for your own selfish reasons. For example, if you were the Venus person’s father in a past incarnation, you may have forced her to marry a rich, powerful husband instead of the man she truly loved. As a result, in this lifetime you may unconsciously tend to undermine the Venus person in this area of their life. However, since you owe them a specific karmic debt, it is in your best interests to make a conscious effort to support their romantic relationships.
If you are the VENUS person:
This aspect between two people shows a passionate love connection that was unresolved in a past life. Usually it was a positive relationship with idealistic expectations for a euphoric future. You were probably mates, and when death came the feelings of love between you had not been fully realized. Thus the attraction and longing for each other continued into this lifetime.
This does not necessarily mean that you are destined to again become mates, but only that there is something unfinished between you that needs resolution so you can both continue your evolutionary journey with a full heart. This conjunction does tend to “hold” in that this person may be with you this entire lifetime. However, your connection may be based in friendship and shared activities rather than as intimate partners.
One word of caution: You tend to be very permissive with this person. However, if you overlook their flaws at your own expense you could get hurt in terms of your sense of self-worth. Also, you may notice that whenever you allow your affection for the South Node person to open your heart and become fully vulnerable, they tend to push you away. This is due to your past life bond being so strong that an unhealthy co-dependency developed between you, undermining your ability to love wisely. Now this person is here to give you back that part of yourself by strengthening your independence and teaching you how to share love with another without losing yourself in the process.
Occasionally this aspect shows a past life tragedy of hatred and revenge involving a love object. If this person also has a planet conjunct their own South Node, in a past incarnation they may have deliberately kept you from the person you loved. Perhaps they were a wealthy landowner who bought a young woman to be their sexual partner. If you two were lovers, you (the Venus person in this incarnation) may have been injured by the South Node person when you tried to rescue your sweetheart. If this type of scenario occurred, then in this lifetime you will feel an automatic animosity toward the South Node person, and on an unconscious level you may tend to undermine each other’s romantic relationships. In this case, their gift to you may be releasing the prize you both fought over in the past.
South Node Conjunct Mars
Mars rules sex, initiative, courage, and aggression—the forces that motivate us to take action. The house and sign placement of Mars in the birthchart indicate in what part of our life this urge will be most energized. When this conjunction occurs, you have been brought together to resolve unfinished business from a past life in one of these areas.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
If this is a romantic/sexual relationship, it probably began with intense attraction and explosive passion. However, once the past life passion has played out, you may begin to feel less attracted to this partner. As the South Node person, you hold the power to maintain the physical intimacy. You need to be the one to recognize your partner’s sexual overtures and to validate and respond to them. The physical connection between you must be consciously transformed to a whole new level of mutual sexual enjoyment and intimacy in order for the relationship to succeed.
Mars also rules the way in which we go after the things we want. If you are operating on a subconscious level, when they get excited about a plan, you may have reservations and think it isn’t going to work: “Oh, my God, you’re married and have three kids. You could never do that!” Every time they start getting motivated to DO something, your tendency will be to throw a wet blanket on their initiative. Often they respond by not discussing things with you because of your negativity.
On a deeper level, you instinctively know that you are not allowed to participate in the style of energy they are displaying. However, it is appropriate for them in this lifetime and, in fact, causes them to thrive. Healing this part of the relationship requires you to make a conscious new choice. If you’re not going to support them on their personal path, at least don’t rain on their parade. For this relationship to be really successful, a better choice would be to consciously reverse your innate reaction: “Peter, I know you can do that!” The irony here is that once you begin to support their direction, you will find that they will reciprocate by having a more positive attitude about the changes you would like to see come about in the relationship.
What is happening on an unconscious level is that at some point in a past life, you combined your energy in a co-dependent way in order to reach a common goal. So now when they get excited about a plan, you tend to push them away to prevent a co-dependency from forming that might pull you off your own independent path. You also drain energy from their initiative so that they will stop relying on you and regain their strength and confidence in being able to go after things on their own, without your help.
If you are the MARS person:
If this is a romantic relationship, at the onset it may well be among the most intensive sexual experiences of your life. It will seem like destiny, and you’ll often feel certain that you will never again find such a powerful connection. However, over time, the sexual aspect will likely begin to change. The South Node person may not seem all that interested anymore, and their rejection could cause you to shut down your sexual energy. In order for the physical intimacy to continue, you need to become more aware of what pleases your partner. Rather than act on your own instincts in this area, you will both experience more satisfaction if you consciously cooperate with their sexual energy and desires.
If the relationship is non-sexual, it is probably a family member or other close connection with whom you have unfinished business from a past life. Your relationship will most likely have to do with combining energies on a project or joint financial venture.
If a significant person enters your life with this aspect, you have a contract with them stemming from a past life incompletion. Especially if they have a planet conjoining their South Node, they may have deliberately played a part in undermining your independence and initiative. Now they have a contract to make it up to you in this lifetime by helping you reclaim your ability to take the lead and assert yourself. Their influence may “compress” your initiative, invalidating the way you currently make decisions and take leadership.
However, just by becoming aware of this dynamic helps restore you to your personal boldness so that you resolve to take leadership in your own life and do it in your own way, no matter what! Even so, it’s best not to share your next plan of action with this person, as they can still inadvertently drain energy from your initiative.
Regardless of the role they are playing in your life, it is in your best interests not to fight directly with this person, since you are likely to lose. Ultimately, they have the upper hand in using the energy of the sign depicted—an “unfair” advantage that can undermine your desire to find solutions. When they have successfully paid back this karmic debt to you, they are also free of the burden of the past wrongdoing and the special spiritual connection suspended for their misdeed is restored to them.
South Node Conjunct Jupiter
Jupiter shows where we are naturally lucky. We have spiritual support in this area that helps us to win consistently on the material level. Jupiter is our natural connection with a Higher Power that protects us, guides us to victory, and grants us good luck wherever it is placed in our birthchart.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
Unless you gain awareness of the underlying dynamic of this conjunction, you are likely to inadvertently invalidate the other person’s process of personal growth, their expansion, and their philosophical beliefs and approaches to life. Where they are naturally optimistic and lucky, your influence may discourage them. This is because their philosophical approaches to life do not work for you, but they do work for them. As the South Node person, you hold the power to shift the outcome in this area of the relationship. In order to create success, you need to pull back and become more aware of your own separate identity. You can consciously validate your partner’s style and process of personal growth and development as being “on track” for them, without feeling that it has to work for you.
Especially if you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, this meeting is a matter of destiny—a past life contract to pay a debt. In a prior incarnation, you may have deliberately encouraged this person in excessive behaviors for your own personal gain. Although they may have been temporarily successful in that lifetime, a co-dependency was formed in which they trusted you more than their own conscience or connection with Truth. Your influence fostered an attitude of “careless good luck” and validated a system of morality and ethics that was not correct. The Jupiter person has carried these patterns into the present incarnation.
So now this person will once again tend to trust you openheartedly in an unconscious and co-dependent way. However, your innate reaction will be to push them away from this blind spot. Your influence will help them overcome their tendency to choose the easier path of trusting another’s values over their own sense of integrity and truth. You also have a unique ability to see where their ethics are “off” and withhold your approval and support. Ultimately this can force them to turn to their own inner connection with Truth and align themselves with a spiritual path they can hold to on their own. On the most conscious level, you can also resolve the past debt by applauding them when they choose the high road over material or sensual rewards.
If you are the JUPITER person:
This person doesn’t understand—and really isn’t interested in—your spiritual ideals, your philosophical beliefs, or your faith in positive outcomes. Your personal style and the plans you have for expanding your world may not be supported or validated by them. In the area in which you most naturally have confidence and a history of good luck, their lack of faith in you can cause you to doubt yourself. So it’s best to not look to them for support in your process of personal growth. Turn to other friends for nurturing in this area.
What is happening is that the South Node person has subconscious memories of encouraging you to pursue a path that did not reflect the highest ethics and morality and was not in alignment with your own inner Truth. You trusted them and followed their guidance instead of listening to your own conscience. In this life they seem to “push you away” in order to prevent you from re-creating the former unhealthy co-dependency that existed between you. To this end, they may unintentionally give you bad advice, betray your trust, and/or encourage the excessive behaviors you pursued with them in your prior incarnation. In this life, their special gift to you is to support your independence in following your own spiritual path.
In addition, if this person also has a planet conjunct their own South Node, then they may have deliberately misled you and encouraged your excessive trust in them for their own benefit. If so, then this is a payback lifetime and their influence is destined to support you in being more direct and straightforward, and not indulging in behavior that brings you abundance in the material world at the expense of inner substance and Truth. To this end, if there is an area in which you are lacking correct ethics and integrity, they are likely to see it and disapprove. From this relationship you are learning to trust and follow your own integrity.
South Node Conjunct Saturn
Saturn rules the area in which we most desire to experience success, yet fear it the most. This is our destiny: to overcome our inner inhibitions so that we can take charge and become the CEO in our own life. As we exercise the patience and attention to detail necessary to demonstrate success in this area, over time our greatest fears will dissolve.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
When you first meet the Saturn person you are likely to feel irresistibly attracted to the idea of really knowing them on a deep level. You somehow sense that there is an exchange of energy you need to experience with them.
At the same time, once you enter their life you don’t let them “get away” with anything. You are not fooled by their facade and your influence does not allow them to exhibit a public image that does not accurately reflect their achievements. You hold the key to helping them learn to recognize when the actions they take are based on a misunderstanding of how life works, and consequently lead to failure rather than the success they are capable of attaining. However, this may not be a pleasant process.
Especially if you have a planet conjoining your own South Node, in a past incarnation you may have deliberately robbed this person of the joy and empowerment of taking responsibility for creating their own success. It is likely that you manipulated the situation so that success came to them before they had completed the character development necessary to earn it for themselves. In the process, an unhealthy co-dependency in terms of attaining success was created between the two of you. An example of this dynamic is the “stage mother” who pushes her child to become a star before they are ready to handle it. The child receives money and fame that they have not earned through the development of their own character. This inflates their ego while robbing them of the strength and wisdom they would have gained from creating success on their own.
So now your presence in their life somehow blocks their success in the area where they most want to achieve it. You refuse to “do it for them.” This forces them to grow internally until—over time—they develop the strength and integrity of character that enables them to break through your restrictive influence. Then their willingness to take full responsibility for creating success will allow them to achieve much greater expansion in this area than what could have occurred without the role you’ve played in their life.
Having a planet conjoining your own South Node shows a past life contract to be fulfilled and, on an unconscious level, you have been seeking this person to pay back the debt you owe them. Because of the psychological injury you caused them for your own personal gain in that incarnation, you forfeited part of your own spiritual wisdom. In the process of repaying your debt and helping them to heal in this area, you open the way to reconnect with your own spiritual legacy.
On the highest level of resolution, the Saturn person is your teacher in this lifetime, steering you back onto your spiritual path. However, until you become conscious of this process you tend to minimize their input. This has the result of actually forcing the Saturn person to become even more attuned to the message of spiritual awareness they are destined to bring you, and they are able to integrate it on a deeper level than if the two of you had not met. In this way, two individuals coming together with this conjunction are a shining example of the complexity that underlies our relationships and how they can work on the highest level.
If you are the SATURN person:
It is your destiny to manifest success in the area shown by the placement of Saturn in your birthchart. This is the very part of your life in which you feel limited and awkward due to past life misunderstandings about how to create success. The South Node person likely played a significant role in a past life scenario that has led to this current blocked situation, and is now in your life to help you to heal it.
For example, they may have paid you compliments and given you reassurance—which you believed. Then when the anticipated success did not come, it created a confusing combination within your psyche [you]: a strong ambition to succeed together with misinformation about how to do it. So now this person doesn’t allow you to “get away” with exhibiting anything less than your own true potential in the area where you are stuck. When you stand for something you have not yet fully integrated into your life; when you pretend to be an authority where you are not qualified; when you say one thing and do another, this individual will call you on it. They see the flaws in your character that hold you back from real achievement, and will not give you the respect you seek until you have taken full responsibility for manifesting your dreams with integrity.
Especially if this person also has a planet conjoining their own South Node, in a past incarnation they may have deliberately pushed you into situations that made you totally reliant on them for their own benefit. This cost you your independence, but the results were so successful in a worldly way on the material level that you are now unconsciously driven to seek the same experience. So now when you meet this person in this lifetime, they activate your drive for success in full force. But—in order to repay their karmic debt to you—they can’t let you rely on them for that success. Their job is to push you to develop those aspects of your character that will allow you to achieve success on your own.
One way they may do this is to again push you into creating success in this area too quickly. They may give you bad advice that results in an unstable situation. They put you in touch with your vulnerability and force you to look more deeply at what you really want to manifest in this life. Their job is to help you see that you can consciously manifest your own destiny with integrity, instead of it being an unconscious compulsion that pulls you into situations or pushes you out of them.
Wherever you have Saturn in your chart, YOU ALONE have the ability to tap into its power to achieve the success you desire. In any area where you are consciously growing and learning to overcome a sense of awkwardness, the South Node person may actively invalidate your process. This deflates your ego and opens the way for you to experience humility. The progressive transformation of Saturn in our life takes time and full conscious knowledge and understanding of the process involved in creating success. But when you do become mature enough to take responsibility for fulfilling your destiny, it will be from an ego-free position of integrity that is stable and lasting.
South Node Conjunct Uranus
Uranus represents our urge for aliveness and the excitement of change. Its placement in our birthchart shows—by house and by sign—that area where we most need to be able to express an unconventional approach to life. We have innovative ideas in this area—sometimes even brilliant ones.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
If you are unaware of the dynamics of this conjunction, you will likely be a restraining influence on the Uranus person’s urge for innovative action. Where they need the freedom to explore their own way of perceiving and living life in order to maintain a sense of aliveness, you will unconsciously block their independence.
The truth is, their desire for excitement and to be free from the status quo does not work for you—but it does work for them. You hold the power to guide the outcomes in this area of the relationship. To create success you need to pull back and become more aware of your own separate identity. You can consciously choose to validate their need for increased aliveness, change, and freedom as being “on track” for them, without feeling that it has to be the correct approach for you as well.
Additionally, if you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, then you have a specific past life contract with this person. You may have deliberately encouraged an excess of unconventional behavior and erratic action for your own benefit in a past incarnation. As a result, the Uranus person still doesn’t have proper boundaries to help them channel their desire for excitement and freedom in a way that is socially acceptable. On an unconscious level, you are repaying your debt to them by restricting their unconventional approach to life. This forces them to grow deeper within themselves, to purify their urge for aliveness and brilliance, and gain the wisdom to handle it in a more balanced and judicious way. When they have matured, their urge to express their individual, unique, freethinking spirit will rise up stronger than ever, but through your influence they will have gained the wisdom to express it without inviting negative repercussions.
If you are the URANUS person:
The South Node person seems to not honor your uniqueness, nor do they let you get away with willfulness. You may feel that you are not encouraged to use your innovative abilities to create change, excitement, and aliveness in your life, and that your needs for freedom are being restricted by this person.
In a past life, it’s quite possible that they provoked you into pursuing thrill-seeking behavior that was harmful for you. Now their presence in your life forces you to become less reliant on their approval and to depend on your own judgment in choosing proper pathways to achieve excitement and freedom.
Also, in the process of being a constrictive influence on those ideas and choices that are a source of aliveness for you, they inadvertently make you grow stronger and more independent, possessed of an inner certainty that you can pursue your own path.
For success in this relationship, don’t look to them for approval. They may not validate the unconventional choices you make, and yet those very choices are what make you feel alive. Because of their own past life experiences, the path that increases your joy is a path they are not allowed to follow in this lifetime. Turn to others to understand and share those ideas that excite you and lead to positive change.
South Node Conjunct Neptune
Neptune shows, by house and by sign, the area where we have special access to spiritual guidance that we can use to help navigate our lives. It’s a sensitive, psychic attunement, which rules the lofty aspects of poetry, music, art, and mysticism. Wherever Neptune is found in our charts, we seek the fulfillment of a spiritual ideal.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
Until you achieve consciousness in this relationship, you will discount your Neptune partner’s spirituality. Trust is an issue here, and you may inadvertently offer disparaging words or display behaviors that undermine their trust in their own judgment. This can invalidate their vision of how things can be. Every time they do something that reflects their spiritual beliefs, you may give them the feedback that it’s unrealistic. Your instinctive reaction is to discredit their idealism.
For example, the South Node sister of one of my clients was with her at a family seder. My client went through all the dinner preparations and was performing the ceremony, which requires that the food not be eaten until a specific time. Her sister was sneaking pieces of matzo and giggling, thereby demeaning and invalidating my client’s spiritual experience.
Sometimes your partner may want to see life through rose-colored glasses, while your instinct will be to invalidate their innate trust in Life’s goodness. The very area in which they feel the most trust is where you try to limit their beliefs to tangible reality. In this way, you may unknowingly be short-circuiting your partner’s internal navigational system and robbing them of their ability to maneuver safely through life.
Especially if you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, this is a payback lifetime—in a past incarnation, you may have abused this person’s trust for your own benefit. Perhaps you urged them to look up to you and then deceived them, causing them to lose confidence altogether in trusting others. So now on an unconscious level you are seeking to restore their trust in their own internal guidance first, before looking to any outer authority.
As the South Node person, you hold the power to determine the outcome in this area of the relationship. In order to create success, make sure you don’t throw a wet blanket on their dreams when they share their idealistic or spiritual vision with you. If you feel there’s a realistic piece of advice that you could add that would truly benefit them, suggest it gently in a way that supports their aspirations.
If you are the NEPTUNE person:
You are likely to feel a tremendous amount of trust for this person and view them in an idealistic way. And yet if you allow yourself to trust them more than you trust your own instincts, you are certain to be disappointed.
It is likely that in a past life, the South Node person offered you some sort of an “escape” from the daily humdrum. It may have been through spiritual affinity, romance, art, or some other avenue. Together you shared a “private world” that had an aspect of unreality to it, not unlike the “high” produced by a narcotic substance. In this lifetime this person is here to restimulate your dependency needs, and then give you the gift of connecting more deeply with your inner self and reestablishing your trust in your own spiritual self-reliance.
Here’s one example of how this might work. Perhaps you put all your faith and trust in someone, even following them onto the path of alcoholism (a negative consequence of trusting this person more than your own judgment). Yet the end result is that you eventually join Alcoholics Anonymous, and working the 12-step program helps you learn to live at a higher level of spirituality than ever before. Even though it may be in a seemingly negative way, your association with this person can give you the gift of spiritual independence.
If this person is in your inner circle, and if they also have a planet conjoining their own South Node, they have a contract with you from a past life to heal an injustice. The most likely scenario is that they were a spiritual teacher in a past incarnation who convinced you that their judgment and knowledge of Truth was greater than your own. In this way, they robbed you of your trust in your own internal guidance system. In this lifetime they replay the drama in order to pay their debt to you. In the beginning, you may buy into their whole notion of how they are more spiritual and know the answers to everything. Then they deceive you or betray your trust to such an extent that you are forced to let go and begin to rebuild your trust in yourself. At some point you achieve enough inner strength to not need the South Node person’s advice and guidance anymore. In this way, they are an influence that can strengthen and restore your trust in your own spiritual autonomy.
South Node Conjunct Pluto
Pluto rules power and shows—by the house and sign of its placement in our birthchart—where we have agreed to experience total transformation in this lifetime. This process involves surrendering our self-centered ideas of reality and our preconceived concepts concerning the use of power. In the choice between “change vs. the status quo,” it is absolutely in our best interests to choose change that leads to positive growth wherever Pluto rests in the chart. If we resist, life will make the choice for us—usually through a dramatic unfolding of events.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
Until you become conscious of the dynamics of this conjunction in your relationship, your influence on the Pluto person is likely to disempower them. You will instinctively discourage them from experiences that would allow them to grow stronger through using their power. You may also tend to indulge their fears rather than encouraging them to take risks that could help conquer them.
What is happening is that their style of making changes that result in positive transformation for them is not designed to work for you in this lifetime. However, as the South Node person you hold the power in this area of the relationship and can choose to create a successful outcome by pulling back and becoming more aware of your own separate identity. Deliberately go out of your way to support your Pluto partner in making changes and taking risks that they feel will lead to greater personal potency. By supporting them in using their power correctly you will clear any past life karmic residue from incarnations when you may have abused power in your relationship with this Soul.
If you also have a planet conjoining your own South Node, you have a major past life incompletion with this person and have met again in order to help them heal and repay your debt. If this is the case, the Pluto person will likely activate the passion in your nature. You may feel an obsessive attraction to them—possibly an urge to absorb their energy or even possess them in some manner. One way these dynamics can play out is that—if they are your mate or lover—you will likely feel compulsively linked and bonded; the intensity may be overwhelmingly irresistible for both of you.
However, after a while you will notice that they are becoming weaker as your connection drains their power, making them ever more dependent on you. If they don’t become aware and disrupt this dynamic soon enough, they may lose so much of their potency that they are unable to break this unhealthy bond with you, and more karmic debt will be created. To prevent this and to repay your debt, you must be willing to let go of your desire to possess them and not allow them to become dependent on you.
As the South Node person, the outcome will be up to you. Integrity is an important issue. It will take tremendous discipline on your part to overcome your obsessive urges and consciously seek to empower them by helping them acknowledge their vulnerable areas and support them in growing stronger. This will also involve not indulging them in the ways they abuse power. You will be uniquely aware of when this is occurring since you originally helped instill these patterns. Don’t encourage their weaknesses. Instead, support them in gaining the confidence to make their own choices. Your purpose in their life is to help them be reborn at a level of greater personal strength and empowerment.
If you are the PLUTO person:
The South Node person is in your life to help you reclaim your potency and purify the manner in which you use power to reach your goals. However, this may occur in a less than positive way in situations where you have no choice. What is happening is that in a past life you may have combined energy with this Soul in order to reach a common goal. There was a mutual feeling of “you and me against the world.” However, you became enmeshed with them and dependent on their energy for your own sense of potency. An unhealthy co-dependency was created, and now they are in your life to give you back your independent power.
How this tends to work is that every time you try to rely on them to support you, they let you down. When you share your ideas about directions that will give you a greater sense of personal empowerment, they are likely to discourage you. And if you begin to demonstrate your potency, they unconsciously pull away. Over time, their responses to you slowly drain your power until you become aware of the situation and vow to make your own choices and reclaim your potency.
If this person also has a planet conjoining their own South Node, they have a contract with you to resolve a debt. In a past incarnation they may have deliberately instigated or supported your misuse of power and personal charisma for their own gain. An example is if they were your pimp and used your charms to make money. Or they may have urged you to channel your power into supporting a corrupt cause, such as an unjust war. In some way they influenced you to use your power in a less than honorable way that was not in alignment with your inner Truth. These misconceptions have carried over into this lifetime and you may still be subconsciously abusing power in these ways.
When you first meet the South Node person you will probably feel quite receptive to them because their energy is so familiar. You may even feel a strange, intense attraction and become intimately involved on some level. This can be a compulsive sexual relationship that has the potential to degenerate into forms of enslavement and bondage. The initial attraction on your part comes from your unconscious recognition that this Soul brings you the opportunity to break the bonds of co-dependency and reclaim your power. If you do break the bond with them, there will be a huge disruption of energy. By allowing this disruption to occur, it can blast away shadows in your unconscious that have been preventing you from growing stronger. You will discover where you have been abusing power in your relationships in a way that allows you to finally release these patterns. Then you can emerge purified, childlike, and innocent. From this position, you will at last be able to create the healthy, successful, and deeply satisfying relationships you have been longing for.
South Node Conjunct Chiron
The position of the asteroid Chiron (often called “The Wounded Healer”) in your birthchart shows—by house and by sign—the area where a deep wound occurred in a past life. As a result, you avoid expressing that part of yourself in this lifetime. This situation can be remedied by acknowledging the wound and revisiting the pain in order to heal it. Once healed, that aspect of yourself can become reintegrated into your personality. Then you will also gain the ability to help others heal in that area.
If you are the SOUTH NODE person:
This is a heavily karmic relationship. Events that occurred between the two of you in a past life resulted in your inflicting a wound on the Chiron person unfairly. This left you with a karmic debt to repay, which is why you have come together again in this lifetime.
Most likely, through your interactions with this person, they will become uncomfortably aware of a part of themselves they have been suppressing. At first they will unconsciously look to you to dictate how to use this energy. However, through the process of feeling constricted and co-dependent it will become all too obvious to them that they are crippled in that area. Then their inner strength will begin to build, eventually allowing them to reclaim that part of themselves and begin expressing it. This will add a dimension to their life that wasn’t fully activated without your influence.
If a planet in your natal chart also conjoins your own South Node, then you may have wounded this Soul for your own gain. In this case, your connection in this lifetime could be quite an intense experience for both of you. If this is an important relationship, enlisting the counsel of a third party could be to your mutual advantage. Your highest action is to support any areas where they show an urge to change and/or to express themselves more fully. If there is a part of them that you notice is repressed, go out of your way to encourage their strength and confidence in that area. As you help them to heal, you free yourself of the subconscious guilt of having caused injury and you regain a part of yourself that was hidden from you as karmic punishment for that misdeed.
If you are the CHIRON person:
The South Node individual has entered your life to activate an old fear that lies dormant within you. They make you aware of a part of yourself you have avoided bringing to the surface due to unconscious past life memories of suffering dire consequences for having expressed it. It’s like having a pebble in your shoe; you are walking through life differently because you are favoring that vulnerable area in hope of avoiding the pain.
This person was present in the lifetime when the original wound occurred. As a result, they have the unique ability to stimulate that memory in exactly the right way so you can reexperience the initial pain and grow strong where, until now, you have felt weak and afraid.
This wound was unexpected and was not caused by any misconduct on your part—it just happened in the process of going through experiences on planet Earth. However, your response to that wound most likely included decisions and actions that then resulted in negative karmic consequences for you. For example, perhaps you were raped and decided to kill the perpetrator rather than taking a Higher Road (pursuing it through the legal system, starting a victims’ support group, etc.).
If this person also has a planet conjoining their own South Node, they were probably the sole perpetrator of the wound and have a contract with you to repay this debt. If you enter into a close relationship with the South Node person in this lifetime, their presence will activate your wounded area and bring it to the surface so you can deal with it. They will most likely draw your attention to that part of yourself by unconsciously constricting your expression in that area again. You will be required to muster your energy in order to prevent this person from dominating you, and this will begin the healing process. Eventually, it will become apparent what you must do in order to become strong enough to express that part of yourself in a new and healthier way.
The Double Conjunction
A Double Conjunction occurs when one person has a planetary opposition in their chart that conjoins the nodal axis of another: for example, their North Node is conjunct one of your planets, and their South Node is conjunct another.
There is a specific past life contract at work here. In a past incarnation, the nodal person’s influence prompted a split within the psyche of the planetary person. For example, if you are the planetary person and have Mars opposing Venus in your natal chart, you may feel that the people you fall in love with (Venus) are not the same people you are sexually attracted to (Mars). Then this Soul from your past enters your life and their North Node falls on your Mars, their South Node on your Venus. In some way, in a past life they caused the current rupture in your psyche that now prevents you from successfully combining love and sex in a relationship.
One possible scenario is that in the past life they enslaved you in a love relationship that created co-dependency and thus deprived you of your personal initiative. Now their job is to help you heal, so this time they don’t allow you to become co-dependent on them romantically, and they openly support you when you exhibit boldness and initiative to advance your goals.
In the payback period, sometimes it happens that the nodal person actually gives back more to the planetary person than what was initially taken from them. When both partners become aware of these dynamics, they can make a conscious effort to equalize the energy so that balance is created.
For North Node conjunct North Node and North Node conjunct South Node, see the aspects “North Node Conjunctions,” Part III
The Composite Chart
Introduction
A composite chart is a common astrological tool used to provide insights into the inner workings of a relationship. This type of chart is created from the natal charts of the two people involved using the mid-point between their planets. For instance, the mid-point between each of their Sun’s positions would be the Sun position in the composite chart; mid-point between their Moons would be the Moon position, and so forth. This would be true for the Midheaven and house cusps as well. It’s a chart of the relationship itself—an entity in its own right.
I’ve worked extensively with the nodal axis in composite charts and find it to be very helpful in understanding the issues both people are likely to face as a couple. It shows the joys and challenges that are most likely to arise in the relationship, and also points the way to successful conflict resolution. Most importantly, I find the composite chart very helpful in seeing the purpose behind the relationship—why the two Souls have come together. In fact, planetary conjunctions to either Node in the composite chart show that there is a past life contract to be resolved.
My research has shown that if a couple honors the direction of the composite North Node—by sign and by house—as the goal in their relationship, negative issues tend to ease. You can also maximize the positive flow of energy in your relationship by recognizing—and aiming toward—its highest potential.
This work is focused on the nodal axis, but naturally, much is to be gained by considering the composite chart in its entirety. Due to space considerations, this section is brief. Further research on this topic will be expanded into a future book on aspects to the nodes.
The best way to utilize this section of the book is to first read the information about the House in which the composite North Node is found. With that knowledge, you can more easily develop and express the qualities of the Sign of the composite North Node. If you don’t have a composite chart with your partner, go to www.cosmiclove.com and the information will be calculated for you free of charge. For an accurate composite chart, you will need the birth time of both individuals.
Composite North Node House
1st House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware of the special opportunity it offers for each person becoming stronger and more independent. To experience the joys and benefits of the relationship, support your partner’s personal growth and encourage their self-discovery, even if that means they engage in some activities alone.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Take an independent stance: “Here is what I would like in this situation; what would you like?” Then you can work out a solution that supports and honors each of you as individuals.
2nd House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity for you to support each other’s values and increase your self-esteem. To experience the joys and benefits of the relationship, allow it to expand your sensuality, your ability to make money, and add to your material comforts.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: State your own needs: “Here is what I need in this situation in order to feel comfortable. What do you need to feel comfortable?” Self-esteem for each partner is paramount for the relationship to be fulfilling. Be willing to build whatever will support both of you, step by step.
3rd House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of easy communication and acceptance of each other’s ideas. You both enjoy sharing thoughts about the events of everyday life as they unfold. Keep things light, easy, and happy.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Stop assuming you know what’s happening and start communicating. Ask questions; be curious about how the other person thinks. Keep daily communication going through notes, e-mails, or text messages.
4th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of making a home together. This may be a physical home or a psychological “home base” that provides a solid foundation on which to live your lives.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Stop trying to control outcomes. Share what’s going on with you internally in the situation so your partner can see your “real self.”
5th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to stimulate each other’s creativity and have a lot of fun. To experience the joys and benefits of the relationship, be sure to include playfulness and fun in your everyday life. The children born of this union—whether of the mind or of the body—will be a source of joy and good fortune.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Adopt a lighter, more playful attitude and have some fun together. Plan a pleasurable activity you both enjoy. Go on a vacation together or have a romantic dinner.
6th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it energizes you to work together and create productive results. You work well with each other on tangible projects and influence each other’s health and organizational skills in a positive way. To experience the joys and benefits of the relationship, stay focused in the here and now.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Work together to create a plan for how to shift results onto a more positive track. Get involved in a project—or adopt a pet—you can both enjoy.
7th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of a successful relationship. To this end, learn what you can do to support each other through joining forces and functioning as a team.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Release independent tendencies and self-focus; being interested in your partner’s individuality helps support the well-being of the team.
8th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of a Soul Mate relationship. This is a natural situation of reciprocity. As you give to them and support them, they automatically are aware of you and support you back—the mutual experience of Love and energy flows between the two of you.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Release self-absorption and preoccupation with your own needs and become interested in what you can do to support your partner. If there is a project that the two of you are pledged to working on together, freely blend your energies to create success.
9th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the opportunity to increase trust and personal freedom. It can also expand intuitive awareness of the events unfolding in your daily life. Allow this alliance to shift you into a pattern of accelerated spiritual growth. To experience the joys and benefits of the relationship, both of you need to become more direct and honest in your communication.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Stop talking and pull back. Give the other person, and yourself, a chance to reconnect with your trust that a Higher Power is in charge and put personal growth above desired material outcomes. Foreign travel together or joint involvement in religious, philosophical, or spiritual activities brings out the best in both of you.
10th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers special opportunities to focus on achieving success and attaining goals. The joys and benefits of the relationship can make you both stronger and give you an expanded sense of your own competency and capacity to take charge.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Rise above the emotional field and take charge. Work together to define a goal that is agreeable to both of you, and then focus on it. Support each other in achieving joint aims.
11th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and remain aware that it offers the special opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of a relationship with someone who can also be your best friend. You create plenty of energy to work together toward humanitarian goals. The shared dream of benefiting others energizes you both.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Treat the other person as an equal and ask for their input as a friend. Brainstorm with them in order to see the situation more objectively. Be interested in what is best for them, and encourage them in realizing their own life dreams.
12th House
The key to maximizing the potential in this partnership is to recognize and continue to honor the fact that it offers the opportunity to experience the joys and benefits of a relationship while supporting each other’s personal time, privacy, and self-sufficiency. Your influence on each other enhances each person’s ability to link with positive spiritual forces in order to find higher resolutions to mundane problems. Support each other’s spiritual and artistic forces and ability to connect with mystical realms.
If a conflict should arise, the best approach would be: Give each other space. Support each other in taking time alone to rest and revitalize yourselves. Instead of trying to change their behavior, seek awareness of any self-sabotaging patterns you may be enacting on an unconscious level in the relationship.
Composite North Node Sign
Aries
This relationship will stimulate your feisty spirit and give you the chance to develop your independence and courage. You both will likely become more assertive, impulsive, and bold. Be willing to support each other in developing and expressing your separate identities.
Aim for: Developing healthy independence; each of you putting your view on the table as independent entities; encouraging each other’s strength and self-development.
Taurus
This relationship creates stability and helps you build toward whatever you feel is valuable. You both will likely feel comfort in areas where you have previously felt the energy of crisis. This partnership can validate your sense of self-worth and can stimulate your moneymaking potential.
Aim for: Building stability that will serve you in times of crisis; doing things that make each of you feel good about yourselves as individuals; gaining awareness that feeling comfortable is an indicator of being on path.
Gemini
This relationship enhances the development of your communication skills. You are likely to be able to “hear” each other’s ideas and accept them as true for the other person. By all means, talk things out together and discuss all the options you see as a basis for resolution.
Aim for: Regular communication; staying in touch concerning situations that are unfolding; be willing to share helpful information on a regular basis through written communication.
Cancer
This relationship enhances the experience of emotional intimacy. Risk revealing your feelings to each other as they arise, and release control at a deeper level. Become more aware of caring for your partner—and taking care of them—in a way that makes them feel nurtured and supported.
Aim for: Empathy and caring for each other; revealing of feelings on a deeper level; showing sensitivity to each other’s moods; helping each other feel better.
Leo
This relationship brings the opportunity to experience the energy of romance. It will also encourage creativity. You will see what your partner enjoys and what naturally increases their vitality, and these are areas in which you will encourage them toward greater expression. This partnership flourishes when you maintain a playful, happy mood.
Aim for: Supporting each other’s creativity, having fun with children, encouraging your partner to participate in activities that bring them pleasure; taking time for romance.
Virgo
This relationship thrives when you are helping each other become more practical. Make plans and establish routines that lead to a stable, healthy, and productive life. You bring each other the opportunity to gain a clearer awareness of your ability to create order out of a chaotic situation.
Aim for: Analyzing the details of the situation together to come up with a practical plan; defining a mutual goal to which you can both pledge yourselves; making lists of behaviors you both want to encourage in the relationship.
Libra
When you work together as a team amazing results can be created. Drawing on each other’s energy to support the good of the team leads to true cooperation. This relationship brings the opportunity to create healthy interdependency with another.
Aim for: Cooperation, fairness, and diplomacy; non-competitive teamwork; thinking of yourself as part of a “team” and supporting your partner.
Scorpio
This relationship thrives when you become attuned to your partner’s needs—and support them. It offers the opportunity to experience the joy of a Soul Mate relationship: the reciprocal flow that is created when each partner is deeply aware of the other and wholeheartedly giving each other what they need for support.
Aim for: Deeply listening to what you partner is telling you they need you to do to support them; wholehearted giving to each other; the path of taking chances together that leads to transformation and the excitement of change and moving beyond fear.
Sagittarius
This relationship encourages personal freedom and each partner’s search for Truth. This is the experience of freedom that comes from trusting and following your intuition and acting in alignment with the ethics and moral principles that bring you peace of mind.
Aim for: Trusting in positive outcomes; experiencing your life together as an adventure; releasing mental manipulation in favor of direct and honest communication.
Capricorn
This relationship encourages you both to take charge and create a success out of the situations facing you. Every obstacle life brings is a stepping stone on your evolutionary journey. Consciously viewing Life in this way will give both of you the opportunity to expand your experience of creating success.
Aim for: Defining goals together; creating situations that enhance both partners’ feelings of self-respect; taking on responsibilities together that lead to experiencing increased competency; taking a business-like approach.
Aquarius
This relationship works best when you relate as equals—as friends. It brings an opportunity for both of you to see life with increased objectivity. This enhances your ability to make decisions that are more closely aligned with the bigger picture of what is occurring.
Aim for: Objectivity—seeing the Big Picture; creating win-win situations in which you both get what you want; supporting each other in manifesting your dreams.
Pisces
This relationship can help you both learn how to “let go and let God.” Creating a pathway that is in alignment with events as they are unfolding can help both of you to become less judgmental, more flexible, and help you surrender to the flow of unconditional love.
Aim for: Understanding and forgiveness; trusting that a Higher Power is in charge; experiencing joy and bliss; letting other people be themselves; accepting that which you cannot change.
Composite Planetary Conjunctions
Of particular interest: I’ve noticed that when a planet in the composite chart is located in the same degree as a planet in one of the individual’s natal chart, one purpose of the relationship is to help that individual actualize and fulfill the drive represented by the planet that is thus activated.
For example, if Venus in the composite chart is located at 5 degrees Scorpio, and one of the individuals has their Mars at 5 degrees Scorpio, the love in the relationship (Venus) will stimulate that individual to become more assertive and energetic (Mars).