So now we return to the social scene that we set at the beginning of this book. Let us assume that you and your new pal have met and that you are getting to know one another. Let us also move on a little and see whether you can have a future together. For the sake of convenience, we will assume that you are female and that the object of your interest is male. However, everything in this chapter that relates to one gender can be said of the other gender as well.
You may remember that we started by looking at hand size. If yours are small and the man's are large, he will appreciate the speed at which you move and the way that you get things done but he will choose not to be rushed. He will appreciate quiet nights in, listening to records and whiling away time. If his hands are small and yours are large, his enterprise and energy will amaze you, but you will find it hard to keep up with him. He gets bored very quickly, so take him ice-skating or bowling rather than expecting him to stay in night after night with videos and takeout as the only form of amusement.
Left and right hands don't cause a problem, because the differences are complementary. One of you has a more artistic eye than the other, so the “south-paw” will help the right-hander to choose nice clothes and buy stylish things for the home. The right-hander will be happy with this, unless his hands are extremely rigid.
If you have flexible hands and the object of your desire has stiff ones, don't expect him to drop everything and jump on an airplane with you—and don't ask him to accompany you on a minimalist backpacking vacation. He needs time to plan things and he needs to take everything with him, including the kitchen sink. On the other hand, if he has flexible hands, you can expect him to ask you to take a trip up the Amazon with nothing but a toothbrush and a spare pair of socks.
A “busy” hand that is full of lines means that the owner has a fussy and neurotic personality. If you are also a “busy-handed” worrier who picks up other people's anxieties and gets worked up quickly, a similar partner will understand where you are coming from. Someone with a clear hand has a quiet voice and manner but he can erupt into sarcasm and temper or long bouts of sulky moodiness when things don't go his way. You have to work out for yourself which of these two evils is easiest to live with. A fine skin tone denotes sensitivity and refinement, a coarser one shows a more basic nature.
It is important for a couple to have similar views about money, so look at the way his fingers spread. If they spread widely, with wide gaps where the fingers join the hands, you can expect him to be generous and to spend freely on nights out and on having fun. This might be great while you are dating, but don't expect him to become Mr. Responsibility overnight when you settle down.
A man whose fingers are tightly joined, so that light doesn't show through the gaps, will guard his finances closely. He might also be secretive. If you like a guy who has a good grip on his finances and who doesn't tell the world his business, this is the man for you—especially if his fingertips are squared off at the ends. He will give you great financial advice, but if you are looking for fun . . . well you may not get much. For a reasonable attitude toward money, look for hands that are neither too spread out nor too “tight-fisted.” Also look for a thumb that is reasonably flexible but not so “double-jointed” that the ball can turn right back.
A sociable man has rounded fingertips and a thumb that opens widely. He will try to get on with your friends and family, and he will be helpful, especially if his fingertips bend back a little when you press them.
If you prefer to live deep in the country with horses, farm animals, and nature, your hands will be square. You should choose a lover with similarly square hands.
Take the man's hand to assess whether he is a hard worker, because a firm hand belongs to a grafter, while a soft one tells you that he is self-indulgent and lazy. This is fine if he has an independent income, but this is not so good if he hopes that his girlfriend will take care of him. On the other hand, a guy who drives himself hard might have little time to spare and you may find yourself waiting around at home while he is earning his next million dollars. If your hands are hard, you won't mind pulling your weight in the home or out at work, but if they are soft you definitely need a man to “take care of you” and to make decisions for you.
If your fingers are smooth, and especially if they are long and artistic, you may be impractical and allergic to dealing with details. In this case, look for a lover with knotty knuckles, because he loves detailed work.
So what about sex? There are few rules here really, but a man with large hands will take his time over lovemaking and he will be less inclined to kinkiness than a smaller handed one. Also, look for a wide mount of Venus. The man with a high mount will want frequent sex, the one with a flatter Venus may be a great lover but he will not need to make love as often. The height of the mount depends to some extent upon the hardness of the hand.
When the mount of Venus it is cramped, there might be something unusual in his approach. A friend of mine dated a pleasant man who had a very narrow mount of Venus. The conversation was great (this man has an active mind) but the lovemaking was distinctly odd, because he liked it best when she dressed in strange “grandmotherly” underwear that he bought for her. At least his kinkiness was not a danger to her or to anyone else, but it took the shine off the relationship!
Look at your own mount of Venus and also your Mercury finger. If they show signs of sexiness (a well-formed Venus and a Mercury finger that is wider on the lower phalange than the two upper ones) for goodness sake choose a loving man. A man who prefers to spend his spare time making model airplanes or growing huge onions may suit someone (goodness knows who), but he won't suit you.
A very large and high mount of Venus shows a lust for life and for lovemaking. This guy will leave you trembling and you will look back on the hours that you spent with him with great fondness. However, he won't resist leaving a few other women with good memories as well! Indeed, he may make spine-tingling love for hours and then forget all about you the moment he closes your door behind him as he leaves.
The life line can tell you something about his sexual approach. If it is deep and strong he will want frequent sex, but he may not be the most imaginative or generous of lovers. A lighter, more feathered life line shows refinement and a generous attitude. If your own life line is vigorous, your sexual needs are strong, but if it is weak, you can only relax and respond when you feel cherished and loved. You will shrink inside yourself and protect yourself if your partner hurts or upsets you, or if life outside your relationship makes you anxious, sad, or angry, or if someone bullies or harasses you, your sexual needs will temporarily switch off.
Now see whether you can sneak a look at his heart line. Let us also say that he is African American and gorgeous with the happiest smile, while you are of Asian extraction and equally lovely. If his heart line runs straight across both his hands, he will not want to introduce you to his mother or his friends. If it curves on his left hand, he won't care at all for anyone else's opinions about whom he dates. A curved heart line on both hands means that he will marry for love—and if he loves you, that is good enough for him. Naturally, your heart line is also important here. After all, you need to know in your heart whether you have a mental checklist to complete of social and cultural characteristics, or whether the fires of romance will be enough for you.
Choose a man with a nice clear head line, and at least you will know that he is sane. A few small branches on the line, or even a small island, are all right because they show gains and losses in life, but a real mess on this line suggests that something is wrong with his health or his mentality. If your own head line is a mess, get some treatment.
A smooth life line suggests a smooth path in life with few changes. At least you know that what you see is what you get, and your life with this guy will run pretty much to plan. See if it curves around at the lower end or if it travels out into the palm. He will want to stay close to home if it curves, and he may not be able to cut the apron strings if his life and head line are very tied and if the fate line starts from somewhere around the life line. If the life line travels outward, the man will focus on his work and he will wish to travel and to meet new people from time to time. A line that forks shows an interest in many areas of life. See if your life line matches his. A little difference adds spice to a relationship but a major one can make it a disaster.
If he is an older man with an attachment line that is close to the heart line, child lines, and a curved life line, don't believe him when he tells you that he has never been married. He may even be married still.
There are many more things to look out for, but here are some that are good to avoid. A thick, fat percussion edge that bows outward is a sign of violence. Stiff, small fingers that show little light, and gestures that show you the backs of his hands rather than the palms, show aggression and the need to “handle” others. This man can be verbally or physically aggressive. The same goes for large thick, coarse-skinned hands.
A long Saturn finger might indicate an interest in religion—especially if the fingertip is pointy. A very short Saturn finger shows that this man is happiest when taking risks or even gambling.
Look to your own hands and see what you want out of life and love and then check to see if your new acquaintance is different . . . but not too different from you. Then you could really be in business!
