Getting acquainted

Parichayakarana Prakarana

ncient sages believed that girls are more easily seduced directly by the man himself than by employing female messengers, but that others' wives are more easily approached through female messengers. In Vatsyayana's view a man should always act himself in these matters, and only when this is impracticable or impossible, should female messengers be employed. The belief that women who act and talk boldly and freely are to be won by the man's personal efforts, and others are to be approached by female messengers, is a fallacy.

A man should always employ female messengers to assist him in seducing another man's wife.

Opportunities for Meeting

When a man takes the initiative, he should first make the acquaintance of the woman he loves, and arrange to be seen by her on a natural or special opportunity. A natural opportunity is when one of them goes to the other's house, and a special opportunity is when they meet at the house of a friend, caste-fellow, minister, or physician; or at marriage ceremonies, offerings, festivals, and garden parties.

If she meets him once, and comes again to meet him better dressed that before, or comes to him in some lonely place, he can be certain that she is capable of being enjoyed with the use of a little force.

When they do meet, he should be careful to indicate to her the state of his mind: he should pull his moustache, make a sound with his nails, make his ornaments tinkle, bite his lower lip, and do other similar things. When she looks at him he should speak to his friends about her and other women, and show her his liberality and his appreciation of enjoyment. When sitting with a female friend he should yawn and twist his body, contract his eyebrows, speak slowly as if weary, and listen with indifference. He should manifest his love by conducting a double-edged conversation with a child or some other person, apparently referring to a third person, but directed at the woman he loves. He should make signs with his nails or with a stick that have reference to her on the ground, and should embrace and kiss a young boy in her presence, give him a mixture of betel nut and betel leaves with his tongue, press his chin with his fingers, and fondle and caress other parts of the boy's body. All these actions should be covertly directed towards the woman.

The man should fondle the boy seated in her lap, give him something to play with, and then take the same back. He should converse with her about the boy, thus gradually becoming well acquainted with her, and make himself agreeable to her relations. Subsequently this acquaintanceship should be made a pretext for visiting her house frequently, and on such occasions he should converse on the subject of love in her absence but within her hearing. As his intimacy with her increases he should give her some kind of deposit or trust, and take away from it a small portion at a time; or he may give her some fragrant substances, or betel nuts to be kept for him by her. After this he should endeavor to make her well acquainted with his own wife, and persuade them to carry on confidential conversations, and sit together in lonely places. In order to see her frequently he should arrange that both families employ the same goldsmith, jeweler, basket-maker, dyer, and washerman. He should pay her long visits openly under the pretense of conducting some business, and one business can lead to another, to keep up the intercourse between them. Whenever she wants anything, he should indicate his willingness and ability to give her money if she needs, or teach her an art that she wishes to acquire skill in - all these being within his power. In the company of other people, he should discuss the doings and sayings of other persons, or show her jewellery and precious stones, the value of which she may be aware of, and if she disputes with him about the articles or their value, he should agree with her in every way.

A desperate young sadhu, holy man cannot stop himself from playing with the charms of an available seductress.

Gifts and Presents

After a girl has become acquainted with the man, and manifested her love for him by outward signs and her body language, the man should make every effort to win her over. But as most girls are not acquainted with sexual union, they should be treated with delicacy, and the man should proceed with considerable caution, though in the case of women accustomed to sexual intercourse, this is not necessary. When the girl's intentions are known, and her bashfulness put aside, the man should begin to interchange clothes, rings, and flowers with her, taking care that the things given by him are handsome and valuable. He should receive from her a mixture of betel nut and betel leaves, and when going to a party, should ask for the flower in her hair or in her hand. If he gives her a flower, it should be a fragrant one, with marks made by his nails or teeth. With increasing assiduity he should dispel her fears, and gradually persuade her to go with him to a lonely place, and embrace and kiss her there. And finally when he gives her some betel nut, or receives the same from her, or exchanges flowers, he should touch and press her private parts, arouse her physically, and bring his efforts to a satisfactory climax.

While the gopis bathe nude in the river mischievous Krishna has run away with their clothes and has climbed a tree. When on pleading, requesting and appealing he doesn't give them back they are forced to forget their shame and modesty and unabashedly they climb the tree in their pursuit.

One at a Time

When a man is endeavoring to seduce one woman, he should not attempt to seduce another at the same time. But after he has succeeded with the first, and enjoyed her for a considerable time, he can keep her affections by giving her presents, and then start making up to another woman. When he sees the woman's husband going to a place near his house, he should not enjoy the woman then, even though she may be easily won over at that time. A wise man who regards his reputation should not think of seducing a woman who is apprehensive, timid, not to be trusted, well guarded, or with vigilant in-laws.

With increasing desire he should dispel her fears, and gradually persuade her to go with him to a lonely place, and embrace and kiss her there. And finally he should touch and press her private parts, arouse her physically, and bring his efforts to a satisfactory climax