ON THE AFTERNOON of September 30, 1955 an elegantly trim and all-but-new ocean liner slid from its berth on the Hudson River in New York City and headed for England. With its other passengers in tourist class, I was among a group of some thirty American men bound northeast for Oxford University. Our ship was the S.S. United States which, on its maiden voyage three years earlier, had shaved ten hours off the prior record for transatlantic voyages. We’d be five days on the early-autumn sea and, with any luck, could dodge the great storms that had roiled the Atlantic in recent years.
Only a few months earlier, I’d met the distinguished historian Bernard De Voto when he came to lecture at Duke, my undergraduate alma mater. I’d heard that De Voto was famous for his strong pro-American tilt; so a chill lifted the roots of my black hair when the young woman who was backstage beside me suddenly told De Voto that I was now a Rhodes Scholar. He looked up into my sudden pallor, chuckled a little sardonically, and said “Mr. Price, I’m glad to have met you while you’re still a bearable man.” Startled though I was, I managed to ask what he meant; and he said “I’ve never met a Rhodes Scholar, of whatever age, who didn’t inform me of that fact within two minutes of shaking my hand.” So here, more than fifty years later, I’ve fulfilled De Voto’s prophecy and started this book with such a declaration. I hope it proves relevant at least.
On the pier, to wave me off with decidedly mixed emotions on both sides of the gesture, were my mother and my only other near kinsman, a brother. They’d driven me up from our home in North Carolina two days before. We’d stayed in the now-defunct Taft Hotel (lamented Times Square home of the world’s best club sandwich and inexpensive clean rooms for businessmen and tourists). And we’d eased our lengthy parting with a visit to the Metropolitan Museum and a Times Square showing of On the Waterfront with Marlon Brando at his early sympathetic best and Eva Marie Saint in her own serenely luminous youth.
Transatlantic crossings in those days of the great liners—so different from present-day slummy cruise ships—were famously preceded by departure parties complete with champagne, flowers, and last-minute bon-voyage telegrams from friends. I had a few telegrams from my aunts and teachers; but despite the family’s native buoyancy, we were finding it hard to provide genuine cheer that day. Though none of us mentioned it, separately we knew that this latest parting marked the ritual definition of a painful fact—once more, our close and likable family was drastically changing.
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My father, Will Price, had died of lung cancer only nineteen months before. A brilliant comedian, he was a man perennially strapped by money woes; and his horizons had been lowered early by the fact that—like Mother—he’d concluded his education with high school. Through the hard years of the Great Depression, he’d struggled to support us with salesman jobs while contending with the demon of alcoholism (he managed to quit for good when he was thirty-six and I was three—thus I never saw him drunk). When he died at fifty-four, he was holding down the best job of his life; but he was still a high-class traveling salesman, often away from home three nights a week. And alongside his first-rate comic talents, he had the melancholic tendencies of many more famous clowns.
At middle age, he was a tired man who was worrying—and smoking—himself to death. A hypochondriac, convinced of heart troubles he never had, he’d foreseen an early end from his mid-forties on. So in addition to meeting the monthly bills, he’d strained to set aside enough life insurance to guard us at his parting. Yet in those days of minimal health insurance, his brief hospitalization—and the hopeless surgery to remove a lung—gutted his financial leavings. Within a few days of his funeral, my mother had been forced to take a job selling boys’ clothing at a local retail store.
She was forty-nine when he died and had never worked outside our home. I was a college junior then, age twenty-one, who stepped up my own money-raising effort—the painting of suspicious coats-of-arms for relatives and friends. And my brother, at thirteen, took on a summer job for the Department of Agriculture—measuring our home county’s lush and lethal tobacco fields. Till then, we’d been unusually close; and our grief had brought us closer. Now we were breaking our bond.
Yet while I’m a shameless weeper, I don’t recall tears as I stood on deck among my new friends and looked down at my mother and brother—Elizabeth and Bill (who’d later assume my father’s name, Will). Like most Americans of my Depression and World War II generation, I’d traveled very little till then. There’d been an early boyhood trip through the historical sites of eastern Virginia and the city of Washington, a few trips to New York to sample the riches of a Broadway that still produced frequent real plays (often brilliantly cast), family trips to Virginia Beach and Myrtle, more nearby historic-site touring, and a summer-long job in 1953 as the counselor to a cabin of boys at Camp Sequoyah in the Great Smoky Mountains. Since early adolescence, I’d all but tasted the strong desire to visit Europe; but as the son of a father who had no money to spare, and as a boy too young to fight in Europe or the Pacific, my chance of such a visit had been near impossible.
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Now, incredibly, I was off. In another half-hour the tugs turned back, though the Statue of Liberty would be visible behind us for a while longer, more radiant with emotion than I’d have guessed likely. Then I turned in earnest to meeting my Rhodester colleagues and attending to a passenger’s duties. I signed on for a second seating at all meals in the third-class dining room—thereby gaining the chance of a later breakfast—and I stowed my good wool trousers and a Harris-tweed sport coat in the tiny closet in my shared cabin so the wrinkles would hang out (another lesson from a traveling father). That way, I’d be as well turned out as a serious young man of my time and place was expected to be.
After dinner on the first night at sea—pleasant-enough food but served with the usual American big-city absence of grace or human connection—I celebrated with my new friends at one of the ship’s several bars. In early childhood I’d learned from a wicked uncle about my father’s problem with drink and had developed an early fear of its presence in our home (though my parents never stocked it, they had no problem when friends turned up with their own bottles, a practice that scared me nonetheless—wouldn’t Dad be tempted to start all over?).
That fear had lasted, well disguised, right through my membership in a swinging college fraternity. Since the possession of alcohol was then strictly forbidden on the Duke campus, my friends only drank at weekend parties in town or in stark concrete-block party spaces available for rent in the local woods. So it had been easy enough for me to rely on Cokes. Maybe oddly, my father had never asked me not to drink. He’d only said, when he and I were alone in his car on the afternoon of my fraternity initiation, “Son, there’s just one thing to remember—the men in your family have never been very good around liquor.” And so they hadn’t—the men on both sides of my family—as by then I well knew.
I never tasted ardent spirits then until he was dead, though hardly a year before this first voyage, I’d gone out with some of my fraternity brothers to an illegal Durham saloon and ordered a drink I’d heard of in a movie—Sauternes and soda: a semi-tolerable mix of sweet dessert wine and soda water. It was not only illegal; it confirmed even more indelibly my brothers’ delighted sense of me as an intellectual fop who was nonetheless their bemusing fool of a mascot. My grades were helping keep the fraternity off social probation after all, and I enjoyed their fond kidding. My fraternity name, for instance, was Misterfofelees after an essay I’d published in the campus literary magazine concerning the evil Mephistopheles in Christopher Marlowe’s Elizabethan tragedy Dr. Faustus. I continued to drink the same syrup once or twice a month for the remainder of my college years, nursing a tall glass as slowly as possible despite my brothers’ tendency to force frequent complimentary refills on me.
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Still unaccustomed to saloon life, however upscale, on my first night at sea—surely no more than a hundred miles from New York—I relaxed, drank another Sauternes and soda, and received no jesting comments from my friends. It was maybe one o’clock in the morning then before I turned in with a new sense of mature independence, to my three-man cabin—all three of us were Rhodesters. We had no porthole, no natural light to wake us; but at six I was wakened by the whisk of something slid under our door. I was in a lower berth, so I got up quietly and fetched the brief mimeographed shipboard newspaper. At the top of the front page, among announcements for dance contests and badminton tournaments, a headline said “Actor James Dean Killed in Car Crash.” I was still more affected than I’d realized by the death of my father, even here well beyond the three-mile limit; and at once that piece of the news struck deep.
I’d never met Dean, I knew almost nothing about his life—except that he was two years minus three days older than I—and I’d had no forewarning of the power of his acting when I went alone to see his first film East of Eden just a few months earlier and had been deeply moved. On my first trip to New York five years before, I’d seen young Julie Harris in her Broadway triumph in The Member of the Wedding; and she’d been Dean’s co-star in the film. The scene with their kiss on a small-town Ferris wheel remains one of the great romantic moments in film; but the final scene, with Dean and Harris determined to stand watch at the bedside of Dean’s father, who’d suffered a stroke, chimed with my own recent family sadness. (For more than two weeks, I’d slept in a chair in my father’s hospital room at his request—a request that honored me more than any other I’d got. After the surgery that removed a lung, I was there in his room when something awful broke loose in his chest; he panicked, a too-young doctor came, did something I couldn’t see; and Dad was never truly conscious again. But my finger was on his thready pulse when his heart ceased to beat some three days later.)
Stronger still, though, was the plain perfection of James Dean’s meticulous portrait—from start to finish—of a man my age, externally very different from me but internally a near twin in his need for a father’s love and respect. I’d got more of both from my own good father, yet the sudden news that James Byron Dean had died in the mangled wreck of a car on the day when I was gladly parting from a mother who suffered still from the death of a man whom I’d tended through his last awful days seemed more than uncanny. (Another young man had died almost exactly a month earlier—Emmett Till, age fourteen, murdered at the hands of Mississippi white men for allegedly whistling at a white woman. I’d followed that story with a sense of awful omen, an oncoming tide of unstoppable violence from my part of the world.)
But neither death marred for long the five days of pleasure at sea. Despite our tourist-class tickets, the captain gave us privileged bright boys access to numerous cabin-class privileges—their swimming pool, their masseurs, plus evening music and dancing in their lounge, plus a last-night-at-sea dinner in first class, complete with my introduction to baked Alaska (a dessert which had yet to reach the upper South except as a treat for the idle rich in MGM movies). Chiefly, though, I relished two things.
First among the pleasures were the nighttime hours I could spend alone on deck submerged in plutonian darkness with almost alarmingly bright star-shine above. In my contented eight years as an only child before my brother’s birth, solitude had been my natural condition; and despite a shipload of some two thousand other passengers, I was generally free to walk the decks and feel the rhythmic but enormous surge of the ocean beneath a ship that, however large, was the merest cork to the gorgeous giant that heaved to all sides and beneath us and could, no doubt, turn this gentle week into something appalling if not deadly (in five later crossings, I experienced days of bad winter storms and high turbulence; but the fall of ’55 was far more peaceful).
Among the numerous matters I considered in those dark nights on deck was the basic young man’s question of the Fifties and Sixties—Who am I? I was no doubt too confident, by a wide margin, of most of the answers. I was the son of upper-middle-class Southern parents, each of them born within forty years of the end of the Civil War and the African slavery which precipitated that war’s slaughter of 620,000 men (if we destroyed that many men, proportionally, from today’s population we’d kill six million). Years later Dad’s sister Lulie Price Gay said to me of my great-grandmother McCraw, “Ma-Mammy lost five first cousins in one battle.” More than I liked to think still, I continued to share—generally in silence—a small percentage of their trust in the inevitability of the Southern racial arrangement—the benign separation, as they saw it, of two races who (in an inexplicably close bond) had built an immensely complex agrarian civilization across a huge stretch of land. The old South, after all, was geographically larger than Western Europe and almost as prolific in the production of distinguished art—specifically music, poetry, drama, and fiction (if we extend its history from the work of Mark Twain, a short-term Confederate soldier, on through the time of my early manhood).
Owing to the Great Depression and the Second War, as I’ve said, I’d never left the nation till now. My passionate absorption in the arts—first, painting; then serious reading, then writing—began in that order when I was still an only child and we lived in a wooded suburb that nonetheless, to me, seemed like the deep forest. Those piney acres, with occasional snakes and a stream that was rich in lizards and crawfish, were the source of early answers to mysteries that could have balked my life if I’d met them first in the crowded streets of concrete cities—Who put me here? And why?
Helpful as they were, those solitary country years, though, had kept me from serious out-of-school connection with my age-mates. When I joined them, back in town, in the fourth grade, I took to their interests with excited pleasure; and despite a period of hostile rejection from a pair of other boys, I’d ultimately reached high school with no memorable sexual connections with anyone but myself. My memories of the start of an erotic life center on a room of my own when I was eleven. It had a floor-length mirror, left behind by a prior renter; and I launched into the early outskirts of puberty with long reflected games at that mirror—me and my own bare skin in fantastic stories and games that erupted before long in outright sexual elation.
From there I moved onward through the years before high school in minor fascination with a dark-haired girl who seemed to me the summit of human beauty. She was in fact lovely and kind; but in the rare times we were alone together, I felt none of the intense magnetism of physical attraction. That magnetism, which our deepest needs eventually assign to one of the genders—an assignment which is still entirely mysterious—would wait awhile longer. It came in my first year of high school. When I was fourteen we’d moved to Raleigh, a small Carolina city luckily rich in its artistic resources; and it was there that I quickly sensed a new excitement in the presence of a few boys my age. Soon a neighbor boy, now long-dead, was laboring strenuously to join me in frequent early expeditions into the delights of intimate—and laughing—physical contact; and for years he remained a cheerful resource.
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But from the time I entered high school, I fixed—at a distance—on one tall classmate as my Apollonian ideal. For that whole year I literally never met him. When we chanced, though, to sit beside one another in second-year Latin, a friendship formed that survives even today in class reunions but has never shed the quality of good-natured distance that only deepened my sense of genuine awe at what seemed to me male grandeur—especially the gold-haired variety that excels in sports and courteously sheds from its shoulders, like an insignificant warm rain, the admiration of other boys and—till one of them captures him—the nervous pursuit of girls.
Though I’d had intimations from, say, age seven that men were the world’s magnetic core for me, I was fifteen before I’d begun to know enough about a person’s sexual destiny to suspect that I was more than half likely to be bound in that direction (we didn’t, in those days, speak of genetic tendencies; but I can think of no other explanation for the leaning that became a full commitment). Though I felt pleasantly drawn to several other girls, right on through college, I date the irreversible proof of my course to the year in which I mail-ordered André Gide’s book Corydon.
One of the pioneering modern European texts on the subject of homosexuality, it was written in high-toned French neoclassical dialogue by a then still-living novelist and winner of the Nobel Prize for literature. It was published in the States only in 1950, and by then I was seventeen. What I didn’t quite know, in the last year of high school, was how fiercely most Americans were then opposed to the whole reality of male homosexuality, if they knew of it at all. It was a life which was then called queer (lesbianism was more nearly the subject of comedy than of outright rejection). Nonetheless, I kept my strong suspicion undercover—and rather enjoyably so. I was after all at the I-love-a-mystery stage.
* * *
It would have been interesting had I known, so early, that my father’s closest friend, from early childhood till well past the time of Dad’s marriage at age twenty-seven, was a man who’d later be distinguished in politics and who I learned, on very credible evidence after Dad’s death, was almost surely queer. He and Dad had been close, right through the days of Dad’s worst drinking. The friend could never quit the habit; and he served as best man at my parents’ wedding—a fact that led Mother frequently to joke that she’d never been sure she was married: “Your dad’s best man cried so loudly at the wedding, I couldn’t hear the vows.”
I have many reasons to affirm that my father was strongly heterosexual; but I wouldn’t be at all surprised to learn that, like so many men, he’d had other outlets in earlier life. In any case, the last hospital visit Dad received on the night before he underwent a lung removal that caused his death seven days later was from that best man; and I was present through the entire visit. Amazing to think that, in adult life, I might have discussed such a secret with my father. The English memoirist J. R. Ackerley—a discreet homosexual whom I’d meet in London—writes in his own brilliant memoir My Father and Myself of discovering just such a possible mysterious bond with his own father, well after the father’s death. As a young man Ackerley’s father had lived for some years with a queer Swiss nobleman.
At first I suffered almost no pain on the subject of my own sexual longing; and despite a considerable adolescent involvement with institutional Christianity, I certainly never felt condemned by God. I’d read the four gospels since childhood and noted that Jesus—who almost surely lived and died a single man, one who traveled and lived in a small group of other men, one of whom was called (in the Gospel of John) “the disciple whom Jesus loved”—was never recorded as having spoken a word against the love of men for men. On the other hand, he denounced fornication, adultery, divorce, wealth, and family loyalty (among other realities that most churches, obsessed as they currently are with homosexuality, seldom condemn). That silence of Jesus in the matter of same-sex relations is all the more remarkable, considering that his early followers could easily have invented a denunciation from Jesus if they had no recorded statement on hand.
Sexual pain came to me only in my freshman year in college, when the object of my first infatuation rejected me. Yet in April 1952—the spring of my freshman year at Duke—when that first rejection left me feeling desolate, I wrote a poem that was my one early attempt to write about private loneliness. The poem is sadly typical of a million adolescent plaints. I was nineteen, the age at which Rimbaud wrote the greatest adolescent poems in any Western language. At least mine is brief, and I set it down here—without the slightest claim for literary value—as an honest glimpse of a mainly buoyant young man’s confrontation with a possibly daunting future.
Because I am,
Because I am what I am,
I have been always alone.
Always hoping that someday
I would round some corner of my heart
And see and smile and say at last
That this is that for which I cry.
And so in each new face and always
In the old, in each new love or day
Or song, I wait to see if here
The world has broken through the colored glass to me.
And then I know, as ever over I must know,
That I am here and it is there
And between us, wide and deep, is a
Dark and winter sea.
Way more than fifty years after writing the poem, I’m not at all sure what I meant by the word it, three lines from the end. Most likely, I meant “contentment”; or more specifically, at the time I wrote the poem, “reciprocated love” must have been central to my desires. And love in those days of my early manhood surely meant “contiguous flesh” as much as anything more spiritual. Looking so far back I can see that, from my own point of view, what was truest in the poem was my realization that the force dividing my love from other human beings—or theirs from me—was deeply enigmatic, an external force. The mystery threaded its constant way through my shipboard thoughts, but I have no memory whatever of thinking I’d marry and go my father’s way with the children he loved yet who left him supremely anxious many days of our lives. I likewise don’t recall feeling guilt or any sense of omen.
Looking back from a long way, I do think my deep involvement in Dad’s death was, oddly, an unexpected means of sexual liberation. Now I’d never have to worry about what he thought of my sexual life (I still suspect he’d have been amazingly tolerant). And deeper still, our final three weeks together reminded me strongly of the nonsexual forms of physical contact he and I had in my early childhood—how he’d wake me for breakfast on Sunday mornings by lying atop my covered sleeping body and calling to me: “Preacher, Preacher, way past breakfast time. Haul yourself up.”
Whether my eventual erotic life bore any strong relation to such memories, I won’t attempt to guess; but I do know how much I honored his body and made every effort to steal into the bathroom whenever he might be drying from the shower and study his strength and amplitude. I assume that most boys, with resident fathers, have shared some early form of the same fascination with their dad’s anatomy. I suspect I was one who took that fascination further than most—and with a prevailing sense of tenderness that prevented any later interest in sex that had no substantial affectionate component. To a very large extent, I was stuck with love.
* * *
Still, another realization was rapidly overtaking love as a crucial fact of my oncoming life. At the age of sixteen, encouraged by a superb English teacher, I’d declared to myself and then to my family that I meant to become a writer of fiction and poetry who also taught English in a university. The announcement met with no objection from any of them, and I proceeded through four years at Duke with the same banner flown from my mast. I found a good many classmates to like, I enjoyed almost all my studies (mainly English, history, and world religions); for all my romantic rejections, I managed a fair amount of nonwoeful poetry and fiction above and beyond my class assignments; and in the fall of my senior year, I won this scholarship that was then given to thirty-two men nationwide for graduate study at Oxford (women only became eligible years later). So here now I stood in mid-Atlantic on my way toward a life that—despite the appalling scenes of my father’s recent agony—seemed under my control, some small degree of control. The ocean itself and this lean, fast ship—a toy on the surface—were a joint vehicle bearing me onward.
The summary seems fair enough. Does it imply a self-important narcissistic bastard? One or two friends had implied as much. At times, I believed them and backpedaled for a while. I was no doubt self-important for my age and achievements; but my sizable band of friends seemed a validation of my ability to make myself an original and useful acquaintance. What was more complicated for me was the fact that, like many other human beings, I’d often been told from early childhood that I was good to look at—thick black hair, wide brown eyes, eyelashes “big as mink hearth-rugs” (according to an aunt), and an eager smile above a pointed chin that I always deplored. I can honestly recall deciding—when I saw my grinning sixth-grade school photo—that I’d try to use any degree of physical pleasantness as a means of entertaining my friends, long before I knew I had words to do the same work. I was still far from thinking of looks as a tool in the oncoming seduction events of adolescence and thereafter. Who I was seemed to me then, alone aboard the United States, not radically different from the men I was traveling with. The size of my error was bearing down on me, wider and faster than I knew.
Meanwhile, second among my seaborne pleasures was the chance to begin knowing a few of my Rhodester colleagues. I recall my quiet cabin-mate Del Kolve, who would become a distinguished scholar of medieval literature and a man who’d live his adult life with a male partner. To the best of my subsequent knowledge, Del was one of the four scholars of our class who were queer, more than confirming Kinsey’s controversial 1948 claim that ten percent of all men were homosexual for at least three years between sixteen and fifty-five. Among the most glamorous straight men of our Rhodes generation was Ham Richardson, a wealthy Southerner who was already established as a world-class tennis player and one who might well have won the Wimbledon singles title if he hadn’t been troubled by the hard demands of diabetes.
I was with Ham once—we were driving to Stratford for a play—when he began to react to an overdose of insulin. Two more Rhodesters were with us; and after a useless stop for chocolate bars and the sugar they’d provide at a roadside shop, on Ham’s directions we got him to a teashop a few yards from Shakespeare’s birthplace, ordered warm sugary water, and watched uneasily while he drank it fast. By then he’d begun to seem to us, and our sedate nearby tea drinkers, more than a little drunk; but the sugar water brought him back to sane strength in under ten minutes, and we made the play on time. Amazingly Ham made it through a busy life as a New York investor—and frequent tennis player—to the age of seventy-three. Another memorable companion on the voyage was Rex Jamison, an Iowan with an unvarnished Plains accent, an ever-ready wit, and the steady dark eyes of a man intent upon dispelling as many mysteries as the world would yield to his intense focus. Rex would become a famous renal specialist and a lifelong friend.
Jim Griffin, a recent Yale graduate who would immerse himself in the new brand of linguistic philosophy at Oxford, became the most genial of my American companions in the next three years; and of all things for such a dyed-in-the-wool Connecticut Yankee, he’d prove to be the only member of our class who eventually chose to spend his life in Oxford, teaching philosophy, marrying a British wife, and raising a family. Jim was, by the way, a welcome confirmation that all Rhodes Scholars didn’t have to fulfill—as I surely didn’t—Cecil Rhodes’s specific stipulation that his Scholars must demonstrate “a fondness for and success in manly sports.” Once at Oxford, my own sport would become—very quickly—vigorous walking. On average, even in heavy rain, I’d circumnavigate the perimeter of Christ Church Meadow at least once daily, well over a mile’s walk.
* * *
There was one night at sea when Jim and I sat beside one another in deck chairs and spoke, first of our reading and then of our futures. Jim was likewise set on the plan for a university teaching life; and he displayed, with no hint of ostentation, the chief external signs of the breed—a calm but magnetic diffidence plus a willingness to make a firm assertion and then laugh at his own solemnity (Jim’s large pipe, then firmly clamped in his teeth, is no longer a mark of the teaching clan, may time be praised).
I told him of my own intention to teach—in college or a good prep school—and to write poems, short stories, and eventually novels. As we talked on late in the mid-Atlantic dark, my hope felt realistic at least—almost in reach, if only I could close my hands around it. What I hadn’t yet learned was the ultimate charm of the sea for all eternal sailors; if you never touch land, the oceans themselves will nurture any dream you choose to harbor and spin out for any listener’s ears. There were personal qualities, of which I was then insufficiently aware, that might make my own intentions difficult if not impossible. But three years at Oxford would uncover those, even to my own presently blind gaze.
Still I knew that I must wait for any firm seizure of the way of life toward which I yearned. If I meant to teach in a good American university, surely I’d need the Ph.D. degree; and that would require at least another three years of study beyond the two years I’d already committed to Oxford. And how could I write my poems and fiction in the face of such demands? Was it merely my too self-confident nature, or the low-key air of a boy of the Fifties, that kept me moving onward with no paralyzing fears? Well, somehow I gambled on believing I’d do all I had to do, most of what I meant and wanted to do with my life. I’d just completed a crowded senior year at Duke—five courses each semester, editing the literary magazine, and writing an honors thesis on John Milton’s entry into contentious public life. So if hard work was the worst that lay before me, then stand aside. I’d somehow plow through it.
Other nights, alone, I’d think with considerable guilt of my mother and her ongoing plight. In the wake of Dad’s death and its financial devastations, she now had herself, my brother, the remaining years of a substantial home mortgage, and bits of my own life to help with. An endlessly warm and haplessly generous woman, she came to enjoy the store-time contact with old friends and new customers. But her salary was modest; and she experienced the standard exhaustions of retail sales—long hours upright on her feet, selling little boys’ blue jeans, plus the two nights a week when she was required to work till nine. And now she was fifty, lightly overweight, and a pack-a-day smoker. With her lack of higher education, her opportunities for a better-paying job seemed nonexistent. My brother had just entered high school and was aiming at college, but his summer job could do little to improve his hopes or to improve Mother’s outlook as she faced the relentless bills of middle-class life.
Despite the early deaths of her parents and growing up in a sister’s crowded home, no one was ever less selfish than Elizabeth Price; and she’d never once hinted that I could pass up graduate study and stay behind to help her. In my eventual three years away, I recall no occasion when she wrote to me of financial woes. In the nine months since receiving the scholarship, I’d improvidently assumed that the Rhodes Trust would cover my expenses abroad. I’d soon discover how wrong I was. The grant was generous but it mainly covered tuition, room and board. The rest was expected to come from my own resources, and I’d shortly be leaning hard upon that limited backing (which consisted of three thousand dollars from a now-dead bachelor cousin and a few hundred dollars in graduation gifts). In retrospect it’s hardly a mistake to say that all those concerns gathered round me in the nights at sea as I left North Carolina farther behind by the slow and rolling moment.