Love can heal but only when allowed. This allowing occurs in the mind, the first element leading to the second, the relationship. There isn’t any love without the three elements.
Regarding this issue, an interesting thing happened with my last girlfriend because, after meeting her new boyfriend, she replied that the reason why she abandoned me was because she needed a marriage that I wasn’t offering. And now comes the interesting part of this story, as she got the marriage proposal from that new man but not his love.
She was using her mind to restart a new relationship and failed. And she will fail in every single relationship until she uses the heart. There is never a relationship where there is no heart.
It’s also interesting to mention that in our last call, she mentioned that, despite not having love, she believes that it may eventually occur. In other words, she is using the law of attraction to create a relationship with love, as if that was possible.
Love is the guiding energy of the universe and you can’t force it, only accept it and use it.
In a relationship, love may manifest as a third element, but it’s never meaningful if the relationship in itself has no meaning. In fact, when mentioning that she misses our travelings together and wants to be part of my spiritual group, she is indirectly saying that the energy is pulling her towards me, not him. To deliberately choose to love the wrong man is to neglect the meaning of such energy, an attitude from which many karmic lessons emerge, such as the sensation of loneliness, boredom and depression.
It will take months or years, until these emotions create a hurricane of problems that make her new relationship impossible to persist, and that’s why she fears I disappear. Whatever we plant, we shall reap. If we plant winds, we reap storms.
Another thing worth mentioning about this story is related precisely with the triangle itself. If you love one person but sleep with another, you are betraying yourself as well and not only the other individual. That’s why relationships that start with a cheating behavior tend to not last very long.
When a woman loves one man and sleeps with another, she is detaching herself from the triangle, which is a mental reaction leading to a decline in emotional manifestations.
I’ve heard many stories about failed relationships and the conclusions are always the same. People are never honest because they don’t want to admit what they do wrong in their relationships, and the truth is that they have somehow deliberately destroyed them.