Saying to a person that we love her is as important as making this person believe that it’s true. The three elements must exist for a relationship to last.
There are many relationships that start with lust, not love, but lust is also a form of love, although of a lower nature. Lust is the love for bodies and sex. When a person cheats on another that she loves, it’s usually related to lust.
The problem with lust is that it’s not enough to manifest a strong 3rd element leading to a 4th. People can’t do anything together if all they want is just sex.
A relationship that starts with lust either moves to love or fails. There is no other way.
This is also the reason why I knew that every single one of my previous girlfriends that cheated on me would come back. You can’t love an illusion and you can’t keep a relationship only with lust. Lust is weak in chemical connections between humans and can’t last.
One of my female friends once asked me why she can’t keep any relationship for too long, and my answer offended her because she wasn’t ready to accept it. She always insists in keeping open relationships with men, and so, although she thinks that she’s polyamorous and able to love different men at the same time, what she’s actually doing is neglecting love and subconsciously focusing on lust.
You can have lust and love but not lust without love. Physical pleasures, like the material reality, are always doomed to change, deteriorate and end. Nothing stays the same. Only love can last forever.
Love is enough to keep two persons together but life isn’t static, when the fourth element manifests out of love, both individuals are forced to take decisions, and it’s here, at this point, when moving from the fourth to the fifth element, that magic occurs and the unpredictable happens. One may manifest a job in a certain country and the other in another country, and then we have, for example, a relationship in which they are apart, each manifesting their 4th element in the relationship but physically detached from one another.
The less people understand the meaning of love, the more likely this happens. That’s why women that keep open relationships tend to find men from different countries, which then forces a physical detachment between both.
When people want a monogamous relationship but don’t respect the needs of their partner, the same physical detachment may and will eventually occur.
The external things that test the strength of a relationship aren’t as important as the conscience of the couple in understanding the meaning of being in love. The more you understand what love really is, the less you have to worry about it, and the more secure you will feel with your partner.
The fifth element represents conscience regarding the dynamic occurring. So, if people start feeling lonely, unloved, the third element will break. If their job or business isn’t working well, the 4th element also starts breaking. And we only need one of the persons in the relationship to lose his job for it to affect the dynamic. Because, if one of the individuals fails in his 4th element, the other is building his alone, but we can’t move to a 5th stage without risking a complete destruction.
This is also the case when one of the individuals is unemployed for a long period of time and the other starts feeling used and abused. Here, the lack of a common 4th element leads to the destruction of the third, which is lack of love.
We may then ask what is love and why we can’t just love the ones we want. And this is indeed an excellent topic of discussion, because, despite all the emotions and feelings that love brings to our life, it actually starts in the mind. Love is the manifestation of conscious energy.
Think about this for a while: If you go out at night and people from the opposite gender start approaching you, will you choose any? Obviously not, there is a criteria, and your criteria becomes known when you are faced with the need to choose. The more relationships we have, the more conscious we are of what we need, of what kind of person fits us better.
Unfortunately, this typically means failing many times, in many relationships, until we are aware of it.
At the end, the person we choose to be our lover, the one we accept from the reality manifesting to us, brings a story with him or her, so what we truly love is as much the experience we feel within us coming to manifestation as it is the personal perception of that individual.
From a number one perspective, we can only love another person after loving ourselves, and we can only know who to love after knowing what we need.