If you love love, look for yourself.
—Rumi
THE ART OF LOVING, like the art of living, is founded on self-love—the ripe fruit of self-knowledge, understanding, and acceptance; it is as essential to our capacity to experience deep sexual satisfaction as it is to our harmonious evolution both as individuals and as a society.
To know, accept, and love ourselves is fundamental to our capacity to know, accept, and love others. The better we get to know ourselves, the more likely we are to “rise” in love with our partners, rather than “fall” in love. To rise in love is to love creatively and freely; it is to love yourself as much as the one you love.
The Paradise Found Sexual Ceremony gives us the opportunity to love creatively and freely and, in the process, construct more profound, positive, and holistic relationships. It is an ecstatic meditation whose benefits—an antidote to the fleeting gratification of “fast,” predominantly genitally oriented sex—lead to the attainment of deep sexual satisfaction. It inspires lovers to breathe into and focus their intent, to bring the sacred back into everyday life, and to explore the universe that is the body through sexual pleasure. The result of these loving actions will reverberate in more ways than one can imagine!
By engaging in such a meditation, we take responsibility for our pleasure and make it a priority. This nourishes our imagination, leading us to love in more original, adventurous, and deeply meaningful ways. Nourished by Eros, a daring and nonjudgmental imagination is the fountainhead of life, love, and sex. By charging the creative spirit, Eros keeps the heart and mind wide open and ready to explore, test, and stretch boundaries. The creative mind, with a passion for the freedom to please and to be pleased, does not restrict itself to predefined territories but rather maintains that healthy sense of liberty and adventure that allows us to surpass the limitations of categories, social conditioning, and convention and discover new dimensions of sexual satisfaction.
Ceremonial partners who feed their creative spirits and nourish their imaginations with experimentation, adventure, and invention find themselves on the very path that leads toward new—and possibly transcendental—sexual horizons. The Boudoir Bible is a call to these creative paths and an invitation to embrace the vulnerability that is inherent to the sexual bond and to the luxury of love.
May the Paradise Found Sexual Ceremony lead you and yours toward a life filled with greater and more all-encompassing pleasure, the key to the cultivation of deeper, more solid, and enduring intimate bonds—the foundation of sexual satisfaction and well-being. The personal transformations that the skillful elaboration of the Sexual Ceremony incite will thrust open doors to a more adventurous, exquisite, and fulfilling life—both in and beyond the boudoir.