In the previous chapters we’ve talked at length about emotional healing. In this chapter you will get some tools to start your own healing process.
If you really want to heal, you must deal with the major issues in your life:
Complete the list of things you want to heal in your life. Use extra paper if needed. We will get back to this later when you have the tools. Write them down now and do not continue reading until you’ve spent at least 15 minutes on this task.
To heal means to eliminate all the stressors in your life by healing the parts of you that experience stress. Stress is not what happens but the meaning we give to what happens. To become aware of stress you have to become aware of what’s happening inside you. When you do not feel peaceful, loving or in harmony you are stressed and you need to do some healing. Remember, you want to observe the feelings and not I-dentify with them. Just let them be and then move on to acceptance and the healing mantra we will explore together shortly.
It is important to become aware of your feelings and your thoughts. By observing your actions and what you say, you will gain even more information. Awareness of healing means learning to know when anything threatens to take you out of harmony (your still-point). When you feel anything that causes discomfort, either inside or outside of you, it is an indication of a part of you that needs healing. For example: you are in a traffic jam and someone illegally cuts you off. Do you feel anger or frustration? There are many events in life where we feel justified in being upset, insulted, angry, frustrated or irritated. These feelings come from our soul which needs healing. When you get cheated and taken advantage of, you will feel very bad, very upset. Everyone will agree with you: you should feel that way. Nothing is further from the truth. When you have evolved you will not feel offended, you will forgive and break the karmic chain.
Here is another familiar situation: someone shows up late to meet you and you feel upset. You may think they do not respect you, especially if they do not apologize. Start paying attention to the situations in which you feel justified in feeling a certain way; when you are certain you are right and the other person wrong or impolite or rude.
There are many places to begin with healing. I have been working diligently on this for the last two years and there are not many things left that can disturb my balance. I feel incredibly happy most of the time and my relationships are more open, honest and stress-free. I do not care what people think of me, and my self-esteem has shot up tremendously. I have been attracting new people into my life. I have connected with some wonderful people. I am doing much more than ever before with less effort, and I feel blessed.
Some of the people I have been working with have changed my life. I have heard similar stories from thousands of people doing my seminars or attending workshops run by other instructors or working with practitioners of Omega Healing. You have to become conscious of what you are feeling and what your thoughts are in order to heal your soul completely. Anybody can learn how to do this. Feelings are fuelled and given a charge by unresolved issues. Healing consists of different elements:
This healing technique has been developed using different elements from different disciplines, acupuncture and affirmations. It has been field-tested on more than 20,000 people to verify its efficacy. The results are beyond any other simple technique I’ve studied over the past 20 years. This combined technique is called the Emotional Healing Formula; it is part of emotional balance. The most beautiful aspect is that you can do it all by yourself and do not need another to assist you. This gives you the means to use it anywhere and you can share it with anyone. You will get to know where you are hurt and how to heal yourself. You do not need psychoanalysis because your subconscious mind knows everything there is to know. You can also use the Omega Healing sessions (12 guided meditations) to guide you through this process – check page 288 for more information.
Emotional balance is used by thousands of people in Europe and has been taught in over 20 countries. The Emotional Healing Formula will connect you with your soul and your spirit, and bring you back to your true essence. It will connect you with the Source of all. You do not have to be religious to use this formula. Do not let the words distract you or trigger a negative response in you; this is universal and not meant to discomfort anyone. If you believe in angels, the messengers of God’s love, you can ask them to assist you and guide your healing. The word ‘angels’ comes from ancient Aramaic and is best translated as messengers (see Nick Bunick’s book In God’s Truth). These messengers, or guides, are always with us; they support us in our spiritual evolution and remind us that only when we are in harmony with what is inside us, with our spirit or Higher Self, the ‘I’, can we find unconditional happiness. Make use of your angels as much as possible; this will speed up your healing and help you to find inner peace.
During the processing of your feelings, you massage the acupoints for fear (next to the breastbone, under the clavicle) and say:
‘I accept myself and deeply love myself with my fear of letting go of this feeling. I accept myself even if I will never let go of this feeling completely.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 1: flexibility (If you accept the belief in angels, you can say the following): ‘I ask my angels and guides to assist me to the origin of this feeling (or thought) of … , however long ago, and help me to heal this completely.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 2: enjoyment (If you do not want to work with angels, you say): ‘I ask my spirit (or Higher Self) to go back to the very first time I ever experienced this feeling (or thought) of ...’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 2: enjoyment ‘I allow every part and aspect of my being to assist me to heal this original incident, however long ago, and to completely accept and love the original intention.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 3: acceptance and letting go
‘I forgive myself, by the love of God, for rejecting myself and others, for my incorrect beliefs, thoughts, feelings and perceptions, and I forgive any person, incident, others and anything involved, and let go of any reason or belief to need this any longer or at any time during any of my past experiences. I allow the healing to be complete for all related incidents ever since.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 4: peace and forgiveness
‘I now let go and release with unconditional love and God’s blessing all of the old that was part of my feeling or thinking this way, now and continuously. I choose to replace this with ... (positive feelings or thoughts). I accept this feeling of ... (positive feeling) in every cell of my body.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 5: expressing yourself truthfully
‘I am giving myself permission to let go of any related discomfort on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level, or any related attitude, behaviour or feelings with ease and grace, now and continuously.’
(Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 6: knowing yourself
‘I thank God, my guides and angels (or Higher Self) for all their help, and express to them my love and gratitude. I accept and am worthy of all of God’s blessings and love.’ (Inhale and exhale deeply) → Focus on chakra 7: universal love
The positive feelings with which you replace the negative feelings are important. Do not let this be an intellectual exercise; it is important to really feel these emotions in your body. Allow your body to express what’s in your mind, and then allow this feeling to go to every cell of your body.
Visualize this feeling moving through your body as if it were light, illuminating every cell.
Breathing: in total there are seven times when you will breathe deeply in and out. Each time you will connect subconsciously with one of the chakras and bring the energy higher into your system. It’s best to focus on the specific area related to each chakra as you do this and imagine a warm feeling in this area.
Base of your coccyx |
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Chakra 2 |
Around the area of your pubic bone |
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Chakra 3 |
Solar plexus or navel |
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Chakra 4 |
Around the area of your heart |
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Chakra 5 |
Your throat area |
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Chakra 6 |
Between your eyebrows (third eye) |
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Chakra 7 |
Just above your head (1 or 2 inches/2.5 to 5 cm) |
Just bring your attention to the chakra area. You can also connect the chakras with specific feelings. Do not worry about this too much at the beginning. As the Emotional Healing Formula becomes more of a routine, this will become easier.
Chakra 1 |
Flexibility (adapting to all challenges) |
Chakra 2 |
Enjoyment of life (enjoying the process of life) |
Chakra 3 |
Accepting and letting go (letting go easily) |
Chakra 4 |
Peace and forgiveness (harmony) |
Chakra 5 |
Expressing yourself truthfully (not holding back your feelings) |
Chakra 6 |
Knowing yourself (listening to your inner voice and guides) |
Chakra 7 |
Universal love (tapping the collective Oneness) |
The breathing goes as follows: take a deep breath through your nose as fast and deeply as possible, hold the breath for a few seconds, relax, close your eyes and, while focusing on the specific chakra, the specific keywords and the feelings, slowly exhale through your mouth, imagining that you are breathing through your chakra. Meanwhile you are massaging the acupoints for fear.
Healing can happen in an instant when we are ready. Most of the time healing is a gradual process. This is because most of us need time to change our thoughts, ideas and views. This takes time.
As you make this a routine in your life and use the Emotional Healing Formula on a daily basis, you become more and more balanced. It will be easier and easier for you to stay at still-point. You will become more and more focused on the positive feelings that are deep inside of you. It is important to find positive feelings to replace the old feelings; this can be done with just a word or with complete sentences. It does not matter as long as you allow that feeling to be inside of you. By using the chakra-keywords and focusing on those feelings, you are accelerating the healing process tremendously. If you do not find an appropriate feeling to replace the old one, it is always good to use unconditional happiness and harmony.
The Emotional Healing Formula connects us immediately with the ‘I’ and the source of all: God. It is not embracing one religion over another; it is your own direct prayer for healing and utilizes all parts of your soul and Higher Self to connect to God’s unconditional love. It will immediately raise your vibrations to a positive level of love, peace and harmony, which is the spiritual level of healing. You are going directly to the level of anti-matter, the so-called holographic blueprint, and you are unifying all systems together: your energetic body, mind, soul and spirit, the most powerful healing combination known to humanity.
The Emotional Healing Formula will do far more than create emotional balance. When you follow the ideas behind it, you will be able to heal yourself at all levels. It will bring you, step by step, to Level 3 of manifestation and help you to live chosaku, letting go and resolving most of your negative karma. Chosaku is a Japanese word indicating that you are not creating new negative karma, but burning old negative karma. It is conscious living with the intent to cleanse your soul and liberate your spirit. You will become more and more in tune with God’s loving will and use your heart as your compass and enjoy life to its fullest. Listening to your heart will also guide you to the path where there is no need for dis-ease. It is the path of least resistance. Dis-ease can also be healed faster by applying the Emotional Healing Formula. Remember not to fight the dis-ease but to accept it as your own creation, a way for your subconscious to let your attention remind you of an area in your life that needs healing.
Major areas to work on (soul-cleansing):
You can make these more specific, for example: ‘I am worthy of being loved despite the fact that my father gave me the impression he did not love me.’
I would recommend you prioritize the areas of importance and start with those that are your highest priority. Commit yourself to working on these areas daily for the coming months and add whatever triggers you on a day-to-day basis. If you meditate, do this before your meditation; this will benefit your meditation tremendously and you will get more out of it. I also recommend you start practising Qigong. If you do, I’d advise that it’s best to do this exercise first.
As with meditation or Qigong, it is important to use this Emotional Healing Formula in a comfortable, preferably quiet place. Make it special if at all possible. Light a candle and find an aromatherapy fragrance that you like, or incense, and put on some comforting music. Sit down and relax. Close your eyes and breathe in and out slowly. Then focus one by one on your seven chakras. Use the seven words related with the chakras and tune in to the corresponding feelings:
Then, I would also invite angels and guides to come closer, to support and assist your healing. With your eyes closed, imagine being surrounded by loving beings of light that come to support you and assist you to heal your soul. They are always close by and ready to help. Now you are ready to start the deep healing. Let’s say you are working on this issue: ‘I am worthy of being loved.’ This is how you could do it.
Start by massaging the acupoints for fear (next to the breastbone, under the clavicle); then say the following: ‘I accept and deeply love myself with my fear of letting go of this belief of not being worthy of being loved. I accept myself even if I will never let go of this belief completely.’ Inhale in deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your attention to the area of chakra 1 (just above the tip of the coccyx). Focus on feeling flexible, ready to adapt to all challenges. Feel safe and secure, knowing you can handle anything that happens in your life. Breathe as if you are breathing through this area.
‘I ask my angels and guides to assist me to go to the origin of this belief, however long ago, of not being worthy enough to be loved and help me to heal this completely.’ and/or
‘I ask my spirit (or Higher Self) to go back to the very first time I ever experienced this belief of not being worthy enough of love.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your attention to the area of chakra 2. Imagine breathing through this area around your pubic bone. Focus on feeling joy, pleasure and gratitude for all the good things in your life.
Continue with (while massaging the acupoints for fear): ‘I allow every part and aspect of my being to assist me to heal this original incident, however long ago, and to completely accept and love the original intention.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your awareness to the area of chakra 3 (around the navel or solar plexus) and imagine breathing through this area. Focus on feeling open and receptive (accepting) and able to let go of the past gracefully. Imagine the past dissolving and disappearing through this chakra.
‘I forgive myself by the love of God for rejecting myself and others for my incorrect beliefs, thoughts, feelings and perceptions, and forgive any person, incident, others and anything involved and let go of any reason for believing I need this any longer or during any of my past experiences. I allow the healing to be complete and to extend to all related incidents ever since.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your awareness to the area of chakra 4 (around your heart) and imagine breathing through this area. Focus on feeling peaceful, loving and forgiving and promise yourself to open your heart completely to let go of all past traumas. Imagine how your emotional scar tissues disappear through forgiveness and the unconditional love of God.
‘I now let go and release with unconditional love and God’s blessing all the old feelings that were causing me to feel or think this way, now and continuously. I choose to replace this with feelings of being worthy of love and self-esteem. I accept this feeling of being valuable and worthy in every cell of my body.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your focus to the area of chakra 5 (around your throat) and imagine bringing light and energy to this area. Focus on feeling at ease, expressing your innermost feelings and thoughts truthfully. Imagine this light or energy spreading through your whole body and feel full of God’s love and appreciation. Bring this to every cell in your body and fill them with this light until you see yourself as one big source of light. Continue now with:
‘I am giving myself permission to let go of any related discomfort on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level, or any related attitude, behaviour or feelings, with ease and grace, now and continuously.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your focus to the area of chakra 6 (between your eyebrows) and imagine bringing light that you inhale into this area. Focus now on opening yourself up to the guidance of your Higher Self, spiritual guides and angels. Imagine seeing these guides and angels, receiving messages from them that will help and assist you on your spiritual path.
Finish with:
‘I thank God, my guides and angels (or Higher Self) for all of their help and express to them my love and gratitude. I accept and am worthy of all of God’s blessings and love.’ Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale slowly and bring your essence of your being to the area of chakra 7 (just an inch or two above your head) and imagine a beam of light connecting you with the source of all life and feel God’s unconditional love and compassion for you and all beings. Let this light fill you up from head to toe with truth and hope and feel connected with the universe.
Return now to your body and feel your body. When you feel like it, open your eyes.
How does it feel to try this Emotional Healing Formula? Be aware of how powerful this is and, each time you do it, you will find it even more powerful due to the accumulated effect. Work with the same issue at least 21 times to get the full effect. You can work on several issues one after another, but do not overdo it. Allow your body to adjust.
Write the formula down and carry it with you everywhere you go. Use it as often as you want. Also continue reading for more tips on how to speed up your healing and become emotionally balanced. The formula cleanses the soul and resonates with your spiritual DNA. Your spiritual DNA is your soul’s purpose for being, the original plan of why you are here. This practice will help you to get in touch with that, especially when you combine it with meditation or Qigong.
There are five categories that are related to unresolved emotions or feelings. Analyzing these categories helps you get more out of your Emotional Healing sessions:
1. Mental |
thoughts, beliefs, ideas, images, memories |
2. Attitude |
behaviour (physiology, voice, composure) |
3. Incidents |
stress (traumas, people, environment) |
4. Feelings |
emotions, sensations, moods, pain |
5. Physical |
sensations pain, disease, cravings |
These five categories are interrelated and influence one another.
There is one more category that is more difficult to define: spirituality. This relates more to unease stemming from not being on the right path (not following your dharma, the path of magic, of bliss and effortlessness). Unhappiness, restlessness and accidents can be the result. For simplicity, I will not bring this one into the picture right now, but you can add it if you feel comfortable with it.
When we change in one of these categories, all the other ones are affected as well. Changing your beliefs has a tremendous impact on your attitude, stress levels, feelings and physical body. Now is a good time to reread the chapter www.God... This can change your life.
Let’s have a look at an example.
Harry was a bright eight-year-old. His mother brought him to see me because he was forgetful and tired all the time. Not a day would pass by without Harry forgetting something somewhere, from his lunchbox to his clothes or shoes. He was also unable to remember anything that happened in school. Strangely enough, he always got good marks on tests. Harry looked at me with his big sky-blue eyes and I saw his despair and sadness. I asked him what he could tell me about school that day. ‘We played outside,’ he told me. ‘Anything else?’ I asked. ‘We were in class all day!’ Whatever I asked, he could not get more specific than that. He said, ‘I have a bad memory, I keep forgetting things!’ I asked him why he said that and he replied, ‘Everybody tells me that.’ I told him that others were completely wrong, and that he had a great memory, while I showed him all the things he remembered: how to do maths, how to speak, how to dress, how to play basketball, football, monopoly, draughts, chess and so on. ‘Harry, do you know there is not one computer in the whole wide world that can do as many things as you can?’ Harry’s whole physiology changed: he smiled, sat up straight and looked at his mum to see if she were listening.
I showed Harry how to massage the acupoint for self-esteem, and explained to him that this was a magic secret way to enhance memory, and that he had to massage it at least three times a day while saying, ‘I have a great memory; I remember everything easily.’
Here is how Harry’s ‘five categories’ looked before he came to see me:
1. Mental |
he believed he had a terrible memory; this was constantly confirmed by others. |
2. Attitude |
low self-esteem and apologetic |
3. Incidents |
stress at home and at school, because he could not find anything and forgot things |
4. Feelings |
of inadequacy: ‘I am worthless.’ |
5. Physical |
exhaustion, low energy |
Two weeks later Harry was a completely different boy. The puffiness under his eyes was gone, he was not forgetful anymore, he felt great and freer than ever before.
This kind of situation happens all the time: we focus on our weaknesses, help others focus on theirs, and get stuck in that mode and cannot get out anymore. We should focus on how to help and support others.
Here is another example.
Mary, a 26-year-old woman, is an alcoholic and suffers from depression. She is suicidal and does not want to live anymore. She does not believe that she is worthy of having a good relationship and feels she is a failure. She sits for hours in front of the TV, snacks a lot and is on Prozac.
Six months ago her fiancé told her, just three weeks before the wedding, that he was in love with another woman. This woman, he said, was his soulmate and they were destined to be together. He left Mary. She was devastated, and also mortified at having to call the wedding off. This had been her second relationship and had lasted for four years; her previous relationship had ended after three years. She gained 10 pounds and got fired for coming in late and not being able to finish her tasks. That’s when she began drinking.
Let’s look at Mary’s ‘five categories’:
Mental |
‘I am a failure, nobody loves me.’ Recurring thoughts of suicide. Also, she remembered that her father never said he loved her. ‘I am worthless.’ |
Attitude |
depressed, does not speak up or at times very rebellious and angry |
Incidents |
wedding cancellation, father who did not express his emotions |
Feelings |
‘who cares?’ – despondency, despair |
Physical |
cravings for alcohol, snacks, excessive sleep |
The areas we focused on in healing were changing Mary’s beliefs about herself and to remind her of the events and people in her life that were proof she was loved. Her mother had always expressed her love. Gradually we changed her feelings about herself, and her cravings for sugar and alcohol disappeared as well.
It is always important to create a supportive environment for healing and to remove yourself from people who will block your healing and growth.
Use the Emotional Healing Formula any time you feel uncomfortable, stressed, angry, upset or frustrated. Always remember that the external triggers (incidents) only have an effect if something inside needs healing. Scan your beliefs, attitude, physical sensations and emotions, and after the session experience how this has changed. The incident or trigger should no longer throw you off. If it still does, this only means you need to do it more often until you reach complete still-point. Still-point means you feel peaceful and at ease when you think of the situation or when you are in it again. A good way is to grade your level of discomfort from zero to 10, with zero being completely at ease and peaceful and 10 being the worst possible intensity of emotion you can imagine. After the healing session, grade the intensity again; there should be a difference now. If there is no difference, you should try the technique for emotional reversal.
Make a fist with one hand and start hitting (gently) the palm of the other hand. After five or six hits, alternate the hands.
Speed it up until you can do this as fast as you can.
Now say the following sentences:
‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even if I will never be completely happy, healthy and successful.’
Inhale deeply (fast) and exhale more slowly, then proceed ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even when I will become extremely happy, healthy and successful.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and proceed ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even if I will never let go of this feeling/thought/belief of … (fill in what you are working on now).’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and continue ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even if I will let go of this feeling/thought/belief of … (fill in what you are working on now).’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and continue ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even if I am not willing to let go completely of this feeling/thought/belief of … (fill in what you are working on now) and would like to keep some of it.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and proceed ‘I accept myself and love myself at the deepest level and I feel completely comfortable to let go of this feeling/ thought/belief of … (fill in what you are currently working on) completely and permanently now.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and proceed ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level even if I still have reasons, beliefs or parts of me that will resist my letting go of this feeling/belief/thought of (fill in what you are currently working on) now.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and continue ‘I accept and love myself at the deepest level possible even when I let go and heal all reasons, beliefs or parts of me that were resisting the complete and permanent letting go of this feeling/thought/belief of … (fill in what you are currently working on) now.’
Inhale deeply (fast) – exhale more slowly and you can stop making a fist now.
After a session you will have eliminated most of the hidden saboteurs to your healing. Now go back and repeat your Emotional Healing Formula.
You can also routinely practise emotional reversal.
What we achieve with the alternating movement of the fists and the breathing is:
The faster we do this, the more we engage the neurological system; the affirmations help to heal unresolved issues. We are involving the whole brain and allowing the body to access its own divine healing wisdom. Your intention is to bring the intensity of the feeling to still-point (0), where you feel calm, peaceful and at ease. Some feelings are so ingrained in the system that they need more work. Make a note in your journal and work every day until you reach still-point. You can also use the other acupoints for deep work.
At the end of each day, evaluate how your day went and the times when you felt stressed, irritated or negative. Take each time through the Emotional Healing Formula or make a note in your journal. Note the date and incident.
Reserve some time to catch up on your unresolved emotional load. Soul-cleansing is hard work when you start, but very soon it will become smart work and eventually no work at all! Work through as many triggers, stressors and unresolved feelings as possible. Remember that beliefs are higher up the hierarchy than feelings. Also pay attention to recurrent self-critical thoughts and any thoughts you have that reject or ridicule you or make you feel inferior. Your attitude toward life and your physical feelings should also be in this equation.
You are learning to pay attention and become a better observer of yourself. You are connecting more and more to the ‘I’, and this is a spiritual journey! As you go along, you will know the Emotional Healing Formula by heart and always have it available for any occasion.
Never let the Emotional Healing Formula become just an intellectual exercise, just a script you read. It should involve your mind, body, soul and spirit. You can say it out loud or silently, it doesn’t matter. Your full attention should be on it.
Once in a while you will still have feelings that are difficult to verbalize. The labels are not really important. Just grade the intensity of the feeling from 0 to 10, and focus on the feeling of discomfort while you are working through the Emotional Healing Formula. In the next chapter we’ll look at some additional tools to break through deep unresolved layers.
To end this chapter, here is a quote by an anonymous author my sister gave to me:
The Choice Is Mine
I choose to live by choice, not chance
I choose to make changes, not excuses
I choose to be motivated, not manipulated
I choose to be useful, not used
I choose self-esteem, not self-pity
I choose to excel, not compete
I choose to listen to the inner voice, not the random opinion of the crowds.
The choice is mine, and I choose to surrender to the will of the Divine Mind, for in surrendering I am Victorious.