How Long Does It
Once you have finished the book, answered the questions, and practiced the “Venus Butterfly” technique on yourself and each other once, you are already on your way.
The good news is also the bad news. You may never “master” the technique completely. There will always be more to learn. It is like golf or tennis. You can improve each time you practice and, like those popular sports, sex is more fun the better you get.
Regarding extending the length of your partner’s orgasms, it really isn’t important in itself. Of course, it is fun to measure your progress as you practice the techniques, but don’t get caught up in accomplishing an ideal goal and dropping out the fun you could be having as you are improving.
More important than the number of orgasmic contractions your partner has is the intensity of those contractions. First focus on increasing the fun and pleasure you both are having. Once you relax and start having fun, the intensity and length of orgasmic contractions will increase on their own each time you make love.
Our most important advice is to take your time. Enjoy the journey. The most practical goal is to feel that you are increasing your sexual skills each time you make love, not to see how fast you can get there or how long you can make it last.
If you are still in a hurry, you will be excited to learn that we have made several “how-to” instructional videos and DVDs out of The One Hour Orgasm.
The first is For His Eyes Only. The companion to this video/DVD is called For Her Eyes Only. They not only tell you how to increase your and your partner’s sexual pleasure, they show you as well.
Each describes in detail, and demonstrates, using attractive couples, the “Venus Butterfly” technique, and other ideas for enhancing and prolonging a romantic interlude. They can even help you instigate lovemaking when your partner isn’t particularly in the mood. These videos are not pornographic. They are done tastefully; however, they contain nudity and are both very explicit (so put the kids to bed before plugging them in).
We highly recommend these videos and DVDs for a live demonstration of the “Venus Butterfly” technique. The videos and DVDs are produced by The American Institute for Sexual Studies and the information in this book have been featured on HBO, television shows, and radio talk shows all over the United States, Canada, and England. (See Recommended Books and Tapes at the end for more information.)
As you read The One Hour Orgasm, we recommended that you write out the answers to our questions as well as write down your thoughts, insights, and the feelings as you practice the “Venus Butterfly” technique.
As you already know, we have also provided fill-in-the-blank spaces so that you can easily respond to the questions as they are presented.
It is even a good idea to keep a separate, private, diary while you are reading and applying the techniques. Your diary is for your eyes only, unless you decide to share parts of it with your mate.