How Did You Do?
The purpose of Chapter 7 was to impart some crucial information. You learned that, in order to master the “Venus Butterfly” technique, it must be experienced, not merely read.
Please write out the answers to these questions:
1. After doing your “Venus Butterfly” Sexercises, are you now more aware of which parts of your body give you the most pleasure? Write down specifically which parts (lips, neck, nipples, genitals, etc.) and what kind of touching you discovered that you like best:
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2. Now that you are more familiar with your own body, if you were to guess, where might your partner’s favorite places be?
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3. Have you learned so far what might help you in pleasuring your partner?
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4. What effects do you suppose practicing your “Venus Butterfly” Sexercises once a week on yourself will have on your relationship with your partner?
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5. What thoughts or considerations stopped you from doing more for yourself during your “Venus Butterfly” Sexercises?
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6. Write down specific dates when you will repeat all of the above “Visiting Dignitary” sexercises for yourself. It is important to repeat these sexercises at least once a week for the next 12 weeks, especially if you are interested in having more control over your sensual nervous system and more intense and longer orgasms.
You will probably resist repeating these exercises, not because you don’t want the benefits promised, but because part of us always resists having too much pleasure. The solution is very simple. The first step is to just stop doing the behavior which holds you back.
First, write down the next 12 specific dates and times you will repeat these sexercises over the next three months:
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Next, go to your calendar or appointment book and mark the dates when you will repeat these sexercises. Begin to look forward to the next “date” as if it were with the most important person in the world. Because it is!
Sometime in the future you may want your partner to help you do the “Venus Butterfly” sexercises. If you start to slip back into your resisting patterns of behavior, your partner’s support may get you back on track. If this kind of support would be valuable, make a date with your partner, and put it on your calendar.
•Make an appointment (date and time) with your partner to talk about how the experience of “Venus Butterfly”sexercises were for each of you from beginning to end. (_______________________)
•Using your notes, go over each detail and be specific with each other on what sensitive areas you discovered.
If you can talk openly about one of the most emotionally-charged subjects in the world…sex, you can talk to each other about anything!
•Give each other all the information on how your body works. Eagerly press each other for details. You are gathering information that is necessary in order to have more fun as a couple and to be able to satisfy your partner every time. Pressing yourselves to “talk” to each other about this subject is more important than you can imagine.
•Tell each other if you became a little uncomfortable with the amounts of pleasure you were experiencing while you were doing the “Visiting Dignitary” sexercise.
If you became uncomfortable and stopped early, what were the specific thoughts or feelings that caused you to stop? Write your answers below.
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Another purpose of these “Venus Butterfly” sexercises is to begin to increase the amount of pleasure you can physically, emotionally, and mentally enjoy at one stretch.
Has your “pleasure limit” increased by doing the sexercises? If so, in what specific ways?
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Approximately, how many times did you “peak” yourself? ____
Which feelings or thoughts did you experience when you “peaked” yourself?
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In what specific ways were you able to control, either upward or downward, the sexual energy or tumescence in your body?
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Are some of the “connections” you set up still working? Can you rub some specific, sensitized part of your body and still feel the pleasurable sensations in your genital area? If so, where?
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If you ever find yourself separated from your partner, doing the “Venus Butterfly” sexercises over the phone with each other is great “phone sex.” It can make you feel connected even though you may be thousands of miles apart.
The “Venus Butterfly” sexercises are also very, very beneficial if you are single and want to find or begin to get ready to have a successful relationship. Many people who have begun to practice the “Venus Butterfly” sexercises have reported that the “Handsome Prince” or “Fairy Princess” that they had been looking for seemed to magically show up. We believe this can be best explained by the old saying, “When you are really ready, they will appear.”
By practicing the “Venus Butterfly” sexercises on a regular basis, you will begin to allow yourself to experience more fun and spontaneity in your life, both in and out of the bedroom.
Now you are ready to begin using the “Venus Butterfly” technique on your partner.