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Academics. See Education
Acceptance, 61, 67
Acknowledgment, 216
Alienation, 20–22
Allowance, 144–45
Altar, 75
Amateurism, 195–96
Ambition, 39
Amends, 206
Ancestry, 247
Animals, 79–83, 130. See also specific animals
Appreciating Respect (exercise), 114
Appreciation, 114, 217, 222
Archeology (exercise), 154
Art, 153, 209, 210. See also Creativity
Art supplies, 53, 54, 121
Artist Date (exercise), 25–26
The Artist’s Way (Cameron), 1–2
Artists, 119–20, 154–57, 236
At Home with the Animal Kingdom (exercise), 83
Athletics, 207–8
Attention, 16–17
Audience, 164–69, 205, 248–49, 254. See also Listening
Availability, of parents, 243–44
to friends, 23
self-care and, 17, 22, 33–34, 241–42
Baby Steps (exercise), 184
Backwards Day, 239
Backwards Day (exercise), 240
“Beauty Inside and Out,” 40–41
Bedtime, 12–13, 140, 157–58, 186–88
Beliefs, 153–57, 236
Believing Mirrors, 252–55
Believing Mirrors (exercise), 256
Birthdays, 190
Blasting Through Boredom (exercise), 139
Blessings, counting, 88–91, 189
Blowing Off Steam (exercise), 230
Bonding, 11
Bookmarks, 74
Books, 63, 158, 160, 168
Boredom, 136–39
Boundaries, 93–97
arbitrary, 118
enmeshment and, 244
honesty and, 199–200
labels and, 234
modeling, 111
for self-care, 17–18
Bravery, 193
Building a Calm Environment (exercise), 187
Building the Safety Circle (exercise), 31
Bullying, 260
Calmness, 90
Cameron, Dorothy, 102
Cameron, Julia, 1–2
Capturing Memories (exercise), 132
Check-in, 28–29, 30
Cherished Books (exercise), 160
Children
age of, 10, 11
alone time for, 95
autonomy of, 17–18, 62, 95–96, 138, 151, 222, 233, 239–40, 244
comparison between, 224
cooking by, 148–51
Creative Expeditions for, 10–11
decision-making by, 95–96
identity of, 68
individuality of, 98, 118, 125–27, 204, 224–25
labels for, 224, 234–36
messiness and, 107, 109–10, 150
overscheduling of, 48–51, 94, 95, 202–3, 226–27
ownership by, 61, 68, 148
physicality of, 230
pressure on, 226–29
privacy for, 103–4
spirituality of, 251
storytelling by, 168–69
talents of, 97, 98
teaching by, 205
venting by, 86
Chores, 139–40, 142, 143
Clay, 55
Cleaning, 98–102, 104–6, 109, 110
Closeness, 62, 63
Clothes, 207, 239–40
Clutter, 98–102, 106–7
Collage, 237
Companionship, 71
Comparison, 213, 214, 216, 224
Competition, 216–17
creativity and, 220–22
as distraction, 214, 219–21, 222–23
encouragement and, 220
between siblings, 221, 224
Complaining, 137, 138–39
Compliments, 61, 162, 220
Computer, 50, 132
Concentration, 17–18
Confidants. See Safety circle
Confidence, 40–41, 46, 67, 163
Conflicts, 84–85, 112–13
Conformity, 233, 237–40
Connection
to ancestry, 247
with animals, 81
creativity through, 240
through reading, 159–60
with spirituality, 71, 72
through storytelling, 169–70
through walking, 83–88, 189–90
Consistency, 187
Control
faith and, 251, 259
identity and, 61–62
in parenting, 61–62
self-expression and, 199–200
shaming as, 209
Conversation, 84, 86, 88
Cooking, 148–51
Cook Something (exercise), 151
Correcting, 60
Courtesy, 111–14
Creation, 53–54, 57–58
inspiration and, 135
as rebellion, 118
spirituality and, 122, 123
Creative Expeditions, 10–12
Creative offering, 91
Creativity
beliefs and, 153–57, 236
boredom and, 136–39
competition and, 220–22
through connection, 240
cooking and, 150
criticism and, 207, 208, 209, 210
in education, 200–202, 203, 204–5
encouragement of, 45, 121, 125–27, 130–31, 153, 155, 156, 193, 201, 236, 248, 253–55, 257–58
environment for, 2–3, 15, 59–60, 106–7, 121
faith and, 259, 261
labels and, 234–36
lack of, 252–53
materials for, 53–58, 67–68, 121
messiness and, 107, 109–10, 150
money and, 145–46
in parenting, 5–6, 201
of parents, 1–2, 63, 66–67
perfectionism and, 5, 108–9, 156
pressure and, 229
process of, 119–20
respect for, 113, 164
safety and, 235
spirituality in, 4, 121
in structure, 93, 97
Creativity Corner (exercise), 121
Criticism, 193, 202, 206–10
Cubbyhole, 103–4
Curiosity, 45
Debunking Mythology (exercise), 156–57
Decluttering, 98–102, 106–7
Defining Interests (exercise), 64
Depression, 22–23
Desires, 123–24
Destinations, 88
Devices Off (exercise), 179
Digital cameras, 132
Discipline, 96–97, 161–62
Discouragement, 63, 105, 163
Display, 129–32, 217
Dogs, 79, 80, 81–82
“Doing a fifteen,” 100, 101, 102, 104–6
Doll-making (exercise), 67–68
Downtime, 28–36, 47–51, 94–96
Dread, 139–40
Drumming, 96–97
Ducks, 80–81
DVDs, 176
Earning Money (exercise), 147
Edison, Thomas Alva, 215
Education
bullying and, 260
creativity in, 200–202, 203, 204–5
pressure in, 227–29
respect in, 112
Effort, 214–16, 222
Einstein, Albert, 123
An Element of Fun (exercise), 143
Encouragement, 60, 63, 66, 117
competition and, 220
with cooking, 150–51
of creativity, 45, 121, 125–27, 130–31, 153, 155, 156, 193, 201, 236, 248, 253–55, 257–58
of effort, 215–16, 222
of exploration, 67, 125–28, 197
from friends, 252
of music, 160–63, 166–67
of rebellion, 239
Enmeshment, 243, 244
Entering the Garden (exercise), 78–79
Entertainment, 164–68, 176–77
Enthusiasm, 19, 63, 66, 96–98, 127
Environment
for creativity, 2–3, 15, 59–60, 106–7, 121
for experimentation, 228
for inspiration, 97
orderly, 98–102, 104–7
for self-expression, 118–19
for sleep, 187
Exercise, for health, 37–38, 181, 183–84. See also Walking
Experimentation, 125–29
in cooking, 150
environment for, 228
with honesty, 198
perfectionism and, 156, 194–97
Exploration, 45, 46
encouragement of, 67, 125–28, 197
independence in, 62
respect for, 202
tools for, 58
Exploration (exercise), 128–29
Fairy tales, 65–66, 170–71
Faith, 48, 123, 251, 259, 261
Fame, 214, 215–16, 218
Fantasy, 46–47, 54–56, 63
Favorites, 12–13
Fear, 206, 208–9, 210
Feelings, 200
Fish, 16–17
Fitness, 37–38, 181, 183–84
Flower Fairy books, 103
Flowers, 73–76
Flute, 163
Focus, 176
Food, 94, 148–51, 180–83
Francis W. Parker School, 260
Freedom, 51, 52–53, 63, 93–96
Friends
availability to, 23
encouragement from, 252
identity and, 41
imaginary, 65, 254
for parents, 20–21, 23–24, 27, 29–30, 41
reading and, 159
From Child to Parent (exercise), 205
Games, 245–46, 249
Gardens, 58–59, 72, 73–74
Generosity, 17
Gift Giving (exercise), 226
Goals, 147
God, 71
blessings from, 88
nature and, 72, 83–84
optimism and, 123
spirituality and, 5
will of, 259
wonder and, 87
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 65
Grades, 48, 81, 82
Granet, Russell, 200–201
Granny Bags, 142
Grateful for Gratitude (exercise), 91
Gratitude, 88–91
Grocery shopping, 140, 143
Guilt, 20–21, 22–23
Health, 37–38, 175
food and, 180–83
happiness and, 179
of parents, 181–84
Heightening Downtime (exercise), 35
Helping Another (exercise), 259
Henry, Marguerite, 63, 158
Highlights, 12–13, 189
Hobbies, 31–33
Homework, 95
Honest Feelings (exercise), 200
Honesty, 198–200
Horses, 79–80, 130
House Rules (exercise), 245
Humility, 213
Humor, 66
Identity
of children, 68
control and, 61–62
friends and, 41
labels vs, 234–36
as parents, 22, 23, 26–27, 36–42, 199
persona, 68
recovery of, 63
Imaginary friends, 65, 254
Imagination, 54–55, 63
boredom and, 136–39
inspiration and, 56, 65
nature and, 72, 137
in play, 65–67, 121–22
storytelling and, 171
technology and, 176
Imperfection, modeling, 195, 197
Independence, 37, 60–61, 62, 138
Innovation, 135
Inspiration
creation and, 135
enthusiasm and, 96–97
environment for, 97
imagination and, 56, 65
from nature, 74
walking for, 83–84
Instincts, 63
Interests, 31–36, 64, 125–26
In the Audience (exercise), 167–68
Inventiveness, 124, 135
Isolation, 20–24
Jealousy, 23
Judgment, 26, 67, 202
Kindness, 111, 113
Koh, Christine, 95, 176, 203
Labels, 224, 234–36
Lane, Lynnie, 166
The Last Temptation of Christ, 260
Leadership, 182
Limits, 93–97, 118, 178–79
The Lion King, 166
Listening, 67–68, 124, 205
with compassion, 199–200
music and, 162, 164
to storytelling, 171
Listening (exercise), 164, 172
Loneliness, 10, 26–27
Madison Avenue, 87
Make a Collage (exercise), 237
Make a Mess (exercise), 110
Manipulation, 113
Manners, 111–14
Martyrdom, 17, 198–99, 242
Mary Poppins, 139
Materials, 53–58, 67–68, 121
McCarthy, Julianna, 22, 27, 241–42
Meals, 94, 148–51
Meddling, 58–63
Meditation, 8
Memories, 46, 52, 145
Mentors, 257
Messiness, 107, 109–10, 150
Micromanagement, 48–49, 51, 52, 60–61
Mimicry, 16, 111
Minimalist Parenting (Koh), 95
Mistakes, 46, 195, 201
Misty of Chincoteague (Henry), 63, 158
Modeling Imperfection (exercise), 197
Modesty, 213
Money, 144–47
Monster in the Closet (exercise), 210
Morning Pages, 6–10, 23, 189, 198
Motivation, 81, 82, 147
Movies, 164–65, 176
Music, 199. See also Singing; specific instruments
discipline for, 96–97, 161–62
encouragement of, 160–63, 166–67
listening and, 162, 164
Musicals, 66
My Book House, 158
Mythology, about artists, 156–57, 236
Naming Talents (exercise), 97–98
Naps, 185–86
Nature, 71–79, 83–84, 137
Next Right Thing (exercise), 222–23
Nonconformity, 233, 237–40
Nurturing, 240, 252
Nutrition, 180
Optimism, 6, 38, 77
as choice, 88
God and, 123
trained, 189
Orderliness, 98–102, 104–10
Organization, 98–102
Outings, 24, 25–26
Parenting
as adventure, 24
conflicts in, 84–85
control in, 61–62
creativity in, 5–6, 201
flexible, 66–67
loneliness of, 10, 26–27
perfectionism in, 4, 108–9, 156
as powerlessness, 20, 22
teaching in, 56–57
tools for, 2, 6–13, 15–24
Parents
as audience, 166–68, 205, 248–49, 254
availability of, 17, 22, 23, 33–34, 241–44
beliefs of, 153–57, 236
creativity of, 1–2, 63, 66–67
curiosity of, 45
downtime for, 28–36
exercise for, 37–38, 181, 183–84
friends for, 20–21, 23–24, 27, 29–30, 41
identity as, 22, 23, 26–27, 36–42, 199
interests of, 31–36, 64
isolation of, 20–24
overinvolvement of, 48–49, 51, 52, 58–64
play for, 46, 51–53
privacy for, 6–7, 23
as role models, 15–17, 32, 34–35, 110, 111, 135, 156, 180, 181–84, 195
self-care of, 15, 17–18, 22, 31–36, 241–42
single, 22
sleep for, 185–86, 187
talents of, 97, 98
working, 17–18
Parks, 72, 77, 80–81
Party favors, 57
Perfectionism
creativity and, 5, 108–9, 156
effort and, 214–15
experimentation and, 156, 194–97
as obstacle, 196
in parenting, 4, 108–9, 156
Personas, 68
Perspective, 40
Pets, 79, 80, 81–82
Photos, 129–32
Physicality, of children, 230
Piano, 46, 47, 145, 223
Piggy bank, 144
Plants, 72–75, 78–79
Play, 45, 48–50
imagination in, 65–67, 121–22
materials, 53–58, 67–68, 121
messiness of, 107, 109–10, 150
for parents, 46, 51–53
as productive, 47
spirituality and, 122
structure for, 95
Playfulness, 238–40
Positive thinking, 123
Praise, 125, 150–51, 162, 220, 222
Prayer, 75, 188, 261
Prayer (exercise), 261
Pressure, 226–29
Pretend, 65–68
Pride, 149
Prioritizing, 32, 37–38, 177
Privacy, 6–7, 23, 103–4
Progress, 105
Prosperity consciousness, 147
Questions, 164
Reading, 31–35, 157–60, 187–88
Rebellion, 118, 199, 237–38, 239
Recycling, 99
Rediscovering Play (exercise), 52–53
Relaxation, 49–50
Resentment, 23, 32, 61
Resilience, 123
Respect, 111, 114
for creativity, 113, 164
in education, 112
for exploration, 202
nurturing and, 252
self-, 253–54
Returning to Games (exercise), 249
Returning to Ritual (exercise), 191
Rewards, 81, 82, 99, 144, 147
Risks, 46
Rituals, 80, 191
bedtime, 12–13, 157–58, 186–88
Highlights as, 12–13, 189
Morning Pages as, 189
safety in, 190
saying grace as, 188
walking as, 189–90
Road trip, 141–42
A Room of Your Own (exercise), 107
Rules, 118
Rushing, 89
Ryba, Sara, 180
Safety, 15–16, 67, 190, 235
Safety circle, 26–31
Savings, 144
Saying grace, 188
School. See Education
Schwartz, Jenna, 256–57
Scrapbooks, 130, 131–32
Screens, 177, 179
Seeds, 58–59
Self, sense of, 68
Self-assessment, 98
Self-care
availability and, 17, 22, 33–34, 241–42
boundaries for, 17–18
making time for, 31–36
modeling, 15
Self-expression, 117–20, 199–200
Self-knowledge, 67
Self-pity, 23
Self-respect, 253–54
Selflessness, 17, 22, 32–33
Service, 256–58, 259
Setting the Stage for Enthusiasm (exercise), 19
Seventy-two Pickup, 140
Seventy-two Pickup (exercise), 102
Shaming, 163, 203, 206–10
Siblings, 11, 221, 224–26, 258
Singing, 126, 166
Sleep, 185–86, 187
Snacks, 180–81
Social norms, 233, 237
Something from Nothing (exercise), 58
Souvenirs, 242–43
Spirituality
of children, 251
connection with, 71, 72
creation and, 122, 123
in creativity, 4, 121
God and, 5
play and, 122
safety with, 15–16
Spontaneity, 94, 95
Spontaneous Creation (exercise), 124
Stories, 65–66, 124, 157–58, 170–71
Storytelling, 168–72
Stress, 16, 89
Structure, 77, 93, 94–97
Studio, 118–19
Stuffed animals, 54–55
Suggestions, 59
Talents, 97–98, 161–62
Teaching, 56–57, 112, 205
Technology, 175, 176–79
Tests, 201
Theater, 165–66, 247–48
Thomas, Dylan, 72
Thornton, Jeff, 260
Time. See also Bedtime
alone, 95
balance of, 94–96
free, 28–36, 47–51
in nature, 77, 78–79
for paying attention, 90
for self-care, 31–36
structured, 77
Timer, 99
To Our Destination (exercise), 88
Toxic influences, 235
Toys, 16, 54–56, 67–68, 101
Traveling, 141–42
Trust, 62
Vacation, 49, 76
Value, of money, 144–47
Venting, 6–7, 86
Video games, 176, 178
Violin, 161
Walking, 83–88, 189–90
Walking (exercise), 42
Weight, 181–82, 183
Window shopping, 87
Wish List (exercise), 218–19
Wonder, 45, 46–47, 87
Woolf, Virginia, 7, 103
Worry, 124
Writing, 6–10, 50–51