1. Like Jenna, victims of long-term emotional abuse often lose themselves in the abusive relationship. Are there relationships or circumstances in your life that threaten the core of who you are? How do you hold on to the person God created you to be?
2. How did you feel about the way Jenna handled her relationship with Brigitte in the beginning of the story? How might you have handled the relationship differently?
3. Jenna chronicled her suffering and her relationship with God through her blog. How do you handle suffering? Do you reach out for others as Jenna did? Or do you isolate yourself?
4. Due to the wounds of her past, Andee felt compelled to control her circumstances. Are there wounds from your past that affect your behavior?
5. After learning Andee's secret, did you feel more compassion for her and less judgment of her? Are there people in your life you might extend that same compassion?
6. Both Jenna and Andee were faced with the choice of revealing truth or hiding behind their circumstances. How did the truth set them free? How does it set you free? (See John 8:32.)
7. At first, Jenna misinterpreted what it meant to pick up her cross and follow Christ, assuming it meant she had to stay in her place of suffering. What does it truly mean, based on Matthew 10:34–39, to pick up our cross and follow Christ?
8. Does anything about the verses in Matthew 10:34–39 surprise you? What?
9. Have you had to make the choice to walk away from people in your life who keep you from Christ? If so, was it a difficult decision and how did you handle it? If not, how would you deal with someone who came between you and your relationship with God?
10. Does the kind of relationship Jenna had with God seem extreme to you? Why or why not?
11. Jenna and Matthew shared a bond based on their mutual love for Christ. Do you have people in your life that you can share your spiritual journey with? If not, how might you establish such relationships and how would they benefit you?
12. Jenna seemed to have a romance with God. Does that type of relationship with God appeal to you? Why or why not?
13. Andee worked to redeem herself after she betrayed Jason and his family. Why did her efforts fail?
14. Have you ever struggled to accept God's forgiveness? Explain.
15. Lost and Found portrays God working simultaneously through the lives of Jenna and Andee. Unbeknownst to Jenna, God had her pray that Andee would "choose life," then He used that same passage of Scripture (Deut. 30:19) to encourage Jenna to do the same. Do you believe God works this way? Can you share an example from the Bible or from your own life?
16. Throughout Lost and Found, God seemed to speak to Jenna, Matthew, and even Andee. Do you believe God still speaks to His people? If so, how?
17. What did you take away from this story that you can apply to your own life?