Slowing Him Down

If your lover excels at the quickies but not the slow-burners, you’ll be pleased to know there are some sexy and effective secrets for delaying his orgasm.

SLOWING-DOWN TECHNIQUES

• Full-body relaxation – as your partner ascends the arousal scale, you’ll probably notice his breathing gets shallower and his body gets more tense and rigid. When he tells you he’s getting as high as a seven or an eight, ask him to relax his body. Encourage him by stroking his belly, chest or shoulders and taking several deep, calm breaths in time with him. This should stop his arousal zooming up to a nine or a ten.

• Switching focus – instead of thinking about the sensations in his penis, he switches his focus to parts of his body where the sensations feel good, but not orgasmic.

• When he’s super-skilled at pinpointing the high points of his arousal and getting himself back down to, say, a five, a six or a seven, he won’t even need you to stop stimulating him.