secrets of… Masturbation

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

Discover what gives you most pleasure and then show your lover. Masturbate in an alternative position, such as standing up or sitting. Or use a new technique. Try thrusting against a pillow or using your “wrong” hand. Using various techniques is a great way to become more orgasmic.

DOUBLE STIMULATION

Try massaging the clitoral head (the bud you can see) with one hand while moving your fingers or a vibrator in your vagina with the other hand. The friction will indirectly stimulate the rest of the clitoris (the invisible bit hidden inside your body), which gets stiff and erect when you’re turned on.

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Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving by Betty Dodson, who’s famous for her “genital show-and-tell” group masturbation sessions.

GO ELECTRIC

Use a vibrator. A close friend of mine who had never had an orgasm confided: “Once I found out what a vibrator orgasm was like, I learned how to get there with my hand.”

DO IT MORE

Research shows masturbation increases self-esteem, sexual confidence and satisfaction levels. Women who masturbate have more orgasms with a partner. Masturbation also makes you more comfortable with your body, relieves stress and menstrual cramps, and even helps you get to sleep. What are you waiting for?

TAKE A DETOUR

Turn yourself on by stroking and tweaking your inner labia before you zone in on your clitoris. These sensitive lips are often neglected, but they’re rich in nerve endings and can take you to new ecstatic heights.