MORE PRAISE FOR WONDERING WHO YOU ARE

“Sonya Lea tells her extraordinary story extraordinarily well. She has a rare ability to bring readers to the places where love and sex intermingle, collide, or go their separate ways. Wondering Who Your Are is an amazing accomplishment. Every page sparkles with wisdom, candor, insight, and love.”

CHRISTOPHER RYAN
author of Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and
What it Means for Modern Relationships

“Sonya Lea’s Wondering Who You Are is an extraordinary story. A wrenching, deeply honest exploration of love and identity that made me question my ideas about memory, about gender, about marriage and family and faith. About the whole human rigmarole. Her story does what the best stories do: it made me think about life in an entirely new way.”

SUZANNE MORRISON
author of Yoga Bitch: One Woman’s Quest to Conquer Skepticism,
Cynicism, and Cigarettes on the Path to Enlightenment

“An incredibly intimate and honest memoir, Wondering Who You Are shows more vividly than any work of nonfiction I’ve read in years the endlessly complex and delicate nature of identity. In particular, the book movingly reveals how mutable all relationships are, how metamorphosis on one side of a partnership necessitates metamorphosis on the other—we are all constantly changing.”

PETER MOUNTFORD
author of The Dismal Science

“Sonya Lea’s closeup, incisive memoir carries the reader breathlessly through her heartache, loss, love, and rediscovery. She delves bravely into the taboos of caretaking and examines the conflicts between love and duty, resistance and submission, distance and desire, as well as the grief inherent in the not-knowing.”

NICOLE HARDY
author of Confessions of a Latter Day Virgin

“This story is strong and strange and haunting and moving all at once . . . [Sonya Lea] has a voice and tone that are so truthful and authentic.”

BRET LOTT
author of Jewel, an Oprah’s Book Club selection

“An intense and accomplished memoir . . . This sweet, erotic, wrenching story asks quintessential questions about memory, the constructed self, and love—its challenges and deep compensations.”

PRISCILLA LONG
author of The Writer’s Portable Mentor:
A Guide to Art, Craft, and the Writing Life