One of the most common questions we hear from those new to the Whole30 is, “How do I handle social gatherings where everyone is drinking alcohol?”
Our tough love answer: Simply say, “No thank you,” and move on, because you are a grown-up and stopped succumbing to peer pressure in seventh grade. But we understand that some situations, like client dinners, weddings, or wine tastings may require a little more help to see you through.
Wait—why are you at a wine tasting during your Whole30, anyway?
The first thing to remember: you are just as fun, witty, entertaining, and charming sober as you are with a glass of wine in your hand. The second thing to remember: if you make a big deal about how you’re not drinking, they will too. Conversely, if you treat it as a non-issue, no one will care. Or, likely, even notice. (If you’re really uncomfortable, belly up to the bar and order a sparkling water with a slice of lime—instant vodka tonic camouflage.)
Your strategy for sober social survival on the Whole30 depends on how you’re approached. If someone offers you an alcoholic beverage, start by simply saying, “No, thank you” or “Oh, I already have water, thanks.” If you get any sort of follow-up, simply stick to your guns and then casually change the subject; people should take the hint and move on.
If you find someone giving you a hard time about your decision to abstain, don’t make up an excuse, because excuses are just begging for a fix. Saying, “I can’t, I have to meet my trainer at 6 a.m.” may prompt them to say, “I’ll run with you after work, how about that margarita?” . . . and now you’re stuck.
In this case, if you think the person will be responsive and respectful, say, “I’ve committed to abstain for 30 days as part of a health reset, and I’m sticking to it.” If you’d prefer not to talk about your health or diet, offer a direct “no, but thank you” in a full eye-contact, slightly-more forceful manner. Or take it one step further and say, “I’m taking time off from drinking,” which suggests this is a personal decision not open for discussion. At this point, most people will back off . . . unless they’re intoxicated.
Which brings us to your final strategy: if absolutely necessary, opt for the public shaming. They’re being incredibly disrespectful of your decision, so call them out on it. “What’s up with the peer pressure? I don’t want a margarita tonight, but I’m not telling you not to have one. Can we please move on?” Then, excuse yourself to another group, or step outside for a moment to give them a chance to save face (and yourself a moment to stay centered).
In summary, the Whole30 doesn’t have to put a cramp in your social life, and you’ll be high-fiving yourself the next morning when you wake up feeling like a champ. Plus now you’ve got some delicious mocktails to help you celebrate a good day at the office or keep you feeling festive during a family party. Cheers!