[Appendix]

12 RULES FOR MAKING A CLEAN BREAK

1. Accept your situation. The past is behind you and the present is just the way it is. Seize this opportunity to embrace a new beginning.

2. Put your children first. Making them your top priority is what they deserve. Never let them be used as pawns.

3. Have no regrets about your past decisions. Remember that you were always doing the best you knew at that time.

4. Take charge of your emotions. Allow your feelings to be felt, and then let them go. And remember that you would never be given anything that you could not handle. Rational decision making is a must.

5. Be an empowered decision maker; shed fear. The future is yours to create from this day on. Take your power and keep moving forward.

6. Trust and act on your intuition (spider senses). Watch for subtle signs and listen. Let your heart and soul be your guides at all times.

7. Choose to be proactive, not reactive. Find strength in self-discipline and in taking action ahead of time.

8. Pay attention to details. In your situation, little things can have large ripple effects.

9. Demand accountability from your advisors. Keep the professionals you hire on their toes.

10. Never give up. When you feel overwhelmed, remember: This too shall pass. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

11. Take responsibility—do not blame. Realize without judgment that we each create our own lives, and we attract all the people and events that show up.

12. Love yourself first. You will draw new joy into your life.