You know that feeling when you walk into a party and you don’t know anyone there? Or it’s lunchtime and you don’t see anyone to sit with? Maybe your friends are running late and you’re the first one to arrive. Or perhaps you’re brand-new to the scene. Some people have a knack for walking up to others and making new friends easily, but others need a little more time to feel comfortable. And both of those are okay.

Look around and notice who in the room is rolling solo. Walk over and start a conversation or invite them to join you at lunch or at the mall. If you’re not sure what to say, start with a simple “hello.” You never know who’ll surprise you.