How to Unplug Your Thoughts and Resurrect Your Love Life
Let’s review: You’ve gained some insight into why there’s so much mental static in the bedroom. You now know that a better body isn’t going to get rid of your appearance anxiety, that a lot of the women with bodies you idealize have terrible sex lives, that gorgeous women in the media actually give men appearance anxiety, that men actually prefer curvier women than you think they do, that when the men in your life say they’re sexually attracted to you they mean it, and that when you’re naked in bed men are enjoying, not judging your body.
You’ve also attracted and cultivated more sensuality into your daily life, so you understand how wonderful your body can feel and how ambiance (especially in the bedroom) can enhance or detract from tactile pleasure.
And hopefully you’ve been exercising, giving you a sense of control, accomplishment, and, more importantly, blood flow to the pelt beneath the belt. You’ve also learned how to create desire from thin air by identifying, cultivating, and acting on “cues” that trigger a sexual response, engaging in “flicker stage” sex, and training your guy to do things that make you hotter than July. You’re almost ready to rock it!
In the next section I’m going to show you how to use sex to override all that appearance monitoring you do in bed. Note the word override. I’m not going to ask you to do visualizations, think positive, or convince yourself that you have a drop-dead body. None of that works. You can’t out-think obsessive thoughts; you have to out-experience them.
Let’s get you some experiences.