The righteous choose their friends carefully.
PROVERBS 12:26
When it comes to relationships, the first thing we must remember is that they must be life-giving rather than life-depleting. Some of us struggle because we have allowed relationships to flourish that are full of toxic emotions such as negativity, criticism, comparison, jealousy, insecurity, and fear. We can’t pursue God’s purpose for our lives if we are constantly weighed down by negative relationships.
We must proactively build those relationships that are a friend to our purpose and destiny. We must determine which ones have the biggest influence on us, which ones help and which ones hinder. If we find relationships that are not producing the fruit of the Spirit in us — love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control — then we need to reevaluate what place they have in our lives.
One of the major reasons why I have been able to have and do it all is because of the great friends I have in my life — friends who support, love, inspire, encourage, and when necessary, challenge me. These friends are all different from each other in personality, interests, and vocation, but singularly passionate in their desire for God’s best. I spend a lot of time and energy investing into these specific friendships because I realize what a significant part they play in helping me to accomplish my destiny (and vice versa).
I can’t help but smile when I think of how dynamic and unique each one of my friends is. Some of these girlfriends really step in and help me with my children. Others are there when I need to process certain issues, let off some steam, or get a different perspective. Others challenge me to step it up and press in. And some love to shop and catch a movie with me. There are some friends with whom I could honestly just sit for hours and do nothing but laugh. There are so many wonderful rewards that come from fostering strong, healthy friendships — who would possibly want to have and do it all if the adventure didn’t include great friends!
MOMENT OF REFLECTION
Do you have any toxic relationships in your life?
How will you change that?