Yes, it blows that you have cancer, but is everything in your life diseased? I don’t think so, hot stuff. Just say no to emotional metastasis! That’s right: Don’t let cancer poison your entire world. It’s easy for all the good stuff to get buried under the weight of chemo, radiation, surgery, dirty toilets, and stuffed gutters. But we choose our focus. Is your cup half full or better yet brimming over? Do you complain about its size and shape on a daily basis? Smash your perception of the leaky, half-empty cup. Do it right now. Let this exercise be an outlet to release some bottled up tension. Grab a pretty cup, one you really love, and smash it on your kitchen floor! Huh? Why smash a good cup; why not direct your aggression towards a chipped one that reads #1 golfer? Because when the universe asks us to let go of our attachments and grow, discomfort is sure to arise. Our half-empty cups are protective mechanisms employed by our ego’s desire to keep us in line: “Life sucks. Stick with me and we’ll bitch together.”

We all love excuses. We love to dodge responsibility, complain, and pout. We constantly blame the world cheating us. Is it weird to think that sometimes we adore our desperation? Why stay in a destructive relationship or devour a bag of sugar if we know that these decisions will only make us sad? Many of us find comfort in the chaos because at least it’s predictable.

Clearly, what we’ve been trained to love doesn’t always serve our best interests. Wake up! You no longer need to cling to your negative thoughts like a high school sweetheart. There is no protection in that space. Drama-love is a convenient excuse for remaining stuck. Time to break up and move on. So smash that nice half-empty cup already!