Before you begin your 31-day experiment in happiness, take a moment to assess how happy you are in your marriage today. Keep in mind there are no wrong or right answers. You don’t have to impress or fool anyone, so be totally honest in your answers. Read each statement and note if you mostly agree or disagree.
1. I believe that I have control over my happiness, not my circumstances.
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Disagree
2. My husband and I do not yell at each other or give each other the silent treatment.
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Disagree
3. I am flexible and can adapt easily to meet my husband’s needs and to life’s many changes.
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4. I get enough rest each day and am in good health.
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5. I am not jealous of other wives who may have more adoring husbands or more material possessions.
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Disagree
6. I enjoy making love to my husband, and being physically intimate really brings us together.
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Disagree
7. I have not complained about my husband to anyone in the past month.
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Disagree
8. I think happiness is a skill I can learn and improve upon.
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Disagree
9. I have a clear vision of what I want in my marriage.
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10. My family and friends would tell you that I smile a lot.
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11. My husband and I go on regular date nights that are fun.
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12. I believe my husband is the leader in our marriage.
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13. I express prayers of thanks for my husband to God on most days.
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14. After my husband has apologized sincerely, it’s easy for me to forgive him.
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15. If I run into an old friend, my face lights up as I describe to her what my husband is like.
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Total the number of statements you agree with:
1-5: It’s hard for you to remember when marriage was fun and easy. It seems like an uphill battle on many days, and you get tired of trying to make things work. Take this book seriously day by day with a sincere heart ready for change.
6-10: Things in your marriage aren’t too bad, but they’re not outstanding either. Your marriage is more stable than many of those around you, but you know it could be much happier. Make the decision that having an average marriage is not good enough for you. You want to take it to the next level and live with more joy at home.
11-15: You have a peaceful home and practice many habits of the happy wife. By making a few adjustments, you will radiate more joy and experience greater satisfaction in your marriage. Today life is good, and tomorrow will be even better.