KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Hesitaters delay dating because they don’t feel 100 percent ready yet and want to put their best foot forward. But no one ever feels 100 percent ready for anything. At a certain point, you just have to start.
2. Perfection is a lie. Everyone else is imperfect, too—even the person you’ll eventually end up with.
3. By waiting to date, Hesitaters miss out on a chance to develop their dating skills and figure out what type of person they want to be with.
4. Here’s how you can learn to overcome your hesitation:
   • Set deadlines for yourself.
   • Do prep work for your new dating life.
   • Tell others about your plan.
   • Commit to your new identity as a “dater.”
   • Start with small goals.
   • Be compassionate with yourself.
   • STOP TALKING TO YOUR EX!