Contents

EPIGRAPH

WELCOME

FORWARD

EDITOR’S NOTE: WHY THIS BOOK MATTERS TO ME

ONE

SO YOU THINK YOU WANT TO DIE?

Hello

The Reality of Suicidal Fantasy

Moderation and Time Limits

Me

Finding Life Essence

Change (Arghhh) and Choices

TWO

OUTTHINKING SUICIDE

Breathing

The Language of Suicide

The Neuron Superhighway

The Grim Reaper

Brain Style

Recognizing and Avoiding Triggers

Stopping the Snowball

Finding Relief

THREE

TRICKS OF THE TRADE

TRICK #1

Asking for Help

TRICK #2

Emergency Contacts

TRICK #3

A Crisis Plan

TRICK #4

Feelings

Identifying Feelings

Feelings Chart

Feelings Galore List

Tracing Feelings Back

Stating a Feeling

TRICK #5

Feelings Versus Facts

TRICK #6

The Brady Bunch Syndrome

TRICK #7

Spirituality, Nature, Meditation

Spirituality

Nature

Meditation

TRICK #8

Acting As If

TRICK #9

HALT

Hungry

Angry

Lonely

Tired

TRICK #10

Keeping a Journal

TRICK #11

Tasks and Activities—Healthy Diversions

TRICK #12

The Telephone Lifeline and Phone Lists

TRICK #13

Contracts for Safety

TRICK #14

Brain Food

TRICK #15

Therapy

TRICK #16

Vitamin “P”

TRICK #17

“Oh, What a Beautiful Morning”—Sayings and Affirmations

TRICK #18

Mirror Work and Inner Dialoguing

TRICK #19

Service—Helping Others

TRICK #20

Movement and Exercise

TRICK #21

Sound and Color

Sound

Color

TRICK #22

Support Groups

TRICK #23

Structure

TRICK #24

Hospitalization

TRICK #25

What About an Afterlife?

FOUR

THERE IS HOPE! LETTERS FROM MY THERAPIST, FAMILY, AND FRIENDS

Honesty

Sylvia’s Perspective

A Brother’s Walk on Eggshells

Watching Her Husband, My Brother

Like a Holiday from Adulthood

God Doesn’t Make Junk!

Sue’s Song

Rich with Humanity, Hope, and Change

FIVE

HELPING THE SUICIDAL THINKER

Introduction

Risk Factors and Warning Signs

Suicide Facts and Statistics

WORDS

What I Heard Versus What I Needed to Hear

Delivery and Timing

Expressing Your Feelings

Acknowledging Their Pain

Speaking from Love

BELIEFS

Secrets Are Deadly

It’s Okay to Talk About It

It’s a Family Challenge

Change Is Possible

ACTIONS

Listening Well

Respecting Boundaries While Taking Action

Practicing Patience and Compassion

Getting Educated and Finding Your Own Support

SIX

UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN

geese (a poem written by Christopher Brehl)

I Recognize…

Destiny

SEVEN

HOTLINES, WEBSITES, AND OTHER RESOURCES

Hotlines and Suicide Prevention Organizations

Crisis Hotlines

Hotlines in Canada

Organizations

Organizations in Canada

Twelve Step Organizations

Book Lists

Books Useful to Me

General Works

On Youth

On the Elderly

For Professionals

For Survivors

NOTES

SEARCHABLE TERMS

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