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S partans interview men intensely because the objective is to make sure he’s honest and trustworthy enough to be a boyfriend or potential husband. Hos substitute the interview process with the seducing stage because they know the way to a man’s wallet starts with his dick. His life story and past relationships don’t matter when you’re trying to hustle a man because you’re not looking to bond on a real level. All a Ho needs to know is if he’s paid, how paid, and how generous he is willing to be with that money. Once you establish that you have a guy who is willing to treat you to nice things, you dig the hooks in deeper by using what a man wants the most against him—sex. A Ho’s job is to be a fantasy woman. A woman that listens, isn’t judgmental, never stresses for time or attention, and most importantly knows how to be a filthy whore. I remind you that these are the non-sex tactics , so if the way you’ve been taught to seduce is by letting him stick the tip in, you’re going to need to throw that game plan out. You’re about to learn to become a master of making a man cum, without using your pussy .

Seducing is the progression of flirting, yet girls who are good flirts often freeze when it’s time to really get down and dirty. Earlier, I spoke of the first date as being one where you hook him with a shot of your personality, which isn’t about, “I went to this university, I’m starting this business, and I traveled to this city last summer.” Personality has nothing to do with random facts about your life. To make a man see you as sexy, desirable, and indispensable, you have to show him that you are a good time. What makes you funny? What makes you edgy? What makes you nasty? What makes you different? Answer that in your head. Now, look back on the last time you were on a first date and think about how you brought out those four things. Most of you can’t answer the question or aren’t sure, but the truth is in the results. Men aren’t impressed with you nor do they see you the same way you see yourself in your head. “My personality is dope!” No, it’s dry! You don’t project anything special, thus you don’t separate yourself from the pack.

The last first date I went on was with a very corny woman. Here’s what made her corny: during that dinner, she didn’t say anything provocative or interesting. She just laughed at my jokes and played coy when I made a perverted comment. In the movie theater, I got my feels on, but she kept her hands to herself, not because she wasn’t into me, but because she was afraid. After the date, I took her back to my apartment and proceeded to gas her up about how fun it was spending time with her (lie) how sexy she looked (she was pretty, but not that pretty), and how I didn’t want her to leave (truth). After about forty minutes, I had her bra off and my hands down her pants. She stopped me and told me she had to go before she made a mistake. I tried to go back to sweet-talking her into staying, but to her credit, she didn’t give in. Although I wasn’t impressed by her personality, I was excited by the prospect of having sex after seeing her half naked .

The next weekend, I skipped the going out to eat stuff because why waste my time when all I was doing was talking to myself? I got her right back over where we left off. A week of talking on the phone, flirting, and gassing her up had won her over and she was willing to go all the way this time. I got head, had sex with her, and promptly got head one last time before telling her I was about to go to sleep (aka she had to go). Asshole move, but this is how most men operate when they come across a cute girl who isn’t exactly intriguing. The average woman is unsure of herself when on a date with a guy she likes, which leads to awkward behavior and a corny vibe. Men don’t want to hang with a cornball no matter how phat her ass is or how big her breasts are. Don’t get down on yourself and resolve that you’re just boring, a homebody, a nerd, and unable to make any man pay attention to what you’re saying. Every woman has within her a striking personality, but most are too timid or too nervous to let that shine through when talking to men they like. The first step in upgrading your boring personality is to understand what you’re projecting to other people…

These things are understandable when you’re not familiar with a person, but this isn’t modesty tactics to get a man to see you as a sweet woman, this is Ho Tactics to eat these men alive. Hos get real comfortable real fast, and because it’s such a different way for a woman to act on a date, men are taken off guard and easily impressed. “But, G.L., I can’t help being nervous on dates. How can I Ho Up, when I’m naturally shy and reserved ?” You have the ability to get comfortable around ANY man because you’ve done this step before without knowing it.

Most women have agreed to a date with a guy they didn’t really like, and I wager you’re in that boat. Some dude gave chase, you saw him as “okay,” but you were bored, so you agreed to go out because you had nothing to lose. You were accidentally Hoing! Selling your company for a date with no intention of ever doing anything else, it’s something that all girls do. A free dinner or movie with a man that doesn’t look like your type, act like your type, or has a shot at winning you over, that’s a mini-Ho Tactic done out of boredom.

Back to being comfortable and embracing that exciting Ho personality. On a date with Mr. Not My Type, you didn’t give a fuck so there was no counter conversation, you said whatever as if he were a girlfriend. There was no over laugh because you didn’t want him to think you liked him by over laughing. You didn’t walk on eggshells because this guy was more like the buddy than prince charming. As for body language, you probably kept your distance, but I’m sure you were relaxed, not bashful in regards to how close you got to him. That man wasn’t a threat, so you didn’t act awkward, you projected your true personality—Dope Chick. In response you weren’t seen as corny, you were seen as the fun, slightly goofy, girl with good conversational skills. That clown is probably still trying to take you out again because you impressed him. Your mission is to be that comfortable with men who are winners .

Let’s go visit our friend Maria the Ho on her series of dates in which she seduces a mark. The first date is one she allowed him to select, and it’s the Cheesecake Factory, a nice inexpensive place that literally has food from every damn country on their menu. Maria doesn’t usually do dinner here, like most smart Hos she comes to hang by the bar after the business men get off work, because sitting down with a girlfriend and splitting an order of buffalo blasts doesn’t leave her room to flirt with a man like standing at a bar surrounded by stressed stockbrokers will. They get a booth in the back and Maria takes a seat across from the mark. She orders water, not liquor because she has to be in tune tonight, not turned up. Immediately Maria pouts, “You’re going to leave me all alone over here?” The mark is taken aback, he doesn’t know this girl like that, yet she wants him right next to her. Of course, he rushes over and rearranges his silverware on her side of the table. Maria now rewards him by squeezing his arm with a hug as if she’s super excited to be next to him.

The waiter comes over and asks about food, Maria begins to joke with the waiter about how the mark couldn’t stand not being close. The waiter, like anyone who wants a tip plays along and adds on his own compliment about Maria being pretty. Maria continues to sass the waiter in a non-bitchy or demeaning way, maybe saying that the mark doesn’t think she’s that pretty, she had to beg for a date, etc… self-deprecation leads to compliments, that’s human psychology 101. Of course, this attention whoring technique puts the mark on the spot in front of another man and he must keep up with her wits by firing back his own teases and jokes. Less than 10 minutes into the date and the ice has been broken. The mark is now having fun and thinks Maria is a wild child .

When it’s time to be serious and order. Maria lays her head on the mark’s shoulder fake-flustered, “will you order for me, anything but red meat.” The mark may not know how to react if he’s not a decisive man, but Maria will urge him to order something “that taste as good as an orgasm.” This shit is even making the waiter blush, and the mark sees that he’s gotten a hold of something special.

Throughout the date, Maria keeps it playful and flirty, she touches him sporadically, makes inappropriate jokes about people that walk by, and delves into his business and talks about what she knows about that industry as a light test. When he makes a corny joke, she doesn’t mind saying, “whomp whomp,” but follows it up with one of her own corny jokes to show that she’s on his side, but not a yes woman that giggles by default. The mark likes her and more importantly, he’s having a good time. When the check comes, Maria grabs it first, “If I look, it means I have to pay it right?” The mark may play along, but isn’t serious about her paying. The mark pays, but Maria asks how much tip she should give their waiter friend. If the mark tells her not to worry, it’s a good sign, if he tells her the amount and makes her go in her purse, it could mean he’s not a spender. It’s only the first date, so she can let something as petty as asking her to put up the tip slide, but all of his actions will be inventoried for later analysis.

After the date, Maria holds his hand as they exit and thanks him for taking her out and ordering the right type of meal. The mark is going to be enamored by this time and the night’s still young. Maria now tests him about where he lives . She jokes that they’re going to grab coffee back at “Casa de la Buckhead?” The mark will be excited that he may fuck the first night, but play it cool with, “If you feel like it…” Nevertheless, Maria was just checking for an excuse such as, “Oh damn, my cousin is staying over tonight.” That response would tell her that he ’s full of shit about where he lives or that he has a wife or girlfriend staying there that he hasn’t been honest enough to talk about yet. In our example, the mark invites Maria back proving that he’s not lying, but she plays it off as kidding. Adding that it takes a while before she has “coffee” with new men… striptease, bitches. After Maria is dropped off, she’ll end the night with a kiss. No tongue, just a sweet kiss followed by a slight suck on his bottom lip as she pulls herself away with those piercing “I would fuck you like it was our last night on Titanic” eyes.

The mark is riding high and most likely Maria will get a text from him when he gets home. She’s not his text buddy so she will respond with a brief follow-up. It was a great, can’t wait to see you again soon. Good night, baby . Now this man is reacting as if he’s just hit a homerun, “Damn, this bitch is calling me baby already, I’m in there!” He’s not in anywhere, but Maria is all in that mark’s head. Her shot of personality even had the waiter wanting to fuck her, and now it’s time to unload on the second date with her true Ho test to make sure she’s not wasting her time with a dude that can only afford Cheesecake Factory.

Maria now has the power. Further dating is not about when a mark is free; it’s when she is free because a man who wants new pussy will rearrange his schedule to get it. Maria is a seasoned Ho Tactician so while she’s spoken to the mark over the past week, it’s been late at night, short and full of flirting. She hasn’t given him phone sex, hasn’t sent one nude or semi-nude picture and hasn’t allowed herself to fit into his schedule. Guys will do things like call when they get off work, pop up wanting to grab dinner, or lure a girl to the house with a home cooked meal. Maria is educated in the ways of horny men and since she isn’t thirsty for love, she plays it cool when he tries to be spontaneous and catch her off guard with bullshit dates or chill sessions .

Maria will only go on that next date when she decides to, which assures her that he will do what she wants to do once she finally “frees up” her imaginary schedule. The mark gets excuses for a few days and then finally gets an opportunity to see her again a week later. Maria wants to go hear a singer at the House of Blues on Saturday. The mark wants to take her to this Hookah lounge around his way. Maria isn’t a Hookah Ho, and she doesn’t need to be in a room full of locals who only go to the Hookah spot. She demands live entertainment and a chance to dress sexy. The mark agrees because if he doesn’t play ball, Maria won’t ask again and his window for new pussy will close. This fear that led to “do what she says” is a result of Maria using excuses to make her time seem valuable. The game isn’t to chase men with money, it’s to make them feel powerless.

Mariah and the mark show up at the House of Blues, she was hot on the last date, this time she’s show stopping. Hair in an updo, face made up tastefully, her dress showing her curves, and heels fresh out of the box. She’s impressive and she knows it, therefore, he knows it… more importantly, he will remember her luxury style and feed into it. This time Maria orders for them, she wants to drink tonight, and she only drinks vintage Chardonnay. She wants some food in her stomach, and she’s going to get a sample of a few appetizers as opposed to a big meal. She’s even touchier this time around; the conversation is more comfortable as well because they know more about each other. Maria can bring up things that happened during the week, how happy she is to finally see him again, and even say that she had a dream about him—isn’t that crazy . This is all done to break the next level of ice and play into their chemistry.

Maria isn’t his girlfriend, but it feels like it because she’s easy to talk to and doesn’t mind letting him touch her. The music starts and Maria sways in her seat, not looking at the singer, but looking at the mark, she’s singing and directing her affection at him. As the night progresses Maria’s dancing in front of the table, it’s a public place, but it’s a private dance for her “man.” She’s well aware that other men and women are watching her, but she’s not shy, she’s embracing her sexiness. If there’s room for movement, maybe Maria pulls the mark up to dance with him and quickly rubs her ass against him, which is the ultimate physical seduction.

By the end of the night, Maria has run up a bill of two bottles of wine and food she didn’t eat, just to test him. The mark happily pays because he thinks he’s going to fuck in a few hours. Maria and the mark go back to the car, she initiates the kissing, and this time, it’s all tongue. She even strokes the bulge in his pants, and moans, “You just do something to me, baby. I can’t explain it.” This guy is ready to drive her back to the spot and bust it all the way open. Maria tells him that she should go home; she’s been drinking and doesn’t want to bring out her inner Yoncé before he’s ready. She shifts it on him not being ready, more so than her, because this offends a guy and challenges his manhood in a way that spells out that she’s not afraid of dick or celibate. They joke about sex, and all Maria says is, “we’re going to see how you take your coffee, soon enough, baby.” However, she turns serious and says she should get home. The mark is worked up, but Maria has shown that she’s not an easy lay. The mark is headed home to take a cold shower, full of disappointment… but there’s also hope. He’s spent money, but at each turn Maria has rewarded him by intensifying her seduction, which means he has no reason not to keep dating her. Their next time out will be D-Day, he can feel it in his bones!

Two dates down, Maria has touched him, kissed him, rubbed on him, and gave him an IOU on the pussy. No matter how smart this mark is, he knows that these actions lead to sex, it always does, all he has to do is stay on task and keep her happy. Entering the next week, between the 2nd and 3rd date, Maria rewards him with phone sex for the first time. The day after phone sex, she drops the headphone test on him. Phone sex would be a lot better if she had good earphones for her iPhone, using the thought of sex she then asks if he could grab a pair for her before they meet up on the next date. Of course he does, and when Maria sees that she got a pair of brand new Beat ear buds, not the generics or his old used ones, she recognizes that this dude isn’t a waste of time. He doesn’t mind tricking, so now begins her next step of becoming invaluable to this man, so she can dig in his pockets for what she actually needs.

Maria took all those basic flirting skills to the next level, from the personal space to the voice inflection; she upped the ante and used her sex appeal to excite him. At the same time, she used compliments like “baby” to endear herself to him. The most impressive thing was that Maria was able to be sassy and fun, in a way that put him at ease and made her seem cool, not corny. If Maria were a nervous chick or one who thought turning a man on was all about saying a bunch of nasty things, she would have failed. Maria played by her rules but made him think it was his rules.

The first date set the pace as she submitted to him and let him be a man by picking the place and ordering her food. The second date she pouted and asked to be taken to a better place, then took it upon herself to get whatever she wanted right under his nose as if it’s just how she rolls. The mark sees Maria as new pussy, but he also sees her as interesting. That, above the potential feeling of a new nut, is what had him running to Target to grab a pair of $100 headphones. Understand that seducing a man isn’t just about sex, it’s about making him feel young and carefree. A mark with money can go pay for an escort, he can go jerk off to a cam girl, he can go butter up an ex—it’s not about sex. Maria is making herself the best part of his week by being a good time girl! At the same time, she’s still testing his pockets, at each step she’s taking mental notes about his attitude and actions. There are men who would have complained about the cost of the show, the wine, and the food, which probably cost well over $200. If a man doesn’t have that to spend on a second date with a girl that’s impressed him, made out with him, and who walks out of the house dressed like her pussy is worth a million dollars, then he’s a window shopper that must be dropped immediately after he complains about money or the price of something. Maria’s mark went with the flow and had a good time because anything worth doing is worth paying for if you have it to spend.

Guys with money don’t mind paying for a good time even if it doesn’t end with them dipping their dick in something at the end of the night. If a man does start to keep track of what he’s spending, consider that a sign that he may not be holding as much in his bank account as he acts. It’s okay to choose wrong, men are good liars, and your intel may have been wrong. This is why you research him with THREE dates to be sure that he has money and has it to spend. Maria put in a good amount of work building up to the third date and it would suck to have to start over, but she’s not lazy, she can do it again with a new mark the next week. If this mark would have reacted by not showing up with headphones or by pressing her for sex because he’s tired of being patient, then she would have lost his number at the end of the date. Never feel as if your seduction skills must be rewarded, that’s ego. Male Hos aka Players feed off women who hate rejection. The typical female hates to be ignored or pushed away. So a man who doesn’t want to gift you things or wait for sex will ghost you, let your insecurity build, then pull you back in and get what he wanted faster and easier. Don’t be a Typical Tina! The power of Ho Tactics is that you CAN & WILL walk away from handsome men, rich men, and famous men the moment they don’t give you what you ask for or if they push too hard. Never get so thirsty that you forget this step like, “But he’s cute and rich, shouldn’t I give him more time,” No! Three dates is the test, stick to it. If he doesn’t respond it doesn’t mean you’re a bad seductress, he’s probably a cheap bastard, so cut him off and go hunt for a new trick .

Do you understand how to seduce now? I doubt it, Maria the Ho performed these things so subtly and precisely that it’s like trying to learn a magic trick by watching David Copperfield YouTube clips. I’m going to slow it down and point out precisely how to seduce men during the three-date courting stage, and again all of these are things any woman can pull off no matter her looks or personality, as long as she’s willing to erase fear from the equation and go full steam.

Men are rarely complimented. Use this to your advantage! Understand that a male goes through life getting very few verbal compliments from the opposite sex. No matter if he’s an athlete that looks like he’s cut out of stone or just your average pretty boy, very few women will confess to his attractiveness. Older women may call him cute because they’re old and don’t have any reason to fear being curved. Maybe some random drunk girl at a party will remark on him being hot, but nothing to the extent where he becomes used to it. Women don’t like to put themselves out there because it makes them seem thirsty or overly interested. I’ve seen women on Twitter respond to a picture of Colin Kaepernick [9] with, “Damn, I’d suck his father’s dick as a thank you,” but in real life, those things are reserved for private thoughts. Women think sexual all the time, but it’s usually held back. There remains a vanity inside all men that any woman can exploit if she’s willing to get a little dirty with her compliments .

To engage a man and flirt with him in a way where you stroke his ego, will always win him over. Men don’t know for sure that they’re the shit, they just think they are. To confirm his greatness under the pretense of flirting as if you like him, will put the biggest Kool-Aid smile you’ve ever seen on his face. When you’re on a date with a man, drop these words at random, “baby,” “handsome,” “sexy,” and it will put him in a different mind frame. Be sure to say these compliments casually, as if they aren’t big things. Unlike words that need voice inflection, these adjectives are strong enough to live on their own. Men are constantly guessing “does she actually like me,” the same way women do. The typical non-Ho is worried about if a guy thinks she’s cute, funny, etc… regardless of being taken out on a date they don’t know how a man really feels. A guy will have the same anxiety because he isn’t sure if you are into him or just in it for a free meal because you’re bored. You can flirt and sit close, but they still have doubt. To seduce is to erase that doubt . By using compliments in a normal nonchalant way, the sincerer this all feels, and the quicker it will break down his walls.

Do men like submissive women? Hell yes. Males like to be in control, take charge, and dominate. Should you be submissive? Hell no… but tease that role at first. Play possum and give him that power over you, then slowly start to take control and he won’t know what hit him. When you’re on a first date, let him order for you, let him pick the place, let him decide if you’re driving together or meeting. Don’t do this in a way that makes you seem indecisive like, “I don’t know… where do you wanna g o ?” Be decisive in your submission and put the ball firmly in his court. Tell him to tell you. Where do you want to go? Somewhere good, pick for us, cutie . Do you want to meet me there or should I come get you? Do what’s most convenient for you, daddy, I don’t mind you planning our date . Even a half-stepping man will feel empowered by you literally putting everything in his hands. On the date Maria let her mark order for her, you can try that trick, or you can just wait until the server comes over and be even more submissive, “I’ll let my boo decide for me.” Now he must answer in front of another person. This builds up a position of power and confidence. You’re seducing his ego, and softening him up for the step where you begin to tell him in ways that make him think you’re asking.

What separates you from the pack? These tricks will be talking to various women that have their eyes on his prize and are giving up free pussy. How do you compete? Bonds destroy competition, and the fastest way to bond with a man is to relate on a personal level about tangible things. Give a man a nickname or let him give you one, it doesn’t have to be something he calls you all the time, just something that relates back to a shared experience. For instance, if you two met at the supermarket, call him Aisle 9 or something related to what he had in his cart that was funny or interesting. Reminding him of that first meeting connects you two. Create your own jokes early and often. The first date will usually be out in a place where normal everyday weird people are. Be it waiting for a table and making fun of a song that keeps playing or clowning on a person with a weird walk who passes by you, take those moments and make them inside jokes that you can bring up later. There is always someone or something that you can laugh at, so be aware that these things aren’t just funny, they are seducing his brain in a way where he has to call or text you when he sees something similar in his everyday life. Friendship is built on comfort, laughing further drops his guard, and being the only girl he can share certain things with makes you important.

Doggy treats are still being used, and kissing is the easiest treat to give out. There are women who don’t like kissing strangers, and that’s understandable, but if you refuse to reward his actions with affection, it will make a man feel as if you’re putting on a front. Remember, these men aren’t robots doing nice things for you just because, so you have to give a little to get a lot. To go on a date and project a lack of attraction will leave you dead in the water. Be willing to kiss, but ration it. Some women kiss a man as soon as he goes in. Don’t be that easy! Kissing should be used sparingly at first. The first date, if it goes well, should end with a kiss, no tongue, short and passionate, leaving him begging for more. That’s just a taste of what’s to come. The second date you should go French, and really kiss the fuck out of him. Don’t get into a make out session like a drunk blonde during homecoming. There should be a two to three-minute limit, then pull back. Before you say goodnight give him another kiss, but this time, you should initiate and pull him in. When it’s time to stop kissing, pull back again, this time as if you don’t want to stop, but you’re a good girl, so you have to stop .

This seduces his body and makes him instantly hard. “That’s gross,” no, it’s not gross, it’s proof that your seduction is working! You need his dick to be hard; it’s the final mission before you end the night, because if you’re not going to have sex, you must at least inspire the thought in his head. Kissing, stroking his pants, it’s all a seduction technique to get him associating you with desire. As you go forward beyond the second date, kiss him like that when he does something you approve of, and train him to only expect that level of kissing as a reward. He doesn’t get to kiss you just because he wants to kiss. Pecks and cheek kisses, are all he gets when he’s not going the extra mile. You’re not a teenager in love; you’re softening him up for the hustle, so keep your kisses on a tight lock until he realizes that he doesn’t get sugar until he makes you smile.

It could be two days between dates or an entire week, but this is where women normally lose a man’s interest even after a good date. Waiting for him to call, being afraid to call him first, texting and not talking… these things are a product of fear. The most admirable thing about Hos is that they are just like Spartans when it comes to throwing caution to the wind and taking control of their fate. Spartans call when they want because they made a connection and don’t need to play games. Hos call because they can’t get paid with a dry phone. Same confidence but they exist on different moral plains. After you wow him on the first date, call to check up on him the next night if you haven’t heard anything during that day. Men usually have a rule that you call a girl a day or two later, but girls today overthink and get pa ranoid when they don’t receive a call or text 12 hours later. “Oh my god, he didn’t like me, maybe I should have done more to impress him,” stop being basic! Overthinking will kill your hustle. Some guys wait a few days, while some guys contact the same night. Neither is right or wrong. Regardless of how he responds, fast or slow—he wants you! Don’t wait on him to hit you up like some scared little girl, initiate. Late at night is perfect because it catches him winding down and vulnerable. Call and thank him for taking you out, throw out some inside jokes, whisper about how you were daydreaming about kissing him earlier, and compliment his lips. If you do these things, his dick will be harder than fingerwave gel. He now wants to know what every man wants to know, “when can I see you again?”

Don’t react and be submissive this time and let him plan the date. Now is when you play hard to get. Unless he has something interesting coming up like an awards dinner, show tickets, or some formal event, that you should go to, keep him in the dark. You’re busy, you have a life, tell him the weekend might work, but you’ll have to let him know. This keeps him hungry. You denied him the right to see you, but only after you rode his dick about fantasizing about this kiss. That’s not a mixed signal, because the affection/reward of kissing is the proof that you do like him. See how it’s all coming together now? You’re challenging a man where most women throw themselves, he knows(thinks) that you want his dick, but he just can’t get to you. As a result, he will move heaven and earth to make Friday, Saturday, or even Sunday work as your next date night. This is all happening because you’re always better at enticing a man over the phone than via text message .

Are you a woman that can say, “No, not tonight?” Can you stop yourself in the middle of kissing? Can you stand your ground when a man is begging to take you back to his place, begging to sleep at your place, or offering to rent a hotel so you won’t have to drive in bad weather? This is the part where you will be tested so remember the earlier chapter on discipline and how to fight through impulsive thoughts that may put you in compromising positions. After the first date, a man will not want to go out again, but he does so he can get closer to sex. After the second date, a man will expect sex, so he will try to maneuver it to intimate places. A man will not complain directly about taking you out, he will simply go the alternate route and think of other ways to see you. Most likely, his ideas will be places where he doesn’t have to spend money and where you two will be alone.

House dates, house parties, kickbacks, or pop up visits. In a man’s world, this is the same as going on a date because technically dating is just spending time, and that’s what women who are looking for love need to see, that he’s going to spend time consistently. Ha! Of course it’s a trap, and men end up isolating these thirsty women and having sex after a few weeks. This is the world that basic bitches have created, not Hos. Basic Bitches are afraid to turn a man down because they don’t want to be seen as mean or uninterested. A Ho doesn’t give a fuck about the way she is perceived, because she knows he wants her pussy, she’s virtually put it in his face, and even if a man is annoyed with dating, he will continue to entertain the things she wants to do because she’s not going to bend and fall for Come Over & Chill .

Forget all the basic love-sick moves you normally make when trying to find a boyfriend and think like a Ho trying to secure the gold. The more you make him wait and make him chase, the more valuable your vagina becomes. Be comfortable with the words, “not tonight.” You are not going to lose his interest because he still wants to fuck you and just as importantly, he enjoys hanging out with you. If you were to have sex with a guy and then spend Monday-Friday, saying you don’t want to come over and watch Netflix, he’s going to call the next girl and put her over you on the pecking order because you’re old news. If he hasn’t had sex, he may call the next girl, but you will remain at the top of the pecking order because you’re a code he can’t crack and that drives him crazy. It’s not about how you make excuses, don’t get caught up in having good reasons, fuck the reasons, be able to get the point across that you do things on your time. Men hate when they can’t have their way, but hate is only frustration mixed with passion. This will easily turn into desire if you aren’t afraid to seduce him by making him chase after you.

Um, they’re having this wine tasting at this tavern uptown. Is that something you would be into ? That’s how the average woman asks to be taken out to a place that interests her. Hey, they’re having a wine tasting uptown, let’s go . That’s how confident and decisive women ask to be taken out. No one likes to be told “no,” or given an excuse, but women especially don’t like to see their ideas or plans rejected so they humble themselves and ask permission like a kid with a slip to the zoo. By asking if he’s “into it” or “free” you’ve already fucked yourself because you don’t sound sure if you even want to go. If you act indecisive or position yourself as a timid asker, then a man won’t feel bad about coming up with something that he wants to do instead such as Dave & Busters or going over to his friend’s place to drink and smoke.

Don’t fall into the trap of being afraid to scare him off by asking for your kind of date. Asking for a 2nd date is the initial step in learning how to get him to give without asking. If you can’t finesse a man into going somewhere how are you going to finesse for money or gifts? Remember these three things: Conviction in your voice lets him know that it’s not up for negotiation. A hint of excitement in your description of where you want to go will make him feel guilty for even thinking of saying, “no”. Finally, the ability to say, “okay, I understand.” As opposed to pouting like a brat will prove to him that he’s not your only date option. That’s how you train him to become your Yes-Man.

There is an elitist concept, not just resigned to millennials or spoiled brats, where some women think they don’t have to give to get. These tactics are sex-free, and they are also ego-free. You must step out of your “I’m the princess of the world, men should give me money just to go out with me,” nonsense. This is mental warfare, and you can’t wage a war where you think you’re too good to get dirty. Speak first. Seduce. Reward his behavior with kissing. Pull away and make him chase a bit. End by making him take you somewhere you want to go to exercise your power over him. These are easy things to do and they lay the ground work for all the mind-fucking to come. But you must do it the same way Maria did—with intelligence.