part0024

Y ou can’t turn a Ho into a housewife, but a Ho can turn herself into whatever she wants to be, Lawyer, Doctor, Sports Analyst, Reality TV Star, Fashion Designer, Chef, and, of course, an international Pop Superstar. I debated on if I should include this chapter since the intention is to pull off hustles with a beginning, middle, and end, then go about your normal life or on to another mark. However, it would be imbalanced if I didn’t, at least, touch on the proper way to transition from a life of Ho Tactics to a life of picket fences and baby strollers with a man that is fundamentally a sponsor, but has gained the title of husband.

The classic Martin Scorsese movie Casino [19] popped on TV as I was debating this chapter, right on the part where Ace, the powerful mob-backed casino manager, decides to pursue Vegas working girl Ginger. For those unfamiliar with Casino , Ginger is essentially a Ho who has the charisma to pull tricks at the highest level, yet who isn’t mentally stable enough to come away with anything substantial .

Ace falls for Ginger’s Ho appeal and marries her, knowing what kind of woman she is, but convinced that he can change her—that’s his first mistake. In one of the great scenes, Ginger tells her now husband and the father of her child, that he’s never been anything more than a trick to her since they first met. That solidified my decision to include this chapter because as I wrote in Solving Single , saying that Hos can’t become housewives is a purely ignorant statement spewed by bitter women who resent fast women and dishonest men who fear falling victim. Hoing is an act, not part of your DNA, at any time a male Ho or female Ho can retire, and no one will be aware of that past life. However, the beauty of Ho Tactics is that it’s an education that will always benefit those that take time to understand how to apply them. You can sit there and stand by your man’s side for five years and not even get a friendship ring, but Hos, they not only get married, they get married within a year of meeting an overzealous mark, because they know how to play the game at the highest level.

For those unfamiliar with ratchet reality TV, Benzino is a former rapper known for being Co-owner of The Source magazine, now he’s best known for giving out engagement rings to women of questionable agendas on the reality show Love & Hip Hop Atlanta . Numerous men have a crucial flaw that allows even the not so Smart Hos to transition into the life of a married woman. Benzino isn’t an idiot or a pushover; he just happens to have a penis. The defining traits that sum up Ho Tactics is supreme confidence mixed with a seductive personality. Hos shine because they don’t flirt like normal women. Older men with money have run through sweet girls, freaky girls, intellectuals, and hood rats, and those women bore the hell out of them. When a man reaches his later 30’s or enters his 40’s it takes more than pretty and sweet to impress, it takes the kind of exuberance and lack of filter that Hos epitomize. He never knows when she’s going to flash a boob, grab his dick in public, or calm down enough to say something strangely poetic. These girls are all over the place, and for a bored man entering a mid-life crisis, he doesn’t want that for one night, he wants to feed off that energy in order to stay forever young.

Men believe they are special enough to change a girl with a past into a Queen with a future. No matter what her history, or how many guys have allegedly slept with her, a man hypnotized by Ho Power will believe that he is the one man that can make her turn a new leaf and commit. Hos move in silence, but after spending enough money, any man will eventually see the writing on the wall that this girl has been working him. Most Ho hustles only last six months to a year, but when presented with an electrifying woman, even one that he realizes is hustling him, there are men that will still give into their ego and try to housetrain that good time girl. No bringing up the past, no prenup going forward, the right mark will take care of you for life because your personality is his fountain of youth.

For marks, marriage is the best way to turn a loss into a win. Sponsoring a young girl is an investment, he isn’t a Sugar Daddy just for the fuck of it, as I wrote earlier, no matter if sex is happening or not, he’s getting something out of the deal. What happens when that Sugar Daddy can no longer stand his wife or has a mental breakdown where he realizes that he’s only happy when you’re around, he stops renting and buys. Yes, he knows you used him, now he’s going to make that pay off by using you back for the rest of your life as you make him feel young and loved. It’s an arrangement not some foolish romantic reaction, and before the invention of the Disney Princess, it’s the sole reason people got married. For Hos looking for one last sponsor, it can be just as beneficial. He gets to have you for real for the rest of his life or until the money runs out. You get either a security blanket or a lifelong investor to back your ambitious plans. None of the girls that I interviewed for this book were married, but one had a close friend that married her trick. In a strange twist of fate, this mark turned husband ended up giving her access to his bank accounts, and with her mind for business, she took his money and tripled it within three years after opening her own business. That man now works for his former Ho turned wife and lives like a domestic. This isn’t about being some kept woman; going from Ho to someone’s wife can be a business partnership if you are savvy enough to choose the right spouse. As a woman looking to gracefully bow out of the game, there are three things you need to look for in a retirement plan aka a husband:

Long term Sponsorship Ability : If you’re going to go all in it must be worth it. You don’t leave your job at the Clinique Makeup counter to go work at the Mac Makeup counter that’s a lateral move; you need to be climbing that ladder. Therefore, you don’t retire for a treat or a cheap trick; he must be a sponsor with a deep portfolio. In the time you spent getting him to invest in you, a big part of your hustle was to learn more and more about what this mark does. If your mark was a 9-5er, with a hefty base salary, that’s good enough to get your normal goal. However, if you plan to cut off your short-term hustles for long-term stability, you have to know if his job has security or if he’s one bad quarter from being demoted or laid off from the company. Alternatively, if this man is a business owner, know how volatile his company is because if he is the boss that cuts the check or has the bank loans in his name, a bad fiscal year could lead to him having to file for bankruptcy, and you having to trade in that wedding ring and shoe collection to stay afloat .

Eventually, you will fall in love, have children, and it will be a real marriage, but from the inception, this is a business deal. Much like the Ladies of the royal society that were presented to the Dukes and Princes of the time, you aren’t marrying for romance, you are marrying for finance. This is not only your livelihood; the man you choose will be responsible for your children and their children, and the last thing you want is your granddaughter to be left with nothing and having to read Ho Tactics in 2054, to get back on her feet.

Acceptance of the Big Reveal : The thing that really irritates the so-called good girls is when a girl is a Ho, gets found out, only to be forgiven for her past by a man that could easily have a “good girl.” It’s as if Hos get away with murder! If this were that good girl who did something sketchy, a man would most likely break up and make her beg for a second chance. Hos never beg to be taken back, and I’ll prove it.

I once corresponded with a woman that was in a rage because she exposed a Ho to her male friend/crush. She was so sure that her friend would cut this girl off emotionally and financially, and then he would finally see that a powerful man such as himself should be with an independent and strong woman like her. The exposing worked; the friend was upset, cursed the girl out, but in true Ho fashion, she manipulated the situation back to her favor. This Ho was caught with her hand in the cookie jar, but put her hands up like, “You got me, but this doesn’t mean I never loved you or will ever stop loving you.” That’s all that mark needed to hear to forgive. He tracked the Ho down and apologized for yelling! The woman who told me this story was blown away. This man was successful and highly educated, but that shit means nothing when you’re facing infatuation. Hos make themselves invaluable through the steps listed in this book, and that story is proof .

Few men can separate themselves from a woman with superior Ho skills. This male didn’t want to be in a relationship with his female friend that exposed his Ho because she wasn’t fun or wild; she was just like the rest of the women around his age who had grown old and now obsessed with love, marriage and reproducing. Of course, the Ho won, she had the type of personality that doesn’t grow on trees. For all the women that claim to be different, Spartans and Hos are the few that prove it with actions. While you may find a J. Howard Marshall, Benzino, or Orlando Scandrick that will embrace your past and allow you to reset your Honess , you want to be ahead of the curve. You don’t want to be exposed by an outside force; you want to expose yourself in a way that will bring you closer together. If he’s religious, tell him you were a sinner now you’ve seen the light. If he’s a compassionate dude, appeal to his paternal side, and tell him how your childhood was horrible, and you didn’t have a way out except men taking care of you. Be as genuine as you can be without doing damage to your chances. Get in front of the secret; don’t let the secret get in front of you.

Throughout your Ho tenure, you will get marriage proposals; some legit some bullshit, and it’s because you learned what men want and how to position yourself as that ultimate fantasy. A common misconception is that men look for wives like a woman would look for a wife for her son. In theory, if I were to ask my wife to pick her replacement on her deathbed she would list essentials like cooking, cleaning, and dependability. In short, someone that can come in the home and hold it down. Ask a man what he looks for in a wife, and he won’t list cooking spaghetti, he’ll ask for a pen and pad, so he can sketch the physical. The male brain thinks fun first, what’s for dinner last. Guys pretend to want all that domestic stuff and even wax poetic about it, but it’s lip service. Men with real money are most likely to marry the trophy that stays at home, yet despite that free time still hires a maid to come clean or take care of her kids over the woman that spends her 20s saying “I have to bring something to the table if I’m ever to become wife material.” It may not seem fair or progressive, but it’s the truth. Men love Hos that bring fun into their lives and are willing to pay to keep her happy. Women hate Hos that don’t have to do much to get a lifestyle they only fantasize about and no one epitomizes this societal truth more than Kimberly Noel Kardashian.

Kim Kardashian received a lot of bitter hate during both of her publicized weddings. The consensus I gathered from those that were Anti-Kim was that she was not a woman that you share your home with; she’s a woman you share a bed with and that’s it. To be fair, no successful man will take a woman seriously if she is only good for sex. Every woman has a pussy and more and more “grow” huge asses these days, yet they can’t replicate what Kim has done, so it is not about the physical. I’ve never had a conversation with Kim Kardashian nor was I impressed with her sex tape skills, but she oozes the kind of charisma that trumps book smart intelligence. I’m sure Kim can lay in bed at night and be a great listener and a master at lightening the mood when her husband’s life gets stressful. Those traits and several others listed in this book become invaluable because they are conversation and personality skills that will be used on a day-to-day basis to keep notoriously bored men interested and engaged. Too independent, too focused on your own world, too busy to have fun like you used to have. Most career women fall under that umbrella, and they end up with a husband that starts cheating or get a divorced, because they can’t tap into that Maria type persona every now and again to appease their man .

Your master’s degree can get you a career, but for a man that already has money, that isn’t a make or break quality. I applaud educated women who have their own money and make their own way in life without a man. This is not to say, “Drop out and Ho.” This is not about the right way or wrong way, it is about the Ho Way. In a traditional marriage it should be a balance, but in a Ho marriage, you will have to play that role of submissive from time to time and revert to being that little girl that needs Daddy’s help. The average man with money is not intimidated by successful women, he’s bored by them. Say what you want about Kim K, but even without the looks, business, or fame, she would still win because she’s a walking party. Will the good times last, who cares? It’s not about the end game, it’s about mastering the current game . Ho Tactics force you to become an engaging personality, not a phenomenal homemaker or great cook because the way to a man’s heart isn’t through his stomach, it’s through his penis by way of his brain. Go back, study these chapters, and master the conversation skills, and I promise you these lessons will help you land a husband quicker than the ability to make southern style chicken wings.

As you enter the twilight of your Ho career, it may not be a man’s pursuit that makes you want to retire, but the general need to cash out while you still can compete with the young Hos on the come up. When the average woman hits her late 20s she panics because despite where her professional life is, it’s the romantic one that has to be satisfied before the age of 30 or she will feel like a loser. In response, these type of women force the issue. They go out on dates with men that don’t meet their standards, pay for dating sites, and accept any blind date a friend sets up. That’s an idiotic knee-jerk reaction based on fear. Hos have no fear; they were about money, not marriage, but looks only last so long, so most become open to the possibility. Even at this point, a Smart Ho will not chase. Don’t get me wrong, she will continue to approach winners and entertain those that have trick potential, but she will never be hard up for marriage. The hustle used to be a car, now it evolves to half of his possessions or a place in his will, but the mentality remains.

What if you aren’t someone that grew with your mark/husband, you two are strangers, and he may or may not know about your past? Doesn’t matter! Cardi B was a stripper who recorded funny, yet telling, videos about her exploits as a Ho—didn’t stop a man from getting down on bended knee after knowing her a short while. Karrine Steffans wrote a series of books detailing her history as “Superhead” the queen of the blow job—didn’t stop multiple men from proposing to her. Even when you look to suburbia, you’ll find women who had reputations in college or on the bar scene, yet there she is happily married. Even when men know the history, they run towards these women because he’s not judging her statistics, he’s judging the persona she brings presently. You can use your old Ho reputation to entice men, so long as you lay your past on the table as if you’re done playing games. Men no longer care about the old stories if you come off reset and reborn. They are turned on by the fact that you were once a savage. I call this Dirty Sophistication . You were once wild, and you can still turn up for him, but as far as living that life, you’re retired. Not only do you express this with words, you show it with your presentation. You get wild to a point, but then you scale back. You reminisce on what you would have done to his dick ten years ago, but you do it in a teasing way where you act as if that was a completely different woman. Men love rehabilitated Hos that toe the line as if they may relapse at any moment, but only for him .

Most women don’t know how to ask for a relationship, because they fear a man rejecting her with a “let’s keep growing” or a flat out, “I’m not ready.” In this book you were taught the power of speaking up, and when it comes to relationships the key will always be to state what you want, not ask. When you ask, you make it a man’s choice . When you state, you make it a take it or leave it ultimatum. As a veteran Ho on her way out, all you need to do is work him like you would any mark, and then when his nose is open with the smell of how great you are, tell him you are done with the games. If you’re going to have fun, be wild, be nasty, and provide a fountain of youth, then you need it to be legitimate at this point in life. “I’m ready for us to get serious.” That’s a statement. There is no wiggle room for bullshit. At that point, the mark will jump to give a real relationship a shot just as quickly as the old marks jumped to buy you those headphones or he will make excuses as to why he can’t settle down.

If he doesn’t give you what you want, walk away just like in every one of these tactics. Typical women chase, they pout, they negotiate—and they end up fucked and lose all value going forward. Hos do not care about rejection because they understand that their options will never be limited. There will be another investment banker who tries to court her, another NFL player that asks for her number, another attorney that promises to give her the world, so why get caught up trying to hold on to a man that isn’t trying to give her what she wants? At the same time, a Smart Ho is aware that she is indeed a limited edition. Who else will this aging trick or sponsor come across that can make a marriage feel like an arrangement and not a prison?

All men reach a point where they want to settle down and have someone to come home to. Either he chooses one of these nags that are desperate and rundown, or he chooses a girl that won’t mind bringing home another girl for his birthday or turning a blind eye when he takes a weekend out of town with a friend she’s never heard of before. Not to say that this is a sham relationship where you allow cheating, he will understand by the way you two date that you are to be respected like a true lady or you’ll divorce him and take all of his shit, because Hos don’t believe in prenups. Any man who marries a woman with your personality and ambition will recognize that you are the type of woman that’s not going to put him in jealousy handcuffs… so long as he keeps that bank account swollen and two cars in the garage. As I said before, men fear commitment because it signals an end of fun and the death of excitement, but you are not typical, you are the type of woman that makes marriage seem like a party instead of a jail sentence.