part0032

A week has yet to pass where I don’t get at least a dozen questions about Ho Tactics. There is no way I can cover every scenario you may find yourself in, and I shouldn’t have to, as the point of this book is to use the understanding of what you now know about psychology to make these tactics yours. The previous chapters can be tailored to fit nearly any situation, if you take time to think it through and use your Ho IQ. Nevertheless, I will answer some of the more precise questions that you may have.

Q: I’m not “Ho Pretty,” is there a certain type of man I should look for who isn’t overly concerned with flawless beauty?

A: When I wrote that any woman could upgrade herself to appeal to any man, I meant it. There is no one type of flawless beauty that wins over another. Under the hood of every man is an engine fueled by turn-ons that he won’t share with homies on the internet or his friends at the bar. You can point to what men say they want, or what kind of women guys on TV have on their arm, but in reality, men are turned on by a wide variety of looks, shapes, and most importantly personalities. When choosing a mark, you can’t let your mind be bogged down by basic thoughts like, “will he like the way I look?” You must not assume that you look good enough to get any man, you must BELIEVE. Belief in your attractiveness will come across when you’re face to face with your target. Will you land each mark you go after? Of course not, nor will you land each job position you apply for, there will always be incompatibility in life. The key is not to be defeated and understand that the percentages will always be in your favor the more you put yourself out in front of these tricks.

Q: When I approach men, they think I want sex right away, and they become very aggressive. How do I hold them off?

A: Understand that men aren’t used to women coming on to them, those that have been pursued by women have most likely had the groupie experience. This experience is where a girl is so impressed by looks, money, or fame that she just gives herself away. Do not worry yourself about what he thinks he’s going to get out of you, focus on what you’re going to get from him. Go back and read the chapter on being Dick Disciplined and realize that for any of these tactics to work you must be comfortable weathering the storm. A man’s goal is to say and do anything to get between your legs. Say, “We’ll see” instead of “No” for starters. Avoid being alone with him and always have an excuse that keeps him believing he’s one date away from hitting that. A man will get aggressive; he will pretend to be done with you, or he will guilt you into giving it up. Through all of this, you must call his bluff because that’s all it is, male manipulation.

Q: You said that three dates are enough to research him, but what if things fall apart after the first date with a guy I know has money. Should I give up or chase him ?

A: Never get thirsty! When looking for love, I drill into heads that there is always someone else out there, no matter how perfect the person that you break up with seemed. When it comes to Hoing, the key to winning will always be your ability to abort your mission, reset, and go after someone new. This man could be a multi-millionaire that doesn’t mind spending, but if you get red flags, you have to walk away. Alternatively, if you get off on the wrong foot during the research phase and he cools on you, don’t get desperate and try to make things right. You must walk away. What happens is that these male Hos rely on bitch checks and reverse psychology. If he distances himself and you come running, then he knows that he has the power over you going forward. Never give a man leverage over you by acting as if he’s the only trick in the world.

Q: How many marks should I have on my team? I usually talk to two or three guys when dating, but this seems more time consuming.

A: You should take on as many as you can handle. Realistically your life is filled with things like work, school, etc… Hos are always on the clock, but they don’t spend 24-7 doing Hotivities. In a perfect world, you would have two of the three. That means one treat and one trick or one treat and one sponsor. Finding a sponsor doesn’t mean you kick your feet up. That sponsor’s investment in you upgrades your way of living, meaning that you can now have access to men from lifestyles that you couldn’t reach before. By “handle,” I also refer to your mental capacity for juggling men. Not all women can date multiple men, and not all women can work multiple marks. Don’t get greedy! If you’re comfortable with one and are really trying to nail this guy, then work him and him alone. The point isn’t how many marks you can have on your roster; it’s about learning how to perform these tactics effectively .

Q: I’m horrible at phone sex, is it okay to keep it at sexting?

A: Sexting is very effective; a man can get off by reading just as fast as talking. However, things can get lost in translation during texts in general. Therefore, to master this man’s likes and dislikes, the phone is superior because it leaves room for error and recovery. For instance, if you text him something about eating his ass, and he’s not into that kind of thing, the sext convo may slow down or come to a halt. You don’t know what’s going on; you’re just waiting for the next reply. However, on the phone, a misstep like that can be laughed off, and within seconds you are back to testing out other freaky things that get him off. No matter if you hate your voice or you aren’t that good at it, you must graduate to the phone sex stage.

Q: I can fake interest, but I don’t like to lie about things like sex trauma. What other excuses can I make to not have sex?

A: I understand that trauma can be hard for those who have experienced it for real. Rape and molestation aren’t joking matters, but trauma is the most effective tool for keeping a man from crossing the line when he’s tired of hearing wait until next time. There’s only so many times you can fake a period, so the alternative is to tug on a different kind of emotional string—fear of failure. Tell him you’re just not ready yet. The key is to keep him interested, but not feel as if you’re playing games, so the reason for your apprehension should be all about you and never about him. Men don’t trust women, and since they see sex as natural and nothing to be afraid of, guys get easily frustrated when you keep them waiting. Therefore, your excuse has to be a bulletproof reason that hits that same idea of emotional fragility. You don’t want to get attached to him too quick after sex because you have a history of doing that. This isn’t tied to trauma, just hurt. Throw in that you’re currently seeing a therapist about it if he’s not buying it, and he will believe you. Sell this like it’s a condition that is about you, not him. Finally, you can pull out what I call “limited religion” which means that you aren’t practicing celibacy, but you are going through a cleanse and are a month away from being done. Men don’t argue with God, so if you say you need four more weeks to get your soul pure, he will wait.

Q: Oral sex, giving or receiving, isn’t real sex for me. Should I use this as a seduction technique early on?

A: Absolutely not! One thing I learned during college is that blowjobs will tide you over and drive away lust almost as quickly as having vaginal sex with a girl. Men can live on head alone, so you don’t want to get into the habit of going down on him just to keep him interested. What will happen is that when it comes time to get in his pockets, he won’t be as hard up, due to the fact that you’ve already given him the release he was looking for. Similar to having sex too fast, blowjobs will force you to start over and go down an entirely new path. In terms of him going down on you, it’s a slippery slope because you know the only reason he’s trying to eat your box is to beat your box, and when you’re in the moment with a man that has the material things you want, you may give in. It’s better to avoid mouths being put anywhere below the waist until you start milking him.

Q: I live in a small city where everyone talks. Should I try this elsewhere in case word gets out? Is there a specific way to go about being a small town Ho?

A: Refer back to the chapter on Exit Strategy. The brilliance of the Smart Ho lifestyle is that no one will tell unless you open your mouth. To land a mark, even in a town of 10,000 people, is still something that he will keep private. When you go out to date, people may see you and assume you’re having sex. However, it’s just assumptions and gossip. When his friends ask him what’s going on, he isn’t going to ruin his fun time by telling your business or his business because rival men plot on New Pussy. Women tend to get caught up in the drama of “people are talking behind my back” but Hos do not care. When it comes time to move on to the next man, you won’t have a reputation because you hold something over his head, the fact that he was tricking on you. A man would rather say, “We’re still cool, that was just my friend,” than “She’s a gold digging Ho” because that makes him look like a small town sucker who got taken in by a small town Ho.

The positive thing that can come out of this is that you get to be seen with someone known as a winner in that small town. Men want what other men have, why do you think celebrities date and even marry cast-offs of other celebrities. Even if a guy only heard you used to go out with an old mark, he will want to know what a man with money or power saw in you. Men don’t run from Hos; they chase them, even when the chasing is subconscious. No matter where you live, if you start with that foundation of loyalty and build it into leverage, that mark will never sell you out.

Q: Can gay men or women use Ho Tactics? Are lesbian women least likely to be sugar mommas than men?

A: Ho Tactics is LGBT friendly! Men can be Hos and women can be Hos, so there is no real difference except in the gender aim. Gay men, in particular, have been known to master the art of being sponsored better than females. In Los Angeles, I’ve heard several behind closed doors stories of famous directors or producers tricking on up and coming pretty boy actors and even assistants. A friend told me how simply giving the “Boyfriend Experience” to this older man without any sex or sexual acts, paid for his first year in Hollywood. When it comes to women, we all know they are givers for the most part, which means to gain the affection of a lesbian who is sweet on you, can work the same way as if it were a man who wanted your affection and body. In this recent explosion of bisexual women, I’ve seen former Hos be out Hoed because they weren’t used to a woman’s manipulation the same way they were used to a man’s.

In the past year I’ve gotten some amazing stories from lesbians that proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that “sugar mama” women make better sponsors than straight men! Being gay or lesbian can be a lonely existence, to come in and be his or her friend, lover, and confidant in a world where they’re being judged, makes you extremely valuable. Thus, they will go above and beyond to keep you on their team. In the end, it’s all about the process of endearing yourself to a human being and that can be done no matter their orientation. Hoing is equal opportunity.

Q: I’ve used Tinder to date, is there any way to use it to scout for men with money?

A: Any app that connects you directly with a mark can be used to come up, but with Tinder, unless you happen to have Facebook access to this guy’s actual life, you’re at the mercy of what you learn while chatting with him. Once you sat up a date, you are flying blind as to whom this guy really is, because unlike directly approaching him, him approaching you, or seeing his social media life, you don’t really have any reference point. Tinder is a rest haven for horny guys quickly liking any girl that looks half-decent, with the intention of setting up a date as soon as possible. Men with real power and wealth may use it for Fast Food Pussy, not as a vehicle to take a woman seriously, so you already start with an uphill battle. It sounds convenient, but Tinder or any dating app could end up being much more work. Use it only if you’re ready to work at vetting on the phone and during that first date.

Q: I don’t have much money to go out or to put on appearances like Maria did, how can a poor Ho-In-The-Making, do this on a budget?

A: You don’t need red bottoms or Gucci bags to attract wealth. You don’t need to have a luxury car or even a car at all. Most importantly you don’t need to live in an upscale community. Women’s fashion can be extremely cheap. From thrift stores to Forever 21, you can find a pair of jeans that hugs your ass and a blouse that flatters your top. What was the foundation of these tactics? To look sexy as fuck in your own opinion. If you can’t master the art of putting together a cheap or already worn outfit that inspires a smile when you twirl in the mirror, then you will never have the confidence to do any of these tactics.

There was a woman who thought that every question I made her ask a mark would be shot back to her—where do you work, where do you live, etc … and based off her being poor with a boring job she would stumble out of the gate. Wrong! Men will ask just to be polite, but they don’t care. Make being poor a part of your story if you have to, exploit your life! You live in a low rent community because you’re saving while paying off school loans—that makes sense to any man. You live with your parents because they need extra help—that makes sense to any man. You have to call Ubers to and from dates because your car was totaled a month ago—oh that’s so sad, how can I help ! Remember, these men will grow to love you, and if you come saying that you need money to pay off an unexpected bill or need a co-pay for your mother’s medicine he will be more inclined to help because it fits your life story of being in the struggle. If you want a car, doesn’t it sound better to be without one and dependent on ride shares when you finally ask “daddy” to lease you a whip? Take your burden and weaponize it, don’t be ashamed!

Q: I’m a middle-class woman who isn’t really in need, so won’t it sound fake asking men on my level or a little above for gifts? How can I get spoiled by normal men in my own tax bracket without seeming like I’m abusing them?

A: It does not matter what financial level you are on, these tactics are based on seducing, bonding, and asking. You’re afraid that asking a man who sees that you drive a nicer car than him will make you come off as obvious. Not true. It’s all about how you sell your need. Let’s say you both make 120k a year and live in nice communities. You told him your job position and it’s impressive. Those are basics that can be spun. He only knows what you tell him, so how does he know that you don’t have lingering debt, a mother you take care of, or any financial stress? Even movie stars struggle with money behind closed doors, so it’s not a stretch. Alternatively, use the tactic of him losing out on you if he says, “no”. A month of bonding and phone boning, a few dates where you’ve kissed and fondled each other, he’s hooked. Now you want him to help you pay for a cruise you’re going on with your college besties that cost $2500. That’s peanuts for a man that’s making six figures. At the same time, he’s thinking it’s peanuts for a woman like you. The reason he will give you the money is because you have built equity in his life. To say, “can’t you afford that, Ms. Executive,” should be greeted with, “It’s not about affording, I thought you liked making me happy. Sorry for asking.” He’ll tap dance and feel guilty, but the correct response from you is to pull away. Again, a man with that kind of money will cave in and come back with his tail between his legs because you in his life will be worth more than the money he can make back in a week. Taking risks pays off! Don’t use your own income or lifestyle as an excuse. You’re his fantasy woman, play it that way, not as if you’re his financial equal (even when you are or have more) and these men will always pay to keep you around especially if you threaten to pull out of their lives .

Q: I’m afraid of a man seeing through my Ho tactics and doing something to get me back. How can I safely cover my tracks?

A: Never reveal that which may come back to haunt you. Throughout this book, it never says you have to bring him to your home or even give him your real name. Again, refer back to the chapter on Exit Strategy and build evidence against this man in case things go south. If your mark begins to show signs of anger or frustration, walk away immediately. The same way you research his finances, research his temperament. A man that’s constantly angry, drops hints about doing violence to others, or gets even a little rough when you tease him, trust that he has problems. Do not ignore or stay the course because you’re money hungry. Safety aside, you must safeguard your assets. Even if you end up dealing with someone that buys you a house or a car, you must protect your interest in case the bottom falls out. If the home is in his name, make sure you talk him into putting you down as co-owner or siphon enough money from him that if he does kick you out, you have rebound money.

One woman shared how her sponsor started running into money problems and wanted her to return the car he bought with the promise of getting something new. She agreed without fuss, but then quickly asked for a large lump sum of money to go on a shopping trip. The underlining message was, “I’ll only give you this car back if you pay me.” This guy never got her another car, but she came away with enough to go put a down payment on something new. In the end, she may have lost that mark, but she ended up with what she wanted. Always be financially stable enough to walk away and savvy enough to get a little extra on the way out .

Q: I attract marks that are long distance or very busy, I’ve done my research and they aren’t fake busy it’s real. How do I use Ho Tactics day to day with a man that’s not able to see me?

A: I developed Ho Tactics to be a time saver, hence three dates to see if a man is down to spend, so you can walk away and move on to the next. However, there are scenarios where Ho Tactics will take more time and patience. I currently advise a woman that dates a musician that tours with one of the biggest pop stars in the world. This guy literally couldn’t go on three dates over three weeks, nor was he always available for phone calls. Her hustle became more of a side hustle. She had another guy she was seeing, but she kept up appearances with the band guy by being sure to show him attention each day. Texts when he was in new cities. Pictures randomly. Sexting as a reward. And most importantly she found out his interest outside of music, studied it, and when they would have time to text back and forth, it was her having something fun to say about shit other than “how’s the tour”. It took over a month, but by the time she had her official first date, he arrived with a gift for her. He flew private to take her on a second date a few weeks later, and she gave him a small gift of her own. She didn’t have sex with him up to this point, she used the limited time together to endear herself by explaining her backstory—family drama, not finishing school, she exploited her life for his empathy. She became his friend/lover/sister within two months and by the time he was done touring they had the “see if he will trick” date. Instead of headphones, she got what she had asked for between dates—for him to get “them” an apartment in the city where she could live. To this day, she lives there rent free and barely sees him. The idea is to not obsess over a mark and feel a need to rush through the steps if he’s unavailable. Slow and steady is about chipping away, not swinging for the fences because you’re hard up to get some bills paid. The longer you take, the more he trusts you, the more he trusts you, the more you will get when he does finally get to see you.

The great thing about Ho Tactics is that no matter if you meet your trick in Best Buy, at a wedding reception, or online, it all goes back to the basics of confidence, seduction, and manipulation. Once a man likes you, even if it is only a lust for quick sex, you immediately have power over him. Truly understand the concept of power, don’t pretend and try to freestyle these lessons. Power over men is not this cartoon concept of heart shaped eyes and zombie-like following. Power is under the surface, but supremely binding. Wherever you want to lead this man, he will follow because he wants something from you.

The catch is he doesn’t even know he’s being led; he thinks he’s doing the leading. The more you tease sex, the more he wants to fuck you. The more you come off as “Let’s go get drunk,” good time girl, the more time he wants to spend time with you. The more you talk to him privately as a friend, the more he will cherish your company. Ultimate power comes in the form of separation anxiety. Unlike the jump off he fucks after a week, the girlfriend that loves him more than herself, or the platonic buddy that relies on his friendship, you have no desire to be in his life. Think back to Pussy Value and how your ability to cut him off becomes a turn on. The average girl can’t cut a man off, which is why they get exploited. Once you give him a taste of this fantasy living, then threaten to pull it away, the tables turn, and you become the exploiter because you are uniquely special, and he must have you in his life !

Ho Tactics isn’t about tricks or games, it’s about insight! Male psychology makes you a living weapon. You’re not a Ho, you’re Ho Conscious, and no matter if it’s a mark, your boss at work, or a teacher at school, all you have to do is concentrate and think about what people want to hear, then sink into your character to make them melt in your hands! I repeat for the fifty-leventh time, it’s not tricking if you got it! Men with money blow paper on all types of hobbyist things or ego stroking trinkets. To be his fantasy woman that has made him full of both lust and love means that you will get anything you want because making you happy means you will continue to make him happy.

This is the updated version, so I can say with even more confidence that everything written has worked when used by women just like you! Every race, the old and the young, middle class and lower class, single women and those in relationship have gotten far more than headphones. There is nothing holding you back but doubt—kill that noise! Study this book, highlight this book, and refer back to it often until you understand the power a sexualized personality has over men. No matter if you’re a woman looking to get her boyfriend to treat her once and in a while or a single lady who is ready to turn to the Ho side of the force, you will not be denied! Right is a direction and Wrong is an opinion. Men have been manipulating women since the dawn of time, study these tactics, apply these techniques, and even up the battle between the sexes until you get what you deserve.