While of course there are many other ways women can have sex with other women, one way is through friction. “Scissoring” is a very limited term, but tribadism (which is the scientific name) and frottage (the scientific name for rubbing one part of your body against another body part sexually) are fun things that can happen between two people.
For some, playing with friction as part of sex creates tension, or warm-up during foreplay. For those who have chosen not to be traditionally sexually intimate (i.e., focusing on penetration), friction can be done with clothes on; there’s no transmission of fluid and you can build on, or even change up your concept of the main course. Others view friction as the main course of their sexual time together, experiencing great pleasure and orgasms from rubbing against each other.
Like all sex, there’s no right or wrong way. Do what feels good. I’ve provided some suggestions to get you started, but this is the time to experiment. Try wearing full clothing, just your underwear, or nothing at all. Add in chairs and other furniture to change positions. If you have multiple partners, you can add in some friction action to make sure they’re getting some pleasurable attention while something else is going on. The possibilities are endless!
Both partners are lying on their sides, with their heads at opposite ends of the bed, their bodies facing the same direction. Their legs have slid open to allow their vulvas to touch. This is the traditional way scissoring is viewed and may be worth a try for people interested in making it happen.
Both partners are lying on their sides, with their heads on opposite ends of the bed. Their bodies are facing opposite directions. Their legs have slid open to allow their vulvas to touch, providing good frictional stimulation. If it’s more comfortable, one partner can lie more on her stomach than her side.
Similar to the Reverse Scissors position, this fabulous-friction focused move has one of the partners sitting up in bed, resting her weight on her arm. This allows her both more control and more power as the two rub against each other’s bodies…plus she gets a front row seat to watch her lover hit her climax. If they’d like, they can take turns sitting up to decide what feels best for the two of them, and to share the best view in the house!
This Is the Way the Ladies Ride
One woman is sitting on a chair, with her legs at a right angle to the floor, slightly spread apart at the feet. The other woman is straddling one of the sitting partner’s legs while she’s facing her partner. Wrapping her arms around the woman in the chair, the riding partner is rubbing her vulva against the leg she’s on. They can also play with each other’s nipples, kiss, and so on while in this position.
With one woman sitting on the bed with her legs out in a V (or one leg can be bent at the knee), her partner is able to straddle the outstretched leg and rub herself along it at the speed and pace that feels best to her. This position allows for eye contact, kissing, and real intimacy, while letting the woman straddling the leg have complete control over her own stimulation.
Both partners are standing and facing each other, with one placing her leg between her partner’s legs. She then lifts up and holds one of her partner’s legs at a right angle by her hip, allowing for deeper access and more friction to be achieved. Either partner can move to create scintillating stimulation, or they can rock back and forth together to really rock her world!
The partners are lying in the traditional spooning position, on their sides, facing the same direction. The woman in back has her arm wrapped around the waist of the woman in front. They can grind against each other, and the woman in the front can stimulate herself with her fingers or a toy. The women can also lift their legs over each other to provide more surface area to rub against.
One woman is lying on her back on the bed, propped up on her elbows so she can see her partner. One leg is flat on the bed, the other is up in the air and can be resting on her partner if comfortable. Her partner is straddling her just below the open leg, facing her, so that her vulva can rub up against the first partner’s thigh/back of the leg. The straddling partner can be kneeling or even squatting, whichever feels better for her, and she’s supporting her partner’s leg in the air. The woman lying on her back can reach down and stimulate her partner’s vulva as well.
A position that allows for both partners to rub against each other, with one woman on her back, her legs open, spread, and bent at the knees. Her partner kneels in between these spread legs with her knees slightly apart, pressing up into her. She can lean forward to kiss, or use her arms to change the angle and therefore the sensations between them. Requires some degree of flexibility.
One partner is lying near the edge of the bed on her side, with her knees bent and relaxed. Her partner comes up, standing on one leg, and places her other leg between the knees of the partner who is on her side on the bed, so that both of them are providing friction up against each other. Use a pillow or two under the hips of the partner on the bed to change up the angle for different sensations.
Both partners are lying in bed on their sides, facing each other. One woman places her leg over the other woman’s hip and slides her other leg between her partner’s leg. They can now rub their vulvas on each other’s legs. This is a great position for intimacy: they can look at each other, kiss, play with each other’s nipples, and so on, all while enjoying rubbing up on each other.
Somewhat emulating the more traditional “cowgirl” position, one woman is lying on her back on the bed while the other has straddled her waist. She can then either kneel or squat and move up and down or side to side to provide frictional pleasure for them both. This position allows for kissing, eye contact, breast stimulation, and all sorts of additional intimacy.
One woman is sitting on a chair with her legs at a right angle to the floor, feet slightly spread apart. The other woman is straddling one of her legs, with her back to her partner, in almost a reverse cowgirl style. The woman sitting in the chair has wrapped her arms around the woman riding her (and can choose to play with her riding partner’s nipples), as the riding woman is rubbing her vulva against the leg she’s on.
Another position that allows the top partner complete control, this position has one woman lying on her back with one leg straight and the other bent at the knee, and a pillow propped up under her head. The other woman lies on her, straddling her bent leg with her vulva, rubbing up against the leg, and across the woman on the bed’s body. It gives the woman on top control over the sensations she is getting, but allows them both to connect more through constant touch.
This position may be a little more challenging, but can certainly be worth it for those who crave simultaneous and direct stimulation. One woman is lying on the bed on her back, supporting herself in almost a bridge with one knee bent. The other is standing, sliding between her partner’s legs, holding up one of her partner’s knees next to her body while using her non-standing leg to bend and straighten in order to control the pace. Their legs together form an X.
One woman is lying on the bed on her stomach, with her head turned to the side (it can be resting on a pillow, or she can even put a pillow below her chest if that’s more comfortable). Her partner is lying almost on top of her, but a bit more to the side, supporting herself slightly with her arms and sliding her vulva against the first woman’s back for stimulation. This can be a relaxing, very laid-back position, great for warm-up or cool down.
For partners who have a little bit of extra flexibility available to them, this position really stretches your limits. One partner is lying on the bed, semi-supporting herself with one leg hanging down. Her other leg is bent and pulled back by her partner who is half kneeling on the bed while straddling her other leg. This position really opens up the first woman’s vulva, allowing for dual stimulation, and is satisfying everyone involved.
With one partner lying on the bed, her knees bent and spread, the other partner straddles one of those bent legs, sliding her vulva up and down the leg to provide herself with pleasurable stimulation. The partner lying on the bed gets an excellent view of her lover’s back as she faces away from her, while the straddling partner pleasures herself on the first partner’s leg, and can reach down to stimulate herself by hand (or with a toy!) if she so chooses.
Both partners are facing each other, lying on the bed, one lying on top of the other, with their legs essentially intertwined. The woman on top is straddling one of her partner’s legs, pushing her body against the leg to stimulate her vulva, while her partner can choose to wrap her leg around for a different sensation. Very intimate, the partner on top is in control of her sensations, but they can maintain eye contact, kiss, and play with one another throughout.
