Ah, cunnilingus. Dining at the Y. Licking alotta puss. Eating her out. Whatever you want to call it, oral sex on female bodies can be incredibly exciting and titillating. Regardless of whether you choose to use oral sex as foreplay, the main course, or a delicious helping of dessert, many folks enjoy both giving and receiving the art of cunnilingus.
If either of you are concerned about smell or taste, here are a few tips:
First, the shower is your friend. It doesn’t matter how you actually smell or taste (which is probably pretty freaking awesome) if you’re going to fret about it during sex. Cut these worries off at the pass by showering together first. This way, you both know that both of you are squeaky clean, it gives you some more exciting foreplay options like soaping each other up and rubbing each other down, and it can help both of you relax before the sexual exploration starts.
Think about what you eat. While there’s no miracle diet for having a delicious vulva, some foods can make you taste more bitter and others leave you tasting sweeter. Fruits like pineapple, orange, and lemon, can give you that lighter flavor, while heavier or creamy foods (cream sauces, broccoli, asparagus) might give you a hint of a bitter taste. Garlic is on the fence; if you eat enough of it, your vulva may taste like it, so that really depends on whether your partner enjoys garlic or might be turned off.
Finally, keep in mind that you’re supposed to taste like you. All of us have our own individual flavor and scent. You’re not supposed to smell like a rose or taste like a mint julep; this is sex, not perfume. Many folks love the way their partner naturally smells and tastes, so if you’re concerned, ask before you start spritzing on weird sprays that mess with your pH and can leave you with a bacterial infection.
If you want safer oral sex, you can use a dam, or make your own! What’s a dam? It’s a very thin sheet of latex (similar in feeling to a condom) that’s rectangular. You lube up the area to be licked, then place the dam on top of it, and go at it! The problem with dams is that they tend to be hard to find, expensive, and not great for those with latex sensitivities.
It’s time to MacGyver your safer sex supplies! Take an unrolled condom and cut it in half, from tip to the base (lengthwise). Voilà—you have a mini dam, and you can even use flavored condoms, lubricated or not, or nonlatex condoms.
Another great trick is to take a glove (latex, nitrile, or vinyl), cut off the four finger spaces and up the NON-thumb side. Open it, and now you have a dam with a little finger hole for you to stimulate inside as well. Ta-da! Gloves are cheap en masse, and you can find them at grocery stores, drugstores, or even beauty supply shops.
Another easy-to-make alternative is to use plastic wrap from the kitchen. Most people already have this on hand, it comes in a variety of pretty colors, and you can actually see what’s beneath the wrap and enjoy what you’re licking. All plastic wrap is latex-free, so it’s preferable for use, regardless of whether you or your partner has a latex allergy.
Don’t forget that good cunnilingus takes time. I’m not saying that you need to put aside two hours for muff diving (unless it really turns both you and your partner on that much; if so, feel free to dedicate your whole day!), but you do need to remember that it’ll likely take more than a minute, or even five, to get things going. There’s no magic recipe for giving good head, but communication and enthusiasm are the two sure bets you have for making it as good as it can possibly be. Ask for feedback (and make sure to give it, if you’re the receiver!), and show your partner exactly how much you want to be there, whether you’re the one licking or the one lying back and enjoying it. Keep in mind that using pillows can help make both partners significantly more comfortable, and that different people enjoy their oral stimulation in different positions. Mix things up, and you’re sure to have a fabulous time.
The woman receiving the oral sex is lying on the bed, mostly on her back, with her weight resting on her shoulders, neck, and head, supported by her arms. Her hips are in the air, with her feet resting over her partner’s shoulders, and can be crossed at the ankles. Her partner then is resting on her knees, her hands and arms supporting the receiving partner’s butt and back, allowing her comfortable face-level access to all of the areas to be licked, nibbled, and sucked. Consider adding pillows to make things more comfortable for either partner.
A position that allows both partners to delight each other with oral ministrations simultaneously, it is similar to a 69 but the pillow below the bottom partner’s head allows her much better access to her partner’s vulva (try two or even three pillows to find out what fits best). This position is a great way for both women to give and receive pleasure at the same time while allowing for the comfort of all involved.
One partner is lying on the bed on her back, with her knees tucked towards her chest, but open slightly, using her hands to hold her knees in place. Her partner is also on the bed, kneeling between her legs, providing her with tantalizing oral pleasure. This position is a great one not only because of the access provided and the ability of the receiver to rock side to side slightly to best get her ideal stimulation, but also in playing with power, and having the giver provide oral sex in a somewhat submissive position.
The partner receiving the oral pleasure is sitting in a chair (find one with four legs; this is not a great position for a rocking or spinning chair!), leaning back slightly. Her partner is kneeling on the ground in front of her, facing the chair, with the sitting partner’s legs over the kneeling partner’s back. This gives both partners access to great angles that can really elevate pleasure, and it can be very comfortable for the receiver. Add a pillow under the giver’s knees if it gets to be less than comfy.
The woman receiving oral sex is lying on her back on the bed with her legs open. Her legs can either be flat or bent at the knee with her feet on the bed, in case she’d like to move her hips around. Her partner lies between her legs, with her face between them and her arms around the legs to pull her closer if she’d like. The woman on her back can reach forward and put her hands in her partner’s hair, or this could be a fun position to use for having her wrists restrained.
Similar to the beginnings of a 69 position, in this position the partner on top is supporting herself with one hand while using her free hand to stimulate the partner who is on the bed’s vulva. The partner on the bed has both hands as well as her mouth free to pleasure her lover. This is a great position to add in a sex toy or two in addition to your oral skills, and also for some power play, with the partner on top being in a little more of a dominant role. Add a pillow under the bottom partner’s head and/or hips to change up the angles!
One woman is on the bed on her knees, her knees slightly spread, straddling her partner’s face. Her partner is lying on the bed on her back with her legs out in front, licking upward (positioned like a car mechanic). The licker can place a pillow under her head to provide a better angle, and the receiver can lean forward more onto the bed if that’s more comfortable for her. As shown, this is a good position to add some bondage if you so choose!
One woman is on her back on the bed, her legs opened wide. She has her arms holding her ankles to support keeping them up and open. Her partner is lying on her stomach between her partner’s legs, with both arms wrapped around her legs from underneath to pull her closer to her face. Placing a pillow under the receiver’s hips can provide a different angle that might work better for some folks.
The receiving partner is lying on her back on the bed, legs spread, wearing a blindfold. Her partner is lying between her legs, her head positioned for optimal licking pleasure. The woman on her back can wrap her legs around her partner, and the licker can reach up to stimulate the breasts or hold her partner’s hands. Losing one sense, like sight, can heighten all the other senses and significantly increase pleasure.
With one woman lying flat on the bed, the other woman kneels facing the first woman’s feet, putting one of her knees on each side of the first partner’s head. During the course of receiving oral stimulation, she can either stay kneeling with her body straight up, or can lean forward and support herself with her arms, depending on which angle feels better to her. The partner on the bed can reach up to stimulate the riding partner’s breasts, or she can reach down and play with herself while giving pleasure.
One woman is on the floor at the edge of the bed, kneeling, facing the bed. The other woman is on the edge of the bed, sitting up straight, resting her open legs on her partner’s shoulders, her partner’s head in front of her vulva. One or both of her hands can be wrapped in her partner’s hair or holding her partner’s head, or she can use one or both hands to support her body on the bed. Having her feet on her partner’s shoulders allows for a better view, and, of course, more intimate access to her vulva.
One woman is lying on her back on the bed. The other woman is facing the wall, with her knees on either side of her partner’s head as she’s straddling her face. She can have one or both hands on the wall, supporting her. The woman on the bed can help steady the rider by placing her hands on her hips and also pull her closer or push her away as needed.
The receiving woman stands at the edge of the bed, facing the bed. She’s standing on one leg and the other leg is placed on the bed with a bent knee. Her partner can be sitting on the floor or a chair (depending on the bed’s height), licking her and helping the standing woman to keep her balance. They can both touch each other for additional sensations and support, and the giver can use a vibrator to keep her partner stimulated while she’s providing oral sex, if she so desires.
One woman is lying on her side. Her bottom leg is straight with her top leg bent up to make a triangle. She has placed her foot on her knee, and she’s supporting herself slightly on a bent arm, looking down. Her partner is lying on her side, her head in the vulva area, resting her head on the first woman’s thigh, body facing toward her head. This might look like a T from above. The thigh helps provide a place for the licker to rest her head during the oral action.
In some ways like the traditional 69 position, this one really kicks it up a notch. Designed for those with a little extra flexibility, one partner is on the bed on her back, bent in half while holding her ankles with her hand. The other partner is kneeling on either side of her head, allowing access to her vulva while also leaning forward to give her lover oral pleasure. If needed, pillows can be used to help prop one or the other woman in place and make things more comfortable.
One woman is standing with her back against the wall. Her legs are spread, and her arms are reaching along her sides to balance her. The other woman is sitting cross-legged between the receiver’s legs, facing the wall. She has placed both hands on the receiver’s hips, pulling her vulva close to her face for optimal licking. The sitting woman may choose to place a pillow or other item under her for added comfort.
The woman receiving oral sex is bent over at the waist, her hands on her ankles and her legs shoulder-width apart. Her partner is on her knees behind the standing woman, holding the standing woman’s hips with her hands, and has her face near her vulva from the rear. This can also be a great position for analingus. The kneeling partner may want to place a pillow under her knees if it’s more comfortable.
One of the women is lying on her back, with her head at the end of the bed. The other woman is either kneeling over or even straddling her face, allowing her feet to hang off the side of the bed (with lower beds, they can be placed over the edge of the bed and then flat on the floor for additional leverage). This allows for increased access to the vulva, and also power play as the woman on top controls access and even breath play with the woman below.
One woman is sitting on the ground, cross-legged, with her back straight. The other woman is standing, facing her partner, with one leg straddled over her partner’s back, allowing the sitting partner access to her vulva. The standing woman’s hands can be bracing herself on the wall, placed on her partner’s shoulders, or holding onto her partner’s head. The sitting partner can help steady the standing one and also use her hands to move the standing woman’s vulva to the best area for licking.
One woman is lying on her back on the bed, with her head resting on some pillows. The other woman has her legs or knees spread on either side of the first woman’s shoulders, facing her partner’s body, with her head near her partner’s vulva. Both women have access to each other’s vulvas and can be licking, sucking, and stimulating each other at the same time.
One woman is on her side with her bottom leg straight out, and her top leg bent with her foot on her knee or the bed. Her partner is also lying on her side, facing the first woman, but with her head between her legs. This places her own legs near the first woman’s face for possible 69 action. They can both use pillows to support their heads and get their necks at the right angles for licking each other.
The licker is lying on the bed, on her back, with her head resting on some pillows. The other woman has her legs (mostly knees) spread on either side of her partner’s shoulders as she faces her body. She’s supporting herself with one arm and using the other to manually stimulate her partner, while the woman lying down is providing oral and potentially manual stimulation to the kneeling partner.
