ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Thank you to my collaborator, Jill Stern. Your energy, amazing creativity and ideas, organization, optimism, and skillful shaping of my thoughts and concepts helped make me be the best I could be. Like a good marriage, or an orchestra and conductor, we were always in sync.

To my husband, Dr. Jeffrey M. Weil: I am so lucky to have you in my life while writing this book, anticipating and solving problems before there’s trouble (like the new Xerox machine!). Thank you for rescuing me from deadlines, sharing precious weekends with notes and manuscript, spending hours reading drafts, without complaining, working on exercises, and exploring our family’s history with financial infidelity. Special thanks for keeping the romance alive by sharing midnight dinners when deadlines loomed.

To my parents, Hyman and Paula: the love and support you showed me and each other has made so much possible. Your example has been a guiding light on my journey to helping so many others.

To my grandparents, Sarah and David Brodkin, whose generous and loving marriage weathered the power struggles and provided me with inspiration for this book.

Many thanks to my “mother-in-love,” Helen, who helped with the Moneygram and Family History for hours. Thank you for your love and support and for always putting yourself out there.

To my patients, whose courage and belief in me, Smart Heart Skills and Dialogues, and my avant-garde, groundbreaking Biochemical Craving for Connection and Brush with Death theories—and most importantly, in yourselves—propelled you to transform your relationships. You are the torchbearers for reconnection and reromanticizing, and it is your personal stories and triumphs that bring this book to life! Thank you for taking the journey with me, and passing the torch. It will brighten the way for so many others.

To Kirsten Manges, my wonderful agent, whose wisdom, diplomacy, perseverance, and amazing sixth sense guided this project from idea to book and found for me a great publisher and editor. You are so smart and always on target. Thanks for believing in this book and cheering me on every step of the way. You’d make a great therapist!

To Emily Haynes, my brilliant editor, for your continued insight and enthusiasm. From the beginning you understood why Financial Infidelity posed such a threat to relationships and why so many people would benefit from this book. Thank you for taking the adventure with me and believing in me and my groundbreaking ideas.

Thanks also to Nadia Kashper, for your cooperative attitude and attention to detail. And to Marie Coolman and Liz Keenan for your bubbling personalities, fabulous ideas, tireless brainstorming, and great PR.

Grateful thanks to Angela Muniz, my husband’s assistant, for the endless patience and support and assurances that nothing was ever too much trouble. And to Stan Lotwin for your networking, humor, and wisdom. Thanks to Arlene Adler for being so generous with your time and opinions and for spreading the word. And to Nick Gravante for your wisdom and support, and Michael Braun for your hysterical and astute additions. To Pat Ambrose from Lords Valley Country Club for your openness and, as usual, wonderful advice and help, and to Jessica Parry for your amazing helpfulness and positive attitude. Thank you to my good friends Ken and Julie Kendall for your encouragement every step of the way, and to Saul Weidler and Stephanie Neigeborn.

To Myrna Post for hatching the idea, helping with the title, and supporting my efforts, and to Mitchell Waters at Curtis Brown for making the fantastic match. To Kate White and Vicki Lucia at Cosmopolitan, Margie Rosen at Ladies Home Journal, and K. C. Baker from People, for all of your enthusiasm, interest, and support. Thanks also to Steve Portney and André Wallace for your ideas and insights into Financial Infidelity and the DVD for Financial Infidelity.

Finally, to my colleagues and mentors: Dr. Jeffrey Morrison of the Morrison Center and Grace Lindo, his assistant, for working with so many of my patients despite serious challenges as we pioneered this journey. To Sunny Shulkin for your incredible insights and your thoughtful and intuitive forward to this book. To Dr. Helen Fisher for generously taking the time to share your research and insight on relationship dynamics, chemistry, and money. To Dr. Harvey B. Bezahler, my first therapist, for teaching me and guiding me to where I am today. You have been, and will always be, an instrumental force and a guiding light in my professional and personal success. To Dr. Harville Hendrix, for your courage in paving the way for Imago and for your inspiration and teaching; and to Dr. Thomas Fogarty, my mentor, who taught me everything I know and worked with my family, my husband, and me on Financial Fidelity and Fidelity.