CHAPTER TWO

YELLOW BELT

“YELLOW IS THE SYMBOL OF THE FIRST RAYS OF THE SUN SHINING ON THE SEED. YELLOW CAN ALSO SYMBOLIZE THE EARTH, IN WHICH THE SEED SENDS ITS ROOTS FOR NOURISHMENT. A STUDENT EARNS A YELLOW SASH BY ALLOWING HIS MIND TO BE OPENED TO THE KNOWLEDGE OF HIS INSTRUCTORS.”

~GWEN BRUNO, LIVESTRONG.COM

Sarcasm is a big part of my life; it was for many years a main line of defense against people who might hurt me. I’ve managed it over the years so that, for example, I try not to use it against my kids, but it still pops up from time to time if someone says something I consider particularly stupid.

One of the few times I was ever scolded—in my entire life, actually, because I was a rule-follower—was in karate one night when I was a lower belt and hadn’t yet quite learned all the rules. Or learned to control my sarcasm, for that matter. The instructor—a child, as far as I could tell, and probably eighteen years old to my thirty—was a stern, no-nonsense young man who seemed to enjoy his role as master over us a little too thoroughly. I quietly shared my suspicion with my warm-up partner, but not quietly enough; the instructor came over and said, “I don’t want to hear your voice again today.”

He didn’t hear it for weeks, if I recall correctly. But he remains in my memory as the first person brave enough to tell me to listen instead of talk.