How you feel about yourself

It is important for you to be able to understand your own feelings. There may be times when you feel guilty, low, harassed and frustrated. It is not easy to live with this secret, as many of you do. You need to try to put some strategies in place to help you through these times. Using some simple steps to try to alleviate any feelings of frustration may help to reduce these feelings.

Some basic steps can include things as simple as taking some exercise. Going out for a walk and changing your environment, listening to music, watching a good film or positive affirmations can all be really helpful in retraining your brain to think in a more positive way and can work wonders at lifting your spirits. It almost sounds too obvious, but all these things can help.

Friends are really important. Being able to share your problems can help you to gain a different perspective on your frustrations, especially if they share this experience with you. They may be able to tell you how they handled a similar situation. Remember the old saying of 'a problem shared is a problem halved'. Also, being with someone helps to get rid of feelings of isolation. You do not have to talk about your problems if you don't want to, but at least you can have time off from your head and those unhelpful thoughts that are whizzing around in there.

Talking things through with a partner may help. You should always feel proud of who you are and enjoy yourself, have fun flirting and enjoy those blonde moments, but try not to hide behind them.