It had happened earlier that year, on a Sunday in July – the fourteenth, which I remember because, one, that’s Bastille Day, and two, it was three days after my seventeenth birthday. It’s amazing how your emotions can swing so violently in just seventy-two hours: perfect happiness to the depths of misery.
For once we’d been having a half-decent summer, warm and dry most days. The little rain which fell was light, almost pleasurable on your face. And the day of the carnival incident was a scorcher, as though part of the Mediterranean had relocated to our small town on the Irish west coast.
The carnival. Those two words still have the power to send chills up my spine. No, that’s not it: they make me feel sick in my stomach. Make me want to throw up.
They’d arrived in town midweek, a small outfit run by semi-dodgy geezers but they seemed all right. You probably wouldn’t trust them with the keys to your house, but the rides were safe and the games weren’t rigged too much. They travelled around the country all summer, pitching up for a few days in towns along the way. Dodgems, roulette wheel, ring-tossing, the usual.
Barney McFarney’s Big Bumper Funfair: the name I’d remember till the day I died. Which, all going to plan, wouldn’t be too long coming.
I don’t know if Barney McFarney was his real name or something cutesy they dreamed up to sell the carnival. What I know is that he had a son called Francis: about eighteen, handsome, with shining-brown eyes and dark skin. All the girls thought he was gorgeous. I heard one say he was like how she imagined Heathcliff from Wuthering Heights. His personality was that mix of edginess and little-boy-lost sensitivity that drives teenage girls nuts. Looking back, I’m not surprised Caitlin fell for him. If I were her, I probably would’ve done the same. But that didn’t make it hurt any less.
We’d been going together for five months. She first kissed me at the Valentine’s disco, out of nowhere; I was so surprised and delighted, I had a big dumb smile on my face for a week. Caitlin Downes actually fancied me. I couldn’t believe it.
I wasn’t the ugliest troll in the world, but I wasn’t quite in her league either. I was a nerd, one of those quiet guys you’re unaware of until one day you realise they’ve sat next to you for two years and you barely know their name. I was only noticed when someone noticed they never noticed me. I’d kissed a few people but never had a serious girlfriend.
Caitlin was a babe. Auburn hair, fierce green eyes, ski-slope nose. Great legs. So much of a babe, in fact, that other kids couldn’t believe she was really going with a geek like me when they heard about it. I fell for her, hard and fast. I thought she felt the same. Turns out I was wrong.
We’d got serious quickly, spending a lot of time together. We talked about all sorts of things – Caitlin opened up to me in a way I imagined she didn’t, or couldn’t, with her friends. She mostly hung out with a group of catty, nasty assholes. We made plans – not long-term but that summer, or next year. We wondered if we should go to the same city for college, or would a long-distance relationship be doable. We shifted all the time, whenever we could.
We even came close to doing it, once or twice. I wanted to, I think she did too, but we were young and immature; whatever else happened, I’m glad we didn’t. That would have made what followed even harder to bear: deeper intimacy making for greater betrayal.
That awful day, Black Sunday as I think of it, Caitlin cheated on me with the boy from the carnival. Francis, with his bloody Heathcliff face and wounded rebel image. She shifted him in a meadow outside town, as the afternoon sun beat down mercilessly. Meanwhile stupid, innocent me was at a match with my father.
I hadn’t wanted to go but he insisted – he thought we should spend more time together, so fine. We drove to the city and stood on the terrace, getting fried in the heat, crushed by the crowds. Then we returned home and Podsy was waiting for me at the front gate. He looked nervous but willing to say what he had to anyway, which I’ll forever be thankful for. Podsy’s always been a good friend.
‘Aidan,’ he said, gulping, waiting until my father passed on inside. ‘I heard something about Caitlin.’
‘What? Is she all right?’
‘Uh … she is, yeah.’
Meaning, but you might not be when you find out what happened.
I still hadn’t clicked anything was wrong. I frowned at him. ‘Well, come on. Let’s hear it.’
‘She got off with yer man from the carnival. The son. You know the guy, kinda greasy-looking. Everyone’s saying it. I wish I wasn’t telling you this, but you’ve a right to know.’
Straight away, I knew it was true. I didn’t bother asking questions or trying to convince myself Podsy was wrong – I knew. In my guts, in the very heart of me.
I think I actually went into shock then. The violent shock of it, like a cut that came so fast I almost forgot to bleed. But I felt the cut. Felt the pain. Like someone had driven their hand through my breastplate and torn my insides to shreds.
I fought the urge to vomit as my head started lifting off my body and rising slowly into the air. I was gone, floating away, headed for space. Only me and that cold moon, out there in the darkness.
I think I said thanks to Podsy. Then I stumbled inside, lay on my bed and cried until dawn broke, and for a long time after that.
Incredibly, things got worse from there.
For the first few weeks after Black Sunday, I had to listen to all sorts of sleazy rumours: they’d had sex, she was pregnant with his child, she’d done it with his friends, he’d paid her, he hadn’t paid her and she only did it because she’d do it with anyone – anyone except me, clearly.
I put up with veiled jibes and sideways smirks, skin prickling in shame and self-consciousness. I knew everyone was laughing at me, and the fact they were laughing at Caitlin as well didn’t console me. I didn’t want them laughing at anybody, I wanted things back the way they were.
I’d see that goddamn carnival out the window of my room until they shoved off a few days later. I even had to go there one evening with my kid sister Sheila, because my parents were too busy but she’d been promised. I managed to avoid eye contact with Francis/Heathcliff all night but it was horrendous.
I tried to pretend this wasn’t happening as I struggled to make sense of it, to deal with it.
She didn’t apologise. That was one of the hardest things to suck up. Caitlin basically ignored me from then on. I’ll be kind and assume she was too embarrassed to speak with me, to explain or say sorry (if she felt sorry, I don’t know). Certainly, it would have been excruciating for both of us. Whatever the reason, we haven’t exchanged one word since.
She refused to take my calls, didn’t reply to texts or emails; she’d literally turn and walk in the other direction if she saw me coming. After a while, I stopped trying and gave up on her and me.
But even that wasn’t the worst part.
For some mysterious reason me, not Caitlin, became the target of mockery. She got a few good-natured slags from her pals, but they were good-natured; no intent to hurt. I got the impression one or two were even jealous that she’d bagged Francis.
From early August, though, he was forgotten, by her and everyone else it seemed; unfortunately, I wasn’t. By the end of that month she was going with someone else – Caitlin moved on while I was trapped in a vicious circle created by someone else’s deeds.
A relentless barrage of ridicule and abuse started rolling over me about a fortnight after it happened, and didn’t stop. I was openly jeered in the street, the shops, the community centre. Both girls and boys would shout things to me, vulgar jokes, absurd accusations.
I was a faggot, a retard, a wimpy girl in disguise. I’d told Caitlin to shift the guy so I could watch or take photos; I was a perv and voyeur. The fact that she’d cheated with a carnie made it worse, bringing out people’s snobbishness as well as their vindictiveness. ‘Even a knacker is better than you!’ I heard that more than once.
I had notes pushed through the letter box – shit that my mother saw, which really killed me. I got sent hateful emails. A Facebook page was set up called ‘Aidan Flood is a dickless loooooser’, although it was taken down quickly; someone’s parents must have seen and complained. I even had a rock thrown through my bedroom window one night, with a blurry photograph of Caitlin smiling across at Francis wrapped around it.
To this day I don’t know how or why it went like this. Why the hell was I getting all the grief? I’d done nothing wrong. Not that I wanted Caitlin derided or scorned either; I hated all that ‘she’s a slut’ junk. I didn’t want anything to happen to her, only that she’d get back with me and try to move on from it. At that point, I was still willing to try. To forgive, I think, if she’d given me the chance.
For whatever reason, the hive mind decided to pick on me, and like I say, I can’t explain it. Maybe it was collective revenge for my cheek in going with a girl like Caitlin in the first place. Maybe it was the orchestrated masterplan of some unknown weirdo who bore a grudge. Maybe it was conscious, maybe not.
Maybe it was simply my turn. Or blind chance.
The funny thing is, I hadn’t been bullied particularly up till then. Yes, I was a nerd, but so were lots of kids. Since childhood I’d been more or less left alone. I got the odd belt on the playground and was slagged from time to time for being poor or skinny or whatever, but nothing serious.
Now, though, it was serious. It was unrelenting, and soon escalated into physical attacks.
John Rattigan was the ringleader, unsurprisingly. He was a violent animal anyway, and probably held no more ill will towards me than any other victim – Rattigan wasn’t choosy about who he bullied. But that didn’t stop him decking me at least once a week, and others followed.
I had my head scraped along a wall and forced down into a urinal. My schoolbag and books were destroyed several times. I was punched, kicked, had half my hair sheared off. I lost three teeth from three separate blows, one with the top end of a hurley. I couldn’t see properly out of my eye for a week after someone threw chemical powder in it, something stolen from the school lab.
On it went. Mostly verbal bullying, sometimes physical. The physical assaults hurt, but the other stuff really tore me apart. I felt so foolish and humiliated all the time, my self-esteem gone through the floor, my existence starting to seem pointless.
I didn’t fight back. Even if I was naturally brave, which I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have retaliated. I couldn’t. It was too much, almost overwhelming. Like trying to stop the Atlantic tide.
Not every kid was involved but lots were, if not most. Christ, even the ones who got bullied themselves found a target in me. I really was at the bottom of the food chain. Almost everyone turned on me and rejected me, except Podsy. He proudly, publicly, remained my friend. He got picked on too for that, but Podsy stood tough, he stayed true to himself.
In fairness, Tommy Fox wasn’t really a part of it either, nor was Sláine McAuley. She’d left school by then anyway, but even before she always seemed somehow distant from other students in school, more mature; she hadn’t much to do with them. Sláine kept to herself.
Caitlin didn’t try to stop the bullying, but to her credit, didn’t join in either. That was something, a small something. It wasn’t her fault really; she’d caused it but she wasn’t behind it, as such …
Still. It was as if, when she shifted that boy, she suddenly realised just how out of her league I was, and actually, yeah, her friends had been right when they asked what the hell she was doing with a yoke like me. She couldn’t get shot of me quickly enough.
I didn’t bother telling my parents about any of this. I didn’t want them to worry. Besides, part of me, a little wormy voice in my inner ear, insisted I was getting what I deserved anyway. Why else would it be happening? Because I was a worthless speck of dirt, and that’s what they got: a fist in the mouth or a head full of disdain.
So how’s that for a double whammy: I had my heart broken and was turned into the biggest asshole on the planet, all in one wonderful summer. The teen movie from hell, and I was stuck in the starring role.
Finally, by some point in September, I’d had enough – and wanted it all to end.