DAY 2: QUICKIE TUESDAY
Sex Your Brain

How many times have you read and heard that “sex begins in the brain”? Truly, it does. The brain processes auditory, visual, touch, taste, and scent messages—messages that also trigger sex memories—and mixes up the cocktail of hormones that dilate your pupils, increase your heartbeat and breathing rates, lubricate her vagina, and stiffen his penis. Couples who have been together more than a few years discover that the cocktail doesn’t have the same immediate intense impact. But the good news is you can sex your brain by creating rushes of adrenaline and by other means. You have to work that cocktail—especially for a quickie.

Here are some ways of tricking the brain into thinking sex:

Exercise. Can you fit in a lunchtime walk or post-work stop at the gym?

Get scared. Some people are danger junkies because they are addicted to the adrenaline rush. It feels like sex. No time for a rock climb before that quickie? Watch the really scary parts of a scary movie together.

Learn something new. Whether it’s the challenge of learning a new job or an online class about writing your memoir, learning excites the brain. Use that excitement as your shuttle bus to sexual desire.

Play “truth or dare.” Challenge one another to expose a new layer. Take an unprecedented chance. You don’t know everything about each other, you just think you do.

Fall back on the tried-and-true sex tricks. She spends a few minutes alone in the bathroom with her vibrator. He watches some highlights on YouPorn. (Or he strokes himself in the bathroom while she watches the porn.)

Sex that brain—and you’ll shake up the cocktail you both need for a good quickie experience.

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