DAY 97: SEX ED SATURDAYChinese Sex #2: Restrained Exploration
DAY 97: SEX ED SATURDAYThirty-five hundred years before the sexual revolution of the 1960s and ‘70s, the Chinese were liberated. They had a very sophisticated sexual philosophy that valued skill and exploration within the spiritual structure of Taoism. A religious and philosophical movement, Taoism was more enlightened than the Paganism practiced by western Europeans at the time.
According to Taoist belief, everything in life has an equal and opposite reaction. Balance is prized, especially in the yang, male energy, and the yin, female energy. You don’t have to become a Taoist to find elements in the belief system that will enrich your sex life.
The components of this balanced approach to sexual exploration are:
Visual sexual materials are not pornographic. They are both arousing and educational, part of foreplay and private study. Build your own collection of erotica, books, art, and quality DVDs that are arousing and aesthetically pleasing.
Although the intercourse positions are not as contorted as Kama Sutra poses, they are athletic. Work out or take a yoga class together to stay in shape for great sex, while getting in touch with your own body. The positions can also be adapted for twenty-first-century lovers.
The Taoist soul is poetic. Sexual positions are elegant in their athleticism, expressive of ecstasy. Keep a book of erotic poems on your night table and read them aloud to one another occasionally.
The belief that sex is essential to the well-being of body, mind, and soul is the cornerstone of Taoism. Modern research supports that conclusion. Regular satisfying sex has many health benefits.
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