DAY 139: SEX ED SATURDAYThe Desire Curve
DAY 139: SEX ED SATURDAYSexperts who promise you hot monogamy forever—or 24-hour orgasms—aren’t being straight with you. Throw those books away. Understand the Desire Curve.
Created by therapist/coach and neuroscience researcher Nan Wise, the Desire Curve explains how and why our passionate desire for our lovers peaks and declines in eighteen months to three years. You have fallen off the high point of the curve, New Relationship Euphoria, because you have habituated to the lust drug cocktails created in your fevered brains.
From Nan, a few ways to trick the brain and make old sex feel new again:
• For God’s sake, do something interesting/exciting/scary—both together and separately. Take a risk.
• Get kinky.
• Go back to college. Study a martial art. Do something to get your brains excited again.
• Switch your usual lovemaking steps and change the basic sex setup.
• Don’t follow through to orgasm every time. “Sex” can be foreplay that gets you hot and bothered the next day, thinking about finishing it.
• “Give” your lover a sexual experience even if you aren’t feeling much desire. This is a good time to perfect your erotic skills.
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