DAY 277: BIG O THURSDAYThe Sleep Orgasm
DAY 277: BIG O THURSDAYSleep orgasms are not for men only. Women have our own version of the “wet dream.” Dr. Alfred Kinsey reported back in 1953 that 40 percent of women would experience at least one sleep orgasm before they turned forty. A casual comment, a line from an email, or an image—maybe graphic, maybe not—all drift into the sex brain, where they get caught up in pulsating waves of desire. Before you realize what’s happening, your restless tossing and turning has rubbed your clit the right way.
There is no way to make sleep orgasms happen, but you can be open to the possibility: encourage sexy thoughts or play with your clit before falling asleep.
It happened to me again a few nights ago. I woke to an orgasm and the fantasy of an encounter with a man dominating me in bed. He was familiar, yet not. A woman is never so submissive as when she offers her ass to a man, and that vulnerable state is even more thrilling if he is neither stranger nor lover. Thrusting his dick rhythmically into my anus, he occasionally slapped each cheek. The sound of smacks on sweating flesh echoed in my head. I closed my eyes and felt his hot breath behind me. Here’s the thing about anal sex: if you’re into it at the moment, it hurts so good. (The porn films never get it right.) And I was into it. I played with my clit as he rammed in and out of me, and I came.
He withdrew, turned me over, pulled off the condom, and tossed it. I thought he was going to fuck me, but he picked up his belt from the floor and ordered, “Spread your legs open wide.”
Legs widespread, hand in pussy, I moved my hips up toward him as he lightly hit my inner thighs with his belt. I was straining to come, gasping and pulling deep inside for an orgasm that made me work for it. He put down the belt, entered me, fucked me hard and fast, and I came and came. His face close to mine still wasn’t quite clear. I fell back asleep with my hand in my pussy. In the morning, I thought: I need to call him.
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