Parents divorce each other, not their children. Many kids experience divorce, whether it is in their own families or the family of a friend. Even as an adult, if your parents suddenly tell you that they have chosen to get a divorce, it can be shocking. Lots of painful emotions can charge through you—anger, hurt, guilt, sadness, the feeling of loss. The most important thing to remember is that you aren’t to blame for the breakup of your parents’ marriage, whether you are six or sixty-six. When parents divorce, we realize that what we lived with as a “unit” all our lives has now changed and we must reevaluate our perception of ourselves and how we relate to our family members. How you react to this change in family dynamics depends largely on how your parents behave. The first year is usually pretty hard, but after that tensions seem to lift as you all become more accustomed to the new living arrangements. Many times kids feel like they are betraying their parents if they listen to mom or dad’s complaints. You’re not. Sometimes, talking to a friend who has gone through the same experience can be really helpful. Find an adult you trust in your extended family, maybe a coach or a favorite teacher, who will listen to how you feel—someone who will respect your privacy. Keeping your emotional pain bottled up inside isn’t good for you, and it’s okay to share to help you work through this change in your life and how you feel about it.
Spirit always listens in times of trouble, and your choice of religion can also be a means of emotional support. While the divorce action is proceeding, cleanse the house with the four elements at least once a week (if you can). If you can’t, at least take care of your own room in this manner. Burn blue and orange candles when you are feeling emotionally low.
Hex sign to bring harmony into your life.
Hex Sign for Overcoming
the Pain of Divorce
With a compass and ruler, draw the hex sign below to bring harmony into your life during the difficult proceedings. Use only blue and orange colors to fill in the drawing. The hex sign won’t make your parents get back together, but it will help to relieve the stress you are feeling. The rosette design (six petals) is found all over the world, from Athens, Greece, to Pennsylvania. This single rosette is called a blummesterne (“flower-stars”) by the Pennsylvania Germans. Three petals represent the female trinity (Maiden, Mother, and Crone) and the male trinity (Father, Son, and Sage). The rosette also looks like a fully opened tulip. These flowers were considered symbols of the Witch’s cauldron. In fact, many Pennsylvania Germans called the rosette the hexefus, meaning “Witch’s foot” or “Witch’s cauldron.”7 Each day, as you gaze at the center of the flower, imagine that you are looking into a Witch’s cauldron of transformation. The hearts are love rising from your drawing to you. The diamond shapes represent the assistance from the four elements and protection.
Once you have finished the drawing, pass the picture through your favorite incense to cleanse, then write all family member’s names on the back. Hold your hands over the design and think of peace, love, protection, and harmony. Tap the drawing with your finger five times, once for each element (earth, air, water, fire, and Spirit). Hang where you can see the drawing every day.