Sometimes I Forget

Sometimes I forget I was born to an actual mother

with wide arms and a smile.

Sometimes I feel so grimy

I can’t believe anyone ever longed for me enough

to tear herself open

to give me breath.

Sometimes I think all I am is how he made me

feel:

sunken,

small,

better off

gone.

Sometimes Kelly-Anne told me I wasn’t to blame.

She said, Shit happens, Allie,

but not much else

because we didn’t talk about Mum in my house,

as though exposing the past

could make stuff

worse than it was.

We nudged the truth out of the way with our elbows

and waded through heavy silence.

Until the noise came.

Which it always did.

A tornado of anger and insults,

a one-man performance that left me in turtlenecks

for a week.

Sometimes I forget I was born to an actual mother

who loved me enough to knit a jumper

the colour of Lucozade,

arms like baby carrots.

But she left too soon and never finished it.

She left as soon as I arrived.

She left because I arrived.