Where’s the Remote?

When Dad asked a question like,

Where’s the remote?

what he meant was:

Find the remote.

Or when he said,

What’s for dinner?

what he meant was:

I am hungry. Feed me.

Dad’s questions were never queries –

they were demands

and judgements,

weapons to make me nervous.

Dad’s problems were mine.

His discontent

something I did my best

to fix.