7. I like my bars low, where I can see them—and clear them. Strangely enough, I was also the queen of the limbo—the only time it is OK for your friends to chant, “How low can you go?” I actually have two pictures of me mid-limbo: one from my birthday party circa 1970, and the other from my honeymoon, with me wearing a red bikini on a pirate ship in Antigua.* The limbo is not easy—it takes flexibility, concentration, and strategy, all good skills for excelling in life.
I like my bar in view instead of in the constellations. I like to see where I’m headed, so I can plan my attack and make my move.
So decide where you like your bar. I totally appreciate how a high bar is motivational for some people, but I like the momentum of making progress. Set your own bar, a bar you can reach. Then another. And another. And guess what we just made? A ladder.
Now, you can go as high as YOU want.
* DO NOT allow anyone to take photos of you doing the limbo. Especially if you are good at it.